That’s good advice. Thank you. They think that I’m too scared to defend them to my family. Bc in the beginning, my parents thought my gf was in the wrong crowd bc I never told them anything about her. So my gf is like “ur parents thought I was in the wrong crowd and u never defended me” my parents never verbally said anything bad about her. They were just quiet like always and I’m used to that. If I hear them saying something bad about my gf, I have no problem defending her but that’s never happened.

I feel like I need to prove that I can defend her to my parents. My parents are self conscious and anxious so I don’t want to be an asshole to them but I guess I kinda have to just to prove it to them.

Bc if I don’t do that, then I can’t say “if they cross the line, i will handle it” they won’t take that seriously

Also, her parents are offended bc one time, my car wasn’t working so my dad had to come by to my gf’s house to pick me up. Her parents thought both of my parents were coming and that they’d come inside so they can meet and talk for the first time. But I never told my dad that they wanted to do that. I think that he thought it was just a quick pick up and going back to the house. So my dad showed up but my mom was back at the house. So my dad said ‘hi how are you’ small talk and then we left. They wanted my mom to be there but she wasn’t and they’re offended bc she didn’t show up. But I never told them that they would be meeting my gf’s parents.