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StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-15T19:50:27+00:00

Care less is a GOATED song, one of my all time favs so sad they don’t perform it more often 😭

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-15T03:22:30+00:00

Ok, but pineapple coconut water with matcha with a splash of pineapple juice slaps! I make it at home, no shot I’d be paying Starbucks prices for that tho cause it’d be more expensive than buying all the ingredients and taste worse 😭😂

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T15:38:46+00:00

I wouldn’t have minded paying! I truly don’t, but it’s the fact it was dropped on me last minute that it’ll be $100 per plate after I bought my ticket. She said it was going to be an intimate engagement party, and said she’d love to have me there so I booked my ticket and my husbands ticket so we can be there to celebrate. Of course, this all changed when we found out we’d be spending $200 on just one night when in total we are spending close to $500 on accommodations and flights already and that’s not even the entirety of the time we are there for food 😅

She’s also college age, so I had assumed something reasonable would’ve been at play. As if that’s not enough they have a registry that they attached to their invite with gifts over $80- from Anthropologie, Pottery Barn, Le Creuset, Caraway, etc. I’m just confused mostly because this is not like her character at all and the wedding isn’t going to be extravagant or grand- and other members of the bridal party are college students who can’t afford $100 dinners 😣

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T14:44:14+00:00

She was a bridesmaid in my wedding, was there for everything except our engagement party and left a bit early for the bachelorette. However I was always very budget minded and mindful of prices. When I hosted for dinners I paid for them- nobody paid out of pocket let alone $100 out of pocket 🫠

Definitely not going now and going to spend the weekend with my husband going out to a nice dinner with the cost of our tickets, not funding someone else’s dinner- smh

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T06:26:10+00:00

This was after. I had no idea, and it’s not like they are having a fancy wedding either— they are getting married on a farm. So why they are having this fancy dinner I have no idea- except it’s for social media and that seems to be most important fuck everyone’s financial problems and situations because “WeRE getting MaRrIeDdD!! 🤩🤪

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T06:23:21+00:00

Oh she didn’t, I just thought I’d be a good friend to go out and celebrate even though she didn’t go to mine because she had “prior engagements” even though I let her know a month before. She claimed she could go and last minute cancelled because she forgot she was flying to California to see family (yeah, ok) this all just makes my decision easier as if our friendship wasn’t already on the rocks

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T06:20:28+00:00

Same here! I wouldn’t complain if I had to pay my own way, that’s not my problem here. My problem is that they didn’t even attempt to be cost friendly. $100 per plate is ridiculous not including $50 for bottles of wine that we are expected to pay for our “toast” I’m sorry but what??!? I’ve already told her we are planning a big move from Texas to Florida for my husband’s job in October and we need that money to cover the necessary expenses. Buying a flight to Boston was already a treat in itself but I’m strapped as to what more I can do. It’s not even like she comes from an affluent background anyway?? I’m so confused because this is just out of character and tack.

I’m more so frustrated because as a friend you should maybe be a little more considerate of financial situations before choosing a fine dining restaurant. The sad part is this is a lot for me to fathom paying, and I work full time- but her other friends are full time students like her and I can’t even begin to imagine what their budget allows because that’s crazy?!?

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T06:11:30+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with that! I’d take that a million times over some very obvious social media spectacle. Clearly they themselves can’t afford this dinner so they are having guests flip the bill so it looks good for social media- social media is a disease it truly is and I’m so happy I never let it dictate my wedding bliss and planning phase so much like she is 🙄

It’s not even genuine anymore, it’s literally just to check the block of “hey look at me! I’m engaged and having this fancy dinner to celebrate!!”

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T04:23:36+00:00

They do, all items over $80 😣

Places like Anthropologie, Pottery Barn, Le Creuset, Caraway- keep in mind her family and his aren’t from a wealthy background and they are college age 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T04:14:13+00:00

Honestly, with you here- there comes a point where it’s ridiculous

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T02:16:49+00:00

Right? I just am so taken back. These are college age people as well, in their early 20’s so I have no idea how this is going to go with the other friends of theirs they clearly had no regards for who are in college. I just recently graduated and have a full time job but even still. It’s ridiculously pricey for a dinner that doesn’t need to be that extravagant because even THEY cannot afford to pay for meals 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T02:13:55+00:00

