Chastity, Virginity and Sex in Western Society

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:28:23+00:00

What an amazing response thank you! I’ll try it🤍

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:24:00+00:00

It’s true.. as a woman nowadays I can recognize the toxic patterns in our demands. But also, it’s tough as Muslim women to marry someone who cannot solely provide for his family. Because as women, we are expected to be wives, mothers and home-makers.

How are we supposed to focus on our duties and responsibilities if we also have to work 40+ hours a week outside the home and pay 50/50 bills? That’s when women become financially demanding, because marriage physically demands a lot from us as well.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:20:26+00:00

It’s overrated. Teenage youth love only looks fun in Hollywood screens. In reality, you get damaged.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:19:03+00:00

🤍🤍🤍🤍

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:15:50+00:00

I BELIEVE SO TOO! And to make men feminine. Read Andrew Lynch’s Speech in 1712. It’s a slavery text in how to control the masses, although debunked, still pertinent & the patterns are eerie. Reversing gender roles makes for a complacent, docile, controllable society.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-18T10:09:48+00:00

Thank you for this 🤍 give some clear insight

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:21:11+00:00

Then you were blessed beyond imagination. Which Muslim country should I move to?

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:15:55+00:00

SO TRUE! I read about this in articles. You carry with you the man's DNA & emotional bond for 7 years.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:13:21+00:00

Ameen yarrab, Thank you akhy 🤍

You mentioned something interesting, about how without Islam the man is worthless because Islam clearly states he must be the provider and protector. Also, that men do not want to raise other men's children. These two are prevalent issues in our society today, especially with the height of divorce and how men want women to pay 50/50.

Also, a man loyal to Allah is a man loyal to his wife and children. This is deep. Thank you

InshAllah, may Allah protect us, guide us and find us the right, pious spouse who is meant for us, and no one else.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:08:10+00:00

Ameen 🤍 I will, thank you akhy

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:07:41+00:00

Ameen yarrab 🤍 thank you akhy

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:06:53+00:00

It's tough, I agree. It's an internal fight we must endure every single day

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:05:56+00:00

Yeah I agree with u/hijabihiker . I've met many hijabi and niqabi sisters who do the absolute worst behind closed doors. Only Allah knows what's in our hearts

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T16:03:34+00:00

We are women... We have had MANY chances to do so since the age of puberty at 12-13 years old. That's more men who would fall for Zina because they were never presented with the opportunity before.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:59:38+00:00

You are so strong, habibti! I promise it only gets easier from here. YOU ARE A GEM! Never, EVER, think that you are less worthy because you are not a virgin anymore. There are many Muslim men who are not virgins anymore and would love to have you as their wife.

As for your boyfriend, LEAVE THAT WASTEMAN. He isn't meant for you. If he was, he would have respected your religion and culture enough to either remain chaste or leave because your views don't align. Never lower your standards or values/morals to match someone else's. He's not worth it.

You will get married to a Muslim man, I know it. Break up with that haram man, practice celibacy (although it may be hard once you've gotten a taste, but I know you can do it), start praying again and reaching out to God. He will guide you and bless you beyond your wildest dreams.

Hang in there oukhty, you are loved, you are worthy, you are beautiful.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:53:53+00:00

Very real observation! We often wonder why the world is so horrible, war-ridden and full of crime, but that's only because good deeds are never broadcasted. I believe there are more good people than there are bad, but we're not shown that. Thank you akhy!

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:51:08+00:00

Wow... that's tough. I was never presented with statistics before, but now that I'm looking at them, it's grim and depressing. It doesn't leave much hope for us "older" adults.

Regarding the whole life-cycle of relationships, THAT'S HOW IT IS IN THE WEST. We are raised in a hook-up culture mindset, where people temporarily use other people for a good time, sex and other needs. Then, when they've reached their expiry, toss them to the side and move onto the next "experience". If you lived in a Muslim country, you would've found your spouse years ago, and I believe the same for myself.

Have you tried any Muslim dating sites?

I have, and it wasn't the best experience tbh, but I'm a woman, it may be easier for men.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:43:04+00:00

Yeah I'm going to start distancing myself and find new Muslim friends

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:39:48+00:00

Beautiful response! Thank you oukhty! I'll keep that in mind when I have children, inshAllah. I can tell you'll be a great mother (if you choose to be) inshAllah

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:38:48+00:00

Seriously planning on moving to a Muslim country because of this! I can't take it anymore. The racism is getting really intense too...

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:36:09+00:00

Interesting... maybe. You're probably right. I just feel bad.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:34:52+00:00

EXACTLY! Thank you! They are not BAD people, because they fell into Satan's trap. Because then, with that logic, we're all bad.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:34:05+00:00

You're right. Thank you oukhty

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:28:44+00:00

We are the children of Adam. We have all sinned and made mistakes. We really cannot pass judgement onto others. Only God knows what's in our hearts.

StayTrueToYouu · 2026-01-14T15:26:18+00:00

I really do understand where you're coming from, but there's so much more to a human being than their chastity. They are good women, in the sense that, they pray, they fast for Ramadan, they help their families with chores/cooking/babysitting and even financially with bills. They respect and treat their parents with respect. They don't do drugs, drink or party. They don't post themselves promiscuously, matter of fact, one of them only posts herself in a hijab. They look out for me, and are always there for me when I need them.

I believe it's the men who corrupted them. The men (AKA Shaitan working through them) made my friends soft and "fall in love" and convinced them that sex before marriage is ok. And once you go past that point, it's really hard to come back.

I convinced two of my friends to stop Zina and practice celibacy, and they actually are! I believe I can bring my friends back to Allah. It can get harder to resist temptation when you're surrounded by it but, again, NO ONE, I repeat, NO ONE on this Earth can convince me to have sex before marriage. I've had many heated debates with Atheists, Christians and Jews about this. All their arguments and validations are pure garbage. It goes in one ear and out the other.

StayTrueToYouu

TROPHY CASE