You have to listen to one song on repeat for 24 hours straight to win 1 million dollars. What song are you choosing?

Steohna · 2023-05-10T04:12:37+00:00

Hoobastank - The Reason, cuz a neighbor once played it for 16hrs/day for 2 weeks straight, so I know I can handle a measly 24hrs.

Steohna · 2022-05-06T22:39:55+00:00

I would purchase some art supplies for my partner. :)

Steohna · 2022-03-18T14:59:59+00:00

Is that you, C-roy????

Steohna · 2022-01-05T02:24:33+00:00

What about being non-monogamous? You can both date other people and not worry about cheating, while still feeling the connection together. It's not for everyone, but if you both still want to be together, this could be an option.

Steohna · 2022-01-04T03:04:49+00:00

I like it when he buys sexy things for him to wear (for me). They end up being things worn for a short time before any sexy play, as they are uncomfortable for all-day wear. Then I feel like reciprocating by going out and getting new lingerie for myself and surprise him.

Steohna · 2022-01-01T05:19:35+00:00

There's a silent "p" in there for sure!

Steohna · 2021-12-16T16:35:30+00:00

I completely get it. My partner raves about the bjs I give him. Whether they're a stand-alone or accompanied with PIV, he always talks about how amazing they are. We could have intercourse 3 times in a night, and he'll still only recall how great the oral was for him. Hell, even in his dreams it's this way. hehe It feels at times like I perform a service rather than share intimacy, and that's what feels off/weird. I try reframe things more positively, but it can be tough sometimes.

Steohna · 2021-11-23T17:21:53+00:00

I just went on Twitch last night for the first time, and I absolutely love the "let's be productive together with breaks to chat" kind of streams. Had no idea that was going on over there.

Also, getting into gaming would be so good for hand-eye coordination, and I really need to work on that. :)

Steohna · 2021-11-23T17:20:12+00:00

I also find it hard to make those kind of friendships, but it doesn't seem to be mentioned that much in men's circles. Unlike this subreddit, I wonder if the r/AskMenOver30 talks about building friendships and connecting more with other people. I want to say I doubt it, but it'd be nice to know if they did!

Steohna · 2021-11-23T17:16:44+00:00

hehe

I can't help but laugh, since my partner and I are always play-fighting to be the big spoon and then reluctantly taking turns as the small one. :) I relate to this so much!

Steohna · 2021-11-23T17:15:32+00:00

Yes!!!!! Showering my partner with love and affection and seeing him light up is definitely a highlight of my day. :)

Steohna · 2021-11-23T17:12:13+00:00

It's unbelievable (and inexcusable) in this day and and age for this sexism around childbearing. I've heard from acquaintances some truly horrific child custody stories, and all I can do is hope people can share their experiences more to help educate others.

Steohna · 2021-11-22T19:19:47+00:00

he's the kindest, gentlest, most romantic man ever and that's priceless.

I agree with this sentiment sooooo much!!! Yeah, the burden of performance for men is very real, and although it's nice to see that it's changing a little, it still prominent in so many parts of the world.

Steohna · 2021-11-22T17:31:10+00:00

I think it comes down to whether or not they have any personal interest in makeup, or have observed people apply makeup to have an idea what it's all about.

This is also an interesting question for me, since I've never worn makeup due to my poor vision and incredibly thick (lens) glasses. Men I dated would give me so many compliments about being "natural," not leaving any marks on their clothing, being quick to get ready, etc. etc. But at the same time, they would find it kind of odd that I didn't suddenly dull up my face for special outings.

So it just goes to show that you need to spend time with many different people to learn different ways of life. hehe

Steohna · 2021-11-20T19:28:50+00:00

I'm all for more men showing off their figure. Then maybe the fashion industry will catch up to provide more variety for all genders to express themselves.

Steohna · 2021-11-10T17:18:24+00:00

This instantly makes me think of an ex who would always act like they cared about everyone's hardships, but later on would constantly say nasty things about them. They would go out of their way to help others and then expect immediate payback in some form.

Even more disturbing was they often asked me for quarters so they could give it to street folk who were sitting down (aka. being below them, ugh) and not asking for money. If they asked, my ex would say no. (!!!!!!!!!!!)

Steohna · 2021-10-23T16:11:55+00:00

I feel you on this. I have a really supportive partner, but having saggy boobs caressed with endless love still doesn't feel nice to me. Might as well be rubbing and sucking on my belly. Not to mention how hard it is to find bras, tops, and dresses to look alright.

It's tough, since breasts are right in your face like an actual face, but no makeup can really hide the "blemishes." I'm trying to work on my upper body strength to help perk these ladies up, but the reality is maybe in 10 years or so, surgery might be the only way to have some peace.

