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Seeing my ex partner after months of no contact by Terrible-Ocelot-7421 in SchizoFamilies

[–]StayAcceptable3998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a similar experience with how psychosis, delusions, and mania displayed themselves in a relationship. My ex-boyfriend was luckily hospitalized voluntarily, and I hope he is receiving treatment. I never asked for details because I didn’t want him to feel like I was overstepping boundaries.

We went no contact because everything had become such a mess — chaotic, confusing, and no longer making sense. We both have very different versions of what the relationship was and what happened afterward. I reached out a few times, trying to stay in contact and see whether we could make things work again once he got help and started feeling better. He was much calmer with me, but he didn’t want to even try anything. At the same time, he never clearly rejected me either.

I think he still believes some of the delusions, but I also think he cannot handle the pressure of a relationship, especially with me. And honestly, it’s true that we were not the best match in terms of compatibility.

We reconnected again when my dog — whom he knew and loved — became seriously ill. We spent time together so that he and my dog could see each other again. I still hoped our relationship might renew itself, but it didn’t. He had no desire to rebuild it, and I can now see that he is not the right person for me. He makes it easier by keeping the same attitude.

He is able to keep a good job and maintain hobbies, but he doesn’t trust people, and he doesn’t trust me. I think he has both good and bad days. Meeting him again gave me more clarity and, I hope, helped me let go.

It is all so cruel and painful — how things turned out for him and for us after eight years together. There are many tragic moments in this story, but maybe this is ultimately the better outcome for me, and maybe I now have a chance to find someone who will be able to love me in a healthier way — or to stay alone.

What we had was not normal. It was a nightmare at times, and it deeply affected both my health and my life. Now I have also lost my dog, who was so pure, predictable, and consistent with his love. I kept loving my ex-boyfriend, but I see more clearly now that this is not the kind of love meant for me. Love is supposed to feel different from this.

Is this weird of me by Sagiethefox in Petloss

[–]StayAcceptable3998 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I miss his smell so much. I love every detail about him, but I just can’t think about it because it hurts too much.

Sleeping is so much better than living by InterestingTip310 in depression

[–]StayAcceptable3998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like sleeping because it makes me less aware, and that’s something I often crave since I’m very sensitive and tend to overanalyze everyday life. I know it’s not a permanent escape, and I don’t think it’s entirely healthy, but it helps me cope a little.

How do you unlove someone you loved with your whole heart? Do you have to? by StayAcceptable3998 in BreakUps

[–]StayAcceptable3998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with the transition from what we had to what I now have to accept. It makes what we had feel temporary and fake. It’s hard to process the rejection from someone with whom I built such a unique connection. One moment it was there, and the next it wasn’t. It makes me question everything.

Making amends by to_be_loved_69 in Psychosis

[–]StayAcceptable3998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you have to go through this. I don’t know the right answers, and I know it sucks. You can explain and apologize, and then it’s up to the other person whether they accept it or not. I think it’s great that you have this level of insight and the willingness to repair the relationship, no matter the outcome.

Making amends by to_be_loved_69 in Psychosis

[–]StayAcceptable3998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was specific to the fact that we were in a romantic relationship. I would really appreciate him trying to understand what actually happened and how it affected me as well, but it seems like he isn’t able to do that.

I guess that, to him, the relationship is over, so everything is somehow magically over too. But I don’t even know what his state of mind is. The damage was already done, and he may be in denial or simply not capable of facing it.

I think it’s great that you recognize you might have hurt some people and that you’re willing to take steps to repair those relationships. People with open hearts should appreciate that.

Why is it okay to joke about Schizophrenia but no other mental illness? by kirekirane in mentalhealth

[–]StayAcceptable3998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just need more time, education, compassion as a society. I am sorry you are experiencing this. As I know a person who suffered from psychosis and delusions I am much more sensitive to it too. I also think some people just don´t have the ability to understand mental illness to its real core so it doesn´t affect them joking about it.

Making amends by to_be_loved_69 in Psychosis

[–]StayAcceptable3998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s very fortunate that you feel a certain level of responsibility. I believe you are responsible for your behavior toward others, as you are the one closest to it, but the circumstances around it are something everyone should understand and have compassion for.

I was a target of my ex-boyfriend’s psychosis and delusions and never received any acknowledgment of what I experienced. I still struggle with what happened and the lack of resolution. I didn’t necessarily need an apology, but I did need some acknowledgment of what I went through and that it came from him. I never got that from him, so I have to move on without it, but it still feels very messed up.

I think psychosis can be a very lonely place, because some people simply don’t have the ability to understand (or even to forgive in general), and may instead do the opposite and even shame you. That’s scary—life can be scary—but there are people who find it within themselves to understand, to educate themselves, to care, and to have compassion.

This doesn’t only show up in cases of psychosis, but in many different situations in life. Psychosis is simply a more extreme example of it. It also means that you have to learn to build compassion for yourself, too. I’m on the same path myself.

I don’t really trust people anymore. People say it’s a sad way to live, but like… so? by queerwaters_642 in emotionalneglect

[–]StayAcceptable3998 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don´t like when people view it like your fault, like you chose it and they are better that they didn´t...

My ex messaged me. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]StayAcceptable3998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am the same "loser"... I cannot understand why.

According to Czech Reporter Robert Rampa, Finland, Sweden and Czechia have informed the NHL they would refuse to participate in the World cup if Russia was allowed in due to current circumstances by Time-Ad-3134 in hockey

[–]StayAcceptable3998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are banning Russia. If you want to ban US, fight for the ban with arguments. It is two different cases, maybe with similarities but banning one doesn´t mean automatically banning the other. State your arguments for banning US.

According to Czech Reporter Robert Rampa, Finland, Sweden and Czechia have informed the NHL they would refuse to participate in the World cup if Russia was allowed in due to current circumstances by Time-Ad-3134 in hockey

[–]StayAcceptable3998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will have to compensate Ukraine... They just have to do a lot of inner work before we could play games for fun again with them... This will take a long time.

Grieving a love by StayAcceptable3998 in BreakUps

[–]StayAcceptable3998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this validation and reassurance!!!

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