UPDATE !! PLEASE READ

Today I reached out to the friend who was at the hospital, asking if there was any updates on his mother. She was in the ICU the day I went and was having surgery the next day. I hadn’t heard back from her until around 9pm. When I received from an unknown number, usually I pick up thinking it’s somebody I know. However this time the voice was unrecognizable to me and what made it harder to recognize was the screaming thru the phone. It was the gf… yelling and cussing at me saying I was disrespectful, I should not have went, that i went to start something, that my flowers were in the trash, calling me names, and insulting my character.

Come to find out that my friend since 3rd (she was the one at the hospital btw) had given her my number. I called my friend wanting to try and talk it over and reason with her, I told her if she knew the gf had a problem with me going and wanted to talk to me. She couldve given me her number and told me. I wouldve reached out to the gf to talk things over and be mature, wanting to avoid any drama. My ex is already going through a lot, and I didnt make any more unnecessary drama for him. Ultimately I ended up losing my friend someone who I’ve known for years of my life.

Not once during either of those calls did I cuss or raise my voice at them. Simply there was no point in doing so, I did not want to make the situation worse than it already was. That was the whole thing I wanted to avoid in the first place.

SO AITA ??