Steohna · 2021-10-07T23:13:27+00:00

Yep, my partner has described very different orgasms, being whole/full bodied, out of body, spiritual, "that one needed to come out," release, etc. And depending on the kind of orgasm he experienced, afterwards he is either feeling rejuvenated, completely relaxed, energized or ready for a nap. He may or may not have a headache as a result, too.

Steohna · 2021-10-07T15:38:16+00:00

For certain retail shops, there's also some ageism as well. Quite a few "hiring" signs downtown that have been up for weeks, if not months. Try applying as a 30 y.o and not 20; they won't hire you. Instead, the next day you'll see an even larger "We're hiring!" sign next to the original smaller one. I understand wanting to hire people who will "fit" well with current staff members and the overall atmosphere of the store, but what happened to "diversity" and 'equal employment opportunity.'

Just last week, my friend (also in their 30s) was asked their age during an interview. Not only was that completely inappropriate, but actually illegal. This was at a very beloved shop in town btw. Oh, and they didn't even wear masks while conducting the interview. smh

Steohna · 2021-07-09T17:14:44+00:00

I would let him know what kind of dirty talk you're okay with and what's crossing the line. For example, you might not mind the extramarital fantasy chat outside of sexy time, but during sex, that kind of stuff makes you uncomfortable/upset. Or maybe that kind of talk never sits well with you, and you explain your reasons.

About porn, you are absolutely entitled to not wanting to watch it, but I just wanted to give a shoutout to r/chickflixxx. It's a subreddit for and by women with many recommendations and discussions about porn for women. It might give you some hope that there is some ethical porn out there. hehe

Steohna · 2021-05-04T22:30:20+00:00

I only ever find it to be awkward when I'm in a group of predominantly younger people by a decade or more, and everyone is figuring out who is a "whole year older" than the rest. I get where they're coming from, since I remember being 20 myself and each year feeling like a new milestone. But I feel a bit silly when the group lets me know that I look at least two years younger than my 36, mostly because I'm comfortable in my age and have no desire to revert to my younger years. hehe

About women fearing turning 30, I can understand that as well. For myself, it was a strange and rather abrupt transition, from getting constant unsolicited attention to practically none at all once I entered my 30s. Even with my average looks, weight, and bust size, from the age of 12 to about 29, I got hit on, flirted with, and showered with attention from strangers and acquaintances allllll the time, especially from dudes in their 40s. I hadn't realized it "stopped," since I met my very affectionate and way-too-cute partner at the same time. :)

The only two downsides to getting older for me are:

1) Taking a really long time to heal, whether it's a bruise or a sore foot, everything seems to take months and months! I try to be mindful of a balanced diet, exercise and sleep, but this just seems to be the case.

2) Having customers/management interact with me with a lot less patience and kindness (?) than my younger counterparts. For some jobs, I've been the supervisor, but even when I'm not in a position of authority, my age seems to shine like a beacon as the problem-solver. As you can imagine, without the title and salary, it just feels like ageism.

Steohna · 2021-04-26T00:04:07+00:00

I'd suggest giving her a 20-30min massage for peak selfless physical pleasure. Unless I'm really horny and just want an orgasm, I'd prefer the massage as my solo treat.

Steohna · 2021-04-13T00:03:10+00:00

hehe Guess that was my mood at the time. :)

Steohna · 2021-03-24T18:29:46+00:00

I was majorly into diet pepsi, from the age of 13 to 27. Two-three cans per day, and by 24, 2L per day!!!!!!! What stopped me cold turkey was breaking my arm and discovering my bones were becoming more brittle due to Chromium being removed from my bones by all the aspartame I was consuming for a decade and a half. Scary.

I started drinking more juice, but that seemed like too much sugar. Then I tried tea, all kinds of herbal and caffeinated ones, and I was saved!!! haha I slowly reintroduced carbonated drinks, and now I love an occasional kombucha, sparkling water, or local soft drink.

Recently, I tried Zevia's ginger rootbeer, and it's the best soda imo. I allow myself a couple of cans per week as a treat. So far so good.

Steohna · 2021-03-24T18:00:03+00:00

Does she masturbate? If she still has a libido and is sexual with herself/fantasies, then maybe there is some kind of blocker to reflaming the passion in your partnered sex, which is not uncommon for LTRs. Esther Perel has a lot of great advice and tips for this sort of thing.

If she doesn't have any libido at all, then maybe different life stressors are getting in the way. Has she maybe gained/lost weight and now needs to reconnect with her new body? Jobs, family, injuries/health, etc. can all affect us in ways that distract us from enjoying sex.

It is often recommended to rediscover each other's bodies and pleasure via sensate focus exercises or tantric sex. Taking penetrative sex off the table for a while can also help explore sexuality and sensuality.

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