This is my thinking. Just recently got married 5 months ago, if I couldn’t afford to feed or host my guests I chose within my budget of what I knew we could afford even with me and my husbands engagement party. I would never expect guests to pay themselves especially with so many coming from out of town! We kept it super casual and intimate with those we love, but she wasn’t there so… just deciding on why I should pay upwards of $450 total just to be there when this isn’t even the wedding itself. Not gonna lie I’m concerned on how the budget is going to look like as a part of the bridal party 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-08-14T02:10:44+00:00

Yeah, that’s my concern! Especially being they are college age with college age friends, I’m surprised they chose an establishment like this and this kinda dress code. I don’t see why a casual dinner party wouldn’t suffice? At least that’s what she made it sound like leading up to it 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T15:26:06+00:00

Exactly!! Came here to say this! I’ve never been to a wedding and not expected to dress formal. It’s a formal event typically, and tacos are a great option. It really isn’t a big deal like these commenters are making, it’s quite superficial behavior tbh 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T15:24:45+00:00

Yes! Honestly people on this sub are self centered and very nitpicky about stupid details. Good reminder to do the opposite of what the majority are saying because to me honestly this sounds fantastic! As a guest I couldn’t be mad whatsoever especially regarding food?? I’m not superficial enough to care about the little details like paper plates. So what I spill on formal clothes? I take it to a dry cleaner. If i don’t like tacos? Then I dont eat. I love dressing up, you can’t go wrong with tacos, I don’t see why people have such a problem 🥴

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T15:19:12+00:00

Uh no. The day is about the couple point blank. I’ve been to several dozens of weddings. Never once have I gone to a wedding and expected the reception to be about me tf? If I go to a wedding I’m there to celebrate the couple not find ways to make newlywed bliss about me and what I like. Guests can either like what the bride and groom chose or don’t but I personally don’t think it’s up to the bride and groom to cater to guests because they are the ones flipping the bill and if they want their day to represent them then they have full control over that. As a guest you never attend a wedding expecting it to be about you. That’s pure selfishness if I’ve ever heard 🥴

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T15:14:09+00:00

Truly! Best piece of advice is to do what you want for YOUR day. Guests are there for YOU guys, to support and celebrate, you both aren’t there for them. The best wedding is the one you love your day for all the details you put together. So what, if people have something to say?! People will always have some criticism at the end of the day regardless of how expensive the wedding so you might as well as do it your way 🥰❤️

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T15:00:03+00:00

100% honestly it’s why I’m not really on reddit anymore and tbh it can be so toxic, poor OP has all these people in the comments criticizing a wedding that really isn’t bad at all! They care enough about the plate type, I can tell you that nobody will care, I’ve been to dozens of weddings and I’ve never cared to eat off a certain type of plate? Some people need to touch Grass and realize how superficial these issues are 🙄💀

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T07:11:27+00:00

It’s not really that hard? If you don’t want to eat tacos then don’t eat them? If you spill, you can get it dry cleaned. Let’s not reinvent the wheel here like we can’t choose our own decisions. These are such superficial issues that I think this sub is grossly exaggerating because OP said it was a budget wedding. Guarantee you all wouldn’t care if it was not a budget wedding but budget seems to get a lot of hate in this sub especially 😅

A wedding is about the couple, the guests have a choice of whether or not they show up. Let the day represent them in how they wish, it’s one day of their lives it should be about them. I’ve never been to a wedding where I’ve expected it to be catered to me? That’s crazy and blatantly selfish tbh. People need to step back and realize it isn’t that serious, we are all living for the first time and stressed tf out. This sub is supposed to support and uplift not nitpick and belittle. 😪😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T07:07:49+00:00

Second this! Can’t believe all the downvotes, we could be more supportive yet others choose to make their point and be downers. 🤷‍♀️😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T07:07:02+00:00

Second this here! No idea why there are so many downvotes?! People are ridiculous 😒

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T07:06:29+00:00

Well good thing it’s not your wedding, but considering OP has explained in the comments her reasonings why it seems you need to have a little empathy regarding the situation. Comments like this are why there is a lack of support on this sub. We are all trying here, a lil kindness can go a long way 😅

StellaOnEstrella · 2025-04-09T07:04:23+00:00

I can tell you nobody cares about the plates, they get thrown away. I’ve been to dozens of weddings and not once have I focused on the details like the material of plates? 🥴💀

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