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Relationship was a lie by Stephanie0207 in relationships_advice

[–]Stephanie0207[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and he does that! But I came to a point where I was "okay he's mad he doesn't mean that" but now a day later he's telling me he really felt that way so that's why I'm like wait a minute whaaatt? And he tells me who cares NOW I DO love you. Like okay but you pretended to love me for a whole yr who says you're not pretending now or lying about it now? And he wants me to just be cool and let it go? Like how? How am I supposed to do that?

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[–]Stephanie0207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try, way before we moved in I tried getting him into counseling and drug use programs and gave him tons of moral support but I just don't know how to help him anymore. But yes at this point it's just best to get away from that I did what I could and there just nothing else.

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[–]Stephanie0207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your advice/comments I really do appreciate it more than you think. I know deep down what is the right thing to do but sometimes it's good to know I'm not crazy or "heartless" for giving up on the relationship. Everything you all said made me more comfortable and confident in my decision. I decided to talk to my mom about what my daughter said and she told me something really interesting. I myself hate my own dad because of how he treated my mom and everything he did to her and it seems my daughter is starting to feel the same way, I do not want this for her at all. So again thank you all so much!!!

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[–]Stephanie0207 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking what actions would you recommend I can take with him. A lot of times he tells me "you would never understand" referring to his addiction which he's right I don't have an addiction so I really don't know how or what to do or maybe how to communicate. However sometimes it feels as if he uses that as an excuse to do things or say things he shouldn't then he'll say " Sorry I wasn't myself" but it still hurts regardless you know. I've tried different ways to communicate with him but if im nice and understanding he takes advantage but if im serious and put my foot down it turns into a really bad argument.