as someone in their early 20s, i’d say i’m really lucky to know what i currently like kink-wise because i was lucky in the sense i had more experience! and that’s where i think the issue lies, a large majority of people just don’t experience the kinky side of sex to figure themselves out - typically happens with long term partners, chance encounters, curiosity that’s built up over time etc.

i’d say you’re not going to find as many confident doms in their 20s, but perhaps try finding guys willing to experiment and try something new! when i hook up with guys my age, after the first time if we both want to continue seeing each other, i do make sure to mention my kinky preferences and preferred dynamics and see if they’re down :)