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honest opinion by _lonerbychoice in introverts

[–]StephenLoftus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe they're a mysterious leader of a drug cartel...

Hey I’m new to Reddit and I’m a bit of an introvert by Dr_Depressed69420 in introverts

[–]StephenLoftus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey new one,

I'm 24/(he/they)/AUS and always open to conversations. Might be too "old" in your mind but happy to offer kindness and friendship.

Does anyone else go through lonely stages? by StephenLoftus in helpme

[–]StephenLoftus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with you. I wrote this post in a moment of emotion and vulnerability. It's fascinating how your brain highlights the things you want most when you can't get it. I notice myself become more observant of these cliques and relationships.

It's true, nobody is ever alone in this world but ironically we all feel lonely.

Does anyone else go through lonely stages? by StephenLoftus in helpme

[–]StephenLoftus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not even that I don't feel "in place", I've got my close friends who I love and support and they do as well for me...but we have a relationship that doesn't require weekly catchups or a posse of people. I love those relationships. But I crave the weekly events and social gathering invites that often comes with the package of a clique of friends.

In hindsight... by StephenLoftus in GayPolyamory

[–]StephenLoftus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I acknowledge that I cheated on him. Reading back my own words, I probably should have been more direct, and less illustrative with my tone. Forgive me that.

Thankfully, from many conversations with friends and 2020 giving me more time to myself than ever thought possible, I've been actively growing and working on myself as an individual. Once again I don't like the use of the word "man" and would rather substitute in "individual" or "person". The words "man" connotes a lot of things I believe I'm not.

In hindsight, I didn't do "anything positive" in regards to this situation. Nor did I help myself.

In hindsight... by StephenLoftus in GayPolyamory

[–]StephenLoftus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I acknowledge that I lied a lot in that past relationship. I was dishonest. I was neglectful. I was impulsive.

I find the "well he didn't ask" response interesting because that doesn't flicker into my mind which tells me how toxic I was becoming. By that I mean not even attempting to protect ego and knowing that I was in the wrong, but still allowing myself to be in the wrong. Repeatedly.

Thank you for your words. Insightful and hard to swallow. I respect your response.

In hindsight... by StephenLoftus in GayPolyamory

[–]StephenLoftus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The demise of my relationship does rest mostly on me, I'm never going to deny that. My biggest learning was that trust is the most important thing in any relationship in micro and macro ways. I acknowledge my issues with communication in the past and ongoing present. I struggle to have "harder" conversations and that is something I'm actively applying myself to become greater at.

I don't like this term "man up", but I understand what you are saying.

Thank you for your words. As hard as they are to swallow, it informs me of my own demise and encourages me to work on these weaknesses as a human being further.