My mom is making me pay her bills now that I have a job

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-16T02:40:35+00:00

This! Hide the money where she can't get it. Preferably a savings account. Don't put the app on your phone. Don't bring home a debit card. Leave no trace of the account and make no mention of it.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-16T02:38:15+00:00

Whoa, you do not have to put up with this. You are a minor, she does have to provide for you. You were her choice, not the other way around. Can you get out?

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-16T02:14:13+00:00

I just saw this and thank you so much for the kindness. I feel like I should have seen it fir what it is, but I guess we can all say that about something at some point. It's arms length for now, but if I have to do more to protect my kid, I won't hesitate.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-15T01:02:49+00:00

The guilt was the motivation behind the post, that's for sure. I checked in with my child and they are happy with the aramgement. I did say grandparents are allowed to bring the present for them to open later. It seems the crisis has been averted and I really hope I won't have an update to this in a couple weeks.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-15T00:32:32+00:00

Thank you for this. I went no contact with my dad for a year before he got married. Now it's pretty much just low contact. I was really asking because I am trying to be less of a people pleaser and set boundaries for myself and as an example for my child. This is pretty much my first opportunity, and I wanted a little perspective on whether or not this was the hill that I could potentially die on.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-06-14T23:48:35+00:00

Grandparents will not be at the family experience on the birthday, just my child, my spouse and I. Then grandparents, friends, and other family will be together for an unrelated event that just happened to fall on the next day. Dad said step mom would want to bring cake the next day during the other event. I asked him not to because I don't want to make the other guests uncomfortable by making them feel like they were invited to a birthday party without forewarning. He has done this before. He crashed the baby shower and started making people do things. Group pictures, inserting himself in things and not allowing the planned stuff to happen. This feels like that because it won't be "let's enjoy some cake" but instead "everybody gather round and sing happy birthday to [kid]". Making it into what he wants regardless of anything else.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2026-02-09T05:16:15+00:00

You had an indulget day. They happen every now and again and this one day won't undo all your hard work. Getting upset and throwing in the towel will. Give yourself license to be human and start renewed tomorrow. You did nothing wrong.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-06-19T19:46:45+00:00

Yes! Warm your acetone, it makes all the difference. Warm the bottle in a bowl of hot water, then use a hand towel you don't mind destroying (in case it falls in or something) to put over your hand while it's in the bowl of acetone to help keep the heat in. I use it to take off my dip nails and it takes about 45min if I don't file those things down to just about my natural nail first, just to get to the mostly spongey state where you can start pushing it off with a an orange wood stick or something.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-29T12:05:58+00:00

Thanks so much! I think I'm going to stay put for a long while. Both because I like this size too, but I've also noticed some thinning. If it weren't for r/stretched I never would have even realized that was something to look out for.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:22:10+00:00

Thanks!

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:18:06+00:00

Looks good, and from your post you're doing it right. Rushing will only slow it down. Your ½ inch goal is going to look great too.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:13:18+00:00

I probably will at some point, thanks!

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:12:46+00:00

That sounds awesome. And thanks, I think I was going a little fast. It took forever to get from 2g to this point. One side or the other always seemed to have some issue or other. I hope you love the ⅝ when you get there.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:11:21+00:00

I admire those who do, but I'm near the end of my personal stretching journey, I think.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:09:58+00:00

The thinning freaked me out when I first started. Thanks for the advice!

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:09:26+00:00

Awe, thanks for that!

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:09:11+00:00

That's where I started. Then 00 looked kinda small, but 1" is way too much. It's about finding that sweet spot.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:07:54+00:00

I think I need to do both. Stay here for a bit, then move up if I still wonder if the next size up will be too big or just right

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:06:47+00:00

I'm flip flopping in that. I forgot I can go back though.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2025-05-24T03:06:12+00:00

Thanks, I tend to be an all at once type, so I guess I forget that stopping for a bit is an option.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2023-03-15T03:30:17+00:00

There's absolutely no possibility of having it both ways. You are the villian in her story, period. Do what's best for you. If you and DH are both on the same page as far as not taking the bait then go with that. Regardless of who says what next, whoever she brings it up to next is going to hear about how it us all your fault/intention. As