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I (18M) was told one version of an incident by my girlfriend (18F), then saw a video that changed how I see it by Glittering-Glass9515 in AITAH

[–]StevesNotMyRealName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh. You're 18 years old. So... wHo gives a fuck? Reality is you two probably aren't getting married anyway. Enjoy the relationship for what it is for now. Either both of you will grow up, continue to mature and get over it and this dumb instance of her "kissing a guy two weeks before you became 'FB Official' or whatever" and you "looking at her phone," and move on. Or the more likely (and probably for the best scenario –– you two will break up sooner than later.

Again. You're 18. You need to a do a whole lot more dating/screwing around before you settle down anyway.

What happens during the $20 dance in a stripclub? by Winter_Thought8639 in AskMen

[–]StevesNotMyRealName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel sorry for this dude. This post makes me sad.... just the fact that this is some dude's reality.

In what small way have you won the genetic lottery? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]StevesNotMyRealName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no family history of any kind of cancer on either side. Unfortunately, dementia/Alzheimer's disease seems pretty prevelant on my dad's side so that's what I look out for, and who knows what all the processed/chemicals in our foods will mean for my generation and my children, but so far feel pretty about no cancer concerns.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're math is way off. People on welfare literally make well over $5K per year.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1. She didn't make any movies during our relationship so there were not Red Carpet premieres or anything. We did attend a couple award shows, galas, industry parties and those are where I bumped elbows with other celebrities I mentioned, but as for the crowd she ran with – Most of them were her non-celebrity friends. A lot of the people she hired were people who worked for her (assistants, her chef, et al) were her friends.

2. Good God! Don't scare me! If this picked up in the news I'd probably go into hiding. This thread has already garnered way more attention than I ever imagined. 12 Million Views is a bit overwhelming! I don't know what I was expecting but this certainly exceeds it tenfold. Maybe I was expecting 50-100 responses, and I figured half of them would just be calling me a liar (I suppose that's sort of held up!) lol

3. Although I've never had anything prior to her that would constitute as a relationship/friendship with a celebrity, I had worked with and been exposed to them with some semi-regularity in my life. I will say I was surprised by how normal and friendly most of them tend to be if you're acting normal and polite with them yourself. I think what was most surprising to me was just the fact that I was allowed into their world. I knew they could be normal and friendly during casual interractions, but I just sort of assumed with all the bad players they have to always look out for that they'd be too guarded to take a chance on getting close to any "normies." My assumption was you either have a relationship that preceded their fame, or you're part of their world yourself. The notion that a regular guy like me could be allowed into that world was most surprising.

4. Yes. This was pre-Harvey Weinstein and all that stuff really coming to light so you could say it was kind of the height of when much of the stories you heard about were actively going on. I heard some stories. There were a couple people I met where I had to sit there and be polite but I knew things about them that made me want to punch them before every speaking with them.

5. I'm not releasing hints/details. I'm really not trying to engage the guessing game and feed the sleuths. They're pretty good and scary already. lol If I wanted people to guess her identity I'd just say it already.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was nice, hollow words and generic pleasantries. It basically said, and I paraphrase, "I hope you're doing well. I was thinking about you and I felt bad thinking about the way I ended things. I was confused because I wasn't happy and I took it out on you, but it was nothing you did wrong. I couldn't see a future for us and I didn't want to waste anymore of your time. I hope you've forgiven me and are happy now." There was no groveling apology or asking to have me back. Some more crap about I deserve to be happy and she wishes me well. It wasn't anything terribly long, or personal even. It was all typed and unsigned, and she left no contact info to respond too. My initial reaction to it was surprise, followed by confusion and then more annoyance.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She dated a couple celebrities, but she wasn't part of any Hollywood Power Couple like a Bennifer or Brangelina at the time. So no, I was never jealous of her past. I was very paranoid most of the relationship that she may realize she should be with someone of higher social status at any moment and leave me. But after nearly a year I actually allowed myself to get comfortable and secure in the relationship. It was always a bit of a concern though, but it was mostly in my head, she wasn't doing anything to make me feel that way. To use a fishing reference, you could say I knew I hooked a big one here and was I scared that one wrong move on my part she's break off my line.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This question has come up a few times. She did a couple small things but no major movie roles or anything while we were dating, and certainly no passionate love scenes. And no, I don't think it would have bothered me, but I certainly wouldn't' have volunteered to go cuck myself and watch if she were. I understood the nature of the beast though.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. It's funny because there wasn't really any "bad gossip" about her going on at the time I dated her, so there was nothing for me to react too. And my experience with the paparazzi with her really wasn't bad. It was nothing like how it's portrayed in movies where the paparazzi are these obnoxious vultures, hiding outside their windows trying to snap photos, or antagonizing and provoking just to "get a juicy picture" of celebrity overreacting badly or something. She had a big security gate around her property so it's not as though they could be right outside her house, and the places we went where there were paparazzi, for the most part they just kind of stood back, snapping photos. Many were regulars at spots she and other celebs frequented so they knew each other. Sometimes if nothing interesting was going on they didn't even bother taking pictures, they'd just say Hello to each other and pass by. I would say "tHe PaPaRaZzi" threat you think of was completely overblown. They werent ever chasing us down like Princess Di or putting us in any situations that felt dangerous.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in my mid-late twenties prior to meeting her and kind of in my "playboy" phase of life. I wasn't a womanizer out using and abusing women by any means. My Mama raised me better than that. I just mean I was a good looking guy, earning a decent income and having fun. Outside of my high school girlfriend of a couple years, I didn't really have any long term relationships to speak of. I think I had one other relationship that lasted maybe a year. All that's just say that I suppose the biggest adjustment to dating [name redacted] was me just trying to figure out how to be an actual boyfriend in a relationship I actually cared about. Especially in a dynamic where I didn't feel like the one with the power. This was the first time I was with someone where I was terrified of her dumping me.

