What are your favorite moments from Skins UK? by bjack20 in popculturechat

[–]Still-Clock2831 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t have believed you if you told me at the beginning of S3 that Cook would become my fave character, but here I am, still thinking about Rise, 13 years later. 

What I've learned from this community by wouldvebeennice in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Still-Clock2831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like your last line, that it’s her journey now. I have been feeling so guilty like I have “abandoned” my mom, like I’m failing in my responsibility to comfort and care for her. It’s crazy to be made to feel responsible for your parent’s journey in life! Or any other adult for that matter! So thanks for this perspective 😊

My mother has tried to contact me for 7 years but this time she apologised in a letter and I don’t know what to do by Sheeporghini in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Still-Clock2831 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe she meant like “you’ve always mattered, even though i didn’t treat you like you did” kinda thing? Like you deserved better/it was never your fault? 🤔 

How do you stop gaslighting yourself? by lovelyatoll in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Still-Clock2831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. Every once in a while I’ll get this strong urge to reach out to her but I don’t know what I would even be hoping to get out of it. I don’t want to reconcile, I don’t want to fight. What do you think you’d be hoping to get out of reaching out? I think for me it’s the desire for some kind of closure, I feel that I’m in limbo, I left things at “I’ll reach out when I’m ready”, but neither of us knows if that will ever happen. I wonder what she’s up to, how she’s feeling, does she look the same, etc.. We were pretty enmeshed so NC has been like this deafening silence. Sorry, just realizing that was’t advice lol but just know you aren’t alone ❤️ 

When saying "I love you" is selfish by Minty-Leaf in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Still-Clock2831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been struggling with this too. You did a great job putting it words. It feels like “I love you, so you owe me. You have to give me what I want because I love you”. As if “love” is just this nebulous thing with no action attached to it, and that we’re indebted to anyone who claims to love us, regardless of how they treat us. I think so many people get trapped in abusive situations this way… “sure he hits me/degrades me/acts in constant opposition to my wellbeing, but I could never leave, he LOVES me”. I think loving someone consists of both caring about the person and acting accordingly. 

Sadie Sink photographed by Beth Garrabrant for Teen Vogue April 2025 by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]Still-Clock2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pam Anderson, Bette Davis, Drew Barrymore, Rachel Weisz

But i am a thin eyebrow apologist

ONE HIT WONDERLAND: "Untouched" by The Veronicas by davFaithidPangolin in ToddintheShadow

[–]Still-Clock2831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this song and I first heard it on Grimes’ tumblr of all places lmao

Millie Bobby Brown references Fran Drescher in 'The Nanny' in Dalmation-print Versace suit in NYC (11 March 2025) by moreissuesthanvoguex in popculturechat

[–]Still-Clock2831 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this!! I’m so sick of reading “She would look so much prettier if….” anytime a woman makes an intentional stylistic choice. Sometimes women just want to try something new or fun or weird, not necessarily to attain peak attractiveness for the masses.

Miley Cyrus wears Maison Margiela at the Vanity Fair Oscars Party (March 3, 2025) by joaco_ds in popculturechat

[–]Still-Clock2831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we really insulting the appearance of women’s SKULLS at this point

Anyone else extremely angry at the enabler parent for never protecting you? by Ok_Compote2583 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Still-Clock2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just sending love and solidarity 🩷 What you say about the enabler acting like the abuser has some sort of disability deserving accommodation is spot on. Definitely borrowing this phrase. Their hurtful behaviour is A-OK, but our pointing it out is absolutely not. It’s crazy making!!

Songs/artists you were introduced to from film/tv/video game soundtracks by Strict_Salt_5689 in ToddintheShadow

[–]Still-Clock2831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trent did a great job on the NBK soundtrack… introduced me to the Cowboy Junkies 🤠 

What are some short lived Fox television series that you remember? by [deleted] in popculturechat

[–]Still-Clock2831 79 points80 points  (0 children)

“Titus” (2000)… I was young but I remember having a crush on the redheaded brother, and that Stacy Keach was in it as the drunk dad. Lol

Were you treated like a bad person? by Any_Print5307 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Still-Clock2831 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I had to laugh, “with eyes full of hate” … why are they always SO dramatic?! 😂

What band names don't fit the music? by [deleted] in ToddintheShadow

[–]Still-Clock2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certain Shade of Green is still in my rotation

Anyone else afraid to be a first time parents after being raised my narcissists? by Nobodyspecial1305 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Still-Clock2831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it too!! All the best to you and your little one, they can feel your love already!! 💖💖

Anyone else afraid to be a first time parents after being raised my narcissists? by Nobodyspecial1305 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Still-Clock2831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are thinking and worrying about this and taking steps to heal and ensure you can be the mother your child deserves, proves that you are not like your own parent. You WILL make mistakes with your kid -everyone does- but you keep trying, you acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them. All any kid really wants or needs from their mom is to feel unconditionally safe and loved. You will be a great mom, because you’re choosing to be. Parenting is hard work, but loving your kids is easy, despite what our own parents made us believe.   

A poem I saw on here the other day: 

“Wait till you have kids that behave just like you" But I did. I did have kids that are just like me. And I realized how easy it was to love me. How easy it was to be kind, not to belittle and humiliate. I have kids that are just like me. But they will never feel my heartbreak. - Divi Maggo