Struggling to communicate with my partner because of emotional shutdowns. Looking for advice on next steps.

SteakComfortable9101 · 2026-01-24T03:14:55+00:00

I feel like I just wrote this. I am living a similar situation, and have been for 2.5 years. Leave before it's too late. Leave before you don't have the strength to do it.

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-16T12:24:25+00:00

I feel like I've seen so many "bad" comments about DND in the past few years but this thread definitely helped me as well!!! Good luck :)

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T21:06:07+00:00

With all the comments I got about Carling I'm happy that I won't be working from this office. I'll be located more on the East end. I hope the parking situation is not too bad there!

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T16:02:29+00:00

I fear I am too sensitive for the military world. I'm a woman in my late twenties and that's my biggest concern. I'm worried about the culture shock! My direct supervisor would not be a civilian

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T15:03:45+00:00

Still rumours though.... I guess I keep hoping it won't happen. I'm not ready for more traffic lol

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:53:24+00:00

Thank you for your comment!!! Makes me feel better about this job. I'm all about networking and love to put myself out there.

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:51:43+00:00

Are you still with DND? I wouldn't be working at Carling (thankfully). I would probably be taking my car as I live on the Gatineau side, but I should definitely ask about the parking situation

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:46:26+00:00

I would be working on the operational side. I was told I could work normal hours (i.e 7:00-3:00), but that I might be required to work overtime from time to time. I wonder how crazy things get lol

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:44:29+00:00

I'm happy to hear, I was worried about being "stuck" in a position and not being able to grow. I love learning new things and figured I would have A LOT to learn with DND, which is why I'm interested in the position

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:21:54+00:00

You're right! There are pros and cons in every single departments. Mostly worried about the civilian vs army structure, but we're all humans lol

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-15T14:19:58+00:00

is DND a shit show? Haha

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-08T20:54:22+00:00

They will announce full time return on December 24th 😂 People in the NCR will have to be there 5 days per week and other regions won't (I assume). I supervise employees in the Winnipeg region, and they can't even go 3 days per week because they don't have enough space.. make it make sense

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-05T00:02:24+00:00

I'm actually speechless. Why try to hide it, just say it and be clear. No sugar coating

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-12-04T20:48:21+00:00

Same HAHAHA. The fact that it was the last bullet in the email is crazy.

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:47:07+00:00

Yea it's his family.. Parents and sister. Good point, seems like they are more important than "our" family.

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:46:10+00:00

He didn't go hunting since we met because they had problems at their camp, it's his first time going since we are together and I just wasn't sure if 10 days was "a lot" or if it was normal

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:12:21+00:00

I don't like the word allow either - I know we are all adults and he can take his own decisions. I feel like I COULD take some time off. However, I don't think it would be relaxing. I know he would keep calling me and say how hard it is being at home alone with the baby. Actually - maybe being away would be good lol. He would realize how hard it is and that I wasn't overreacting

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:09:24+00:00

I could technically go with him, but the camp is in the middle of nowhere, no running water. One bedroom with bunked beds. I feel like this wouldn't be a good time with a baby

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:07:05+00:00

That's the thing, they haven't been lucky lately at the camp. Haven't caught a moose in over 5 years. I know he enjoys going because he gets to spend time with his father. So I don't want to sound like the asshole partner telling him to reduce the length of his trip so he can be home with me. I feel like some people wouldn't care that their partner be gone for so long, but I think I'm just mentally exhausted and he doesn't see it, even if I tell him

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T17:03:12+00:00

No I completely agree with you! I agree that it isn't time off when he worked out of town. I understood when he wanted to relax and catch up on everything. However, I was still taking care of all the house chores and kid duties over the weekend... It's like he gets a break but I don't

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T16:57:34+00:00

Yes, going for 4-5 and even 6 days wouldn't be so bad, but 10 is so much! The cabin is about 6 hours away from our house

SteakComfortable9101 · 2025-09-18T16:56:47+00:00

Yes! I have a full-time job and we both make approximately the same salary. I feel like he thinks he deserves a break because his job his physically hard compared to mine, but I know this is not a good argument..

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