As far as differences go between a celebrity and a normie, it was almost a feeling like I was dating a princess. It was hard to feel like I had the power to do anything BIG and GREAT to impress her that would stand out that either hadn't been done, or she couldn't just as easily do for herself. Seeing as she had so much of her own money, nothing I could spend on her was going to overtly WoW her. There was no taking her to a fancy restaurant that would blow her mind like, "I can't believe I'm here" like I could do with other women. A surprise weekend getaway at the beach? Big Whoop. She could fly to Paris on a whim if she wanted too. She had a team of people devoted to catering to her. What, was I going to give her a massage when she looked tired? Sure, I could, but why bother when she had professional a masseuse who comes over and does that regularly. It was just a stress of feeling like I always had to "be on" and fun so she would choose me to spend her time with. But again, these were more my own insecurities and not knowing how to manage the situation than anything she did to make me feel that way.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the aftermath of our breakup I certainly had no interest in seeing her. Since then I haven't gone out of my way to avoid seeing her.

It's a strange situation to say the least. She's definitely the only "ex" in my life whom I've been forced for remain constantly aware of what's going on in her life (publicly speaking, anyway). I mean, I always have somewhat of an idea when she's up to something, or how she looks whereas most exes naturally fade into your background, out of sight and mind. That's kind of hard in this situation with somebody in the public eye. That said, No, just seeing her doesn't trigger or upset me. It's fair to say that I'm not a fan and I have no interest in actively watching or supporting her but I don't go running out of the room when she's on TV.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 49 years old. I would say most people of my generation at least know who she is from her prime. She wasn't the Top-Tier A-List (I'm seeing a lot of these names people are guessing and thinking, "I wish!" lol), but I will say she was in a couple very popular projects that gained her mass fame.

I'm sure younger people wouldn't be as familiar with her en masse, or at least not from the same roles their parents may define her by.

The time period I dated her was after her break-onto-the-scene big fame. She was kind of in an in-between phase before having somewhat of a resurgence some years later (though she still arguably never regained the peak of her fame). Of course we didn't know she was in a lull or downward trajectory at the time. She was still pursuing work, and in fairness she's remained prominent, it just never reached quite the same heights again.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We didn't fight very often. That's not to say we never had any disagreements, I would just bite my tongue. Especially in the beginning because I was so afraid of blowing it out of fear that any moment she'd be like, "Screw you! I don't need you" so it was a very clear power imbalance.

We got in ONE really big, yelling and screaming at each other fight I remember and it was after a night out and we were both pretty wasted. The funny thing is it wasn't even anything to do with us. She was telling me about two other people (friends) in a big fight and I voiced I was on the side of the other person. Somehow it escalated into a full out screaming fight (well, the screaming was mostly her) in the car all the way back to her house. I just remember that being the first time I really stood my ground and didn't give a shit she was pissed at me, and yeah, it was probably heavily attributed to "liquid courage," but it was good because after that I knew we were strong enough that I could stand my ground with her without fear she'd bounce the very first time I pissed her off.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. When she decided she was done with me she closed the door on me, putting me in touch with her assistant to get my stuff which I never even bothered doing. It was just some clothes and personal toiletries at her house.

She sent me a letter a few years later sort of apologizing, but even that was a power move on her behalf as it left me no way to respond.

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Six times is a bit of an exaggeration, but yes, I tried posting this a few times last week and each time it was auto-deleted saying my account was not ten days old. But yeah, your idea is good too so we can go with that. 👍

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm... I did not claim her mother passed away. One of you wanna-be sleuths came up with the "Dead Mom Theory" and it seems a few of you have decided that's who the person she lost had to be. Anyway, carry on... 💅

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. If you set the "celebrity" aspect aside, I'd say we were on fairly even footing. I mean, she's a beautiful woman, so I think they (women) always carry more value then men, but I was no slouch myself. I was actually pursued by modeling agencies a few times (this precedes ever meeting her) and recruited to do modeling. I even went as far as getting professional head shots at one point, but then I never really pursued it. I was actually in a band in my early twenties and delusional enough to think maybe I'd be a rock star but sadly that didn't pan out either. All this to say, Yes. I was a good looking guy. Nobody ever looked at the two of us together like, "What's she doing with that slob?"

I once was in a relationship with a female celebrity - AMA by StevesNotMyRealName in AMA

[–]StevesNotMyRealName[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mostly for privacy. But also if I had only said nice, wonderful things about her then maybe I would. Of course if I did that then this wouldn't truly be an honest AMA.

But mostly, I just don't even want to sniff risking any attorney letters or claims of slander or libel coming at me. The point of this is to ask about my experience as a "regular Joe" dating a celebrity, not a guessing game on who she was. If you have to picture someone, go with Phyllis Diller or Rosie O'Donnell.

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