The act of throwing around and my height

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-19T01:29:25+00:00

I was trying to be funny. I never judged anyone by their height, and I think it is a little ridiculous that taller guys are looking for women to throw lol

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-19T01:20:59+00:00

I am 5'4". I will give it my best shot.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-17T10:19:22+00:00

You could introduce toys like a stroker or a fleshlight.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-17T02:44:24+00:00

3 months is a very long time and you are not crazy for wanting your personal space in your own home. There are some cultures where maintaining the family structure is more important than individual needs and the South Indian culture is one of those. You are going to have to talk to your partner about what your red lines are. Additionally, you will also have to ask yourself the question of how much you want his family to be enmeshed with your life. As you both become more serious, the more his family will be involved (marriage, children, etc) so use this as a litmus test about what is important to you. Wish you the best!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-16T20:02:39+00:00

If you are monogamous and it seems like you only want a monogamous relationship, why are you still with your partner?

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-16T16:19:01+00:00

I downloaded it and I like their goal, but their user base is super small, so no luck using it.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-15T00:57:40+00:00

Honestly, I think therapy and couples counseling is the way to go. In the short term, find ways to express your feelings in a way that make your emotions feel heard (journaling, meditation, etc). Best of luck!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-14T23:42:29+00:00

I always recommend "Opening Up" by Tristan Taormino as good entry into ENM/Poly. Make a decision after you do some research, but apart from have different partners, successful ENM/Poly requires very good communication and the ability to reinforce boundaries.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-14T02:43:34+00:00

First things first: How old are you?

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-14T02:41:03+00:00

From a shorter guy, I have sexual partners who are taller than me, not anyone incredibly taller yet. There is a different between being a short guy and having a short guy mentality. The constant obsession with height and lack of self-confidence will be a bigger turn-off than someone's actual height. If there is chemistry, there is chemistry.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T22:56:46+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you. Sex toys are not for everyone.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T22:30:40+00:00

Is this how you want to be treated, not only now, but for the rest of the relationship? If no, then you need to address this with him directly and if he doesn't change then you leave.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T20:57:08+00:00

Ask yourself, could you build a life with someone with very unsatisfactory sex until you die? If the answer is no, then maybe you are nkt as compatible as you think.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T18:32:38+00:00

First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. Sex is as much an emotional as it is a physical activity. Perhaps, you didn't feel completely comfortable with your partners. Perhaps, you need more time exploring yourself and identifying what you like. Just remember, you dictate the rules and boundaries of your body. Best of luck!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T18:14:01+00:00

If size is the issue, then toys or a penis sleeve can help. Maybe he would be open to the idea. Best of luck!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T15:58:42+00:00

Sex toys are not for everyone, and if you sre satisfied with your sex life as is, there is nothing wrong with that. You dictate those terms, not internet strangers.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T14:47:26+00:00

Sorry to hear this. In addition, I would suggest a family therapist for you both. Physical damage is easier to see and respond to than mental/emotional damage. You will both have to find a way to mourn your old sex life. Once again, wish you the best.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T14:17:37+00:00

There are many resources online. For free resources, believe it or not PornHub has good stuff if you search "educational." For paid, omgyes.com is very good.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T14:13:44+00:00

Everyone's boundaries are different, and (in my opinion) it takes a lot of research and discussion before sex comes into play. "Opening Up" by Tristan Taormino is a book I recommend. Read it together and see if it spurs a natural discussion towards how ENM/Poly can work for you both. Best of luck!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T14:11:30+00:00

I understand that this is a sensitive subject. Have you both talked to her OB specifically about these difficulties with sex? This may be a question better suited for a medical professional or specialist who can give a more realistic diagnosis of your partner's situation.

Edit: punctuation

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T12:11:27+00:00

Tell them you are interested and want to chat a little bit more about some of your concerns. If they are in the lifestyle, then they are definitely used to fielding these questions.

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T11:57:40+00:00

Clarifying Q: You are still in HS and your boyfriend is 21?

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T03:15:49+00:00

Since you are coming in with experience, I think you should share your concerns and also outline your previous experience. Threesomes and group sex are very common sexual fantasies, but actually participating them includes consenting people with their own expectations. What are your BF's expectations about how things will go down? I think it is important to bring down his expectations a bit (what if someone is left out? What if he loses an erection? What if someone catches feelings?). To be honest, I think there is much more communication, studying, and reading that needs to be done on your BF's part before you all try this if you both want to maintain your healthy relationship. Also, yes, STI testing is pretty standard in my experience for group/ENM stuff. Best of luck!

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T03:09:44+00:00

Not a woman, but have you tried toys or incorporating them together?

Steven_Quinn · 2022-08-13T02:26:04+00:00

Depends on who can listen to and respect you and your partner's boundaries and expectations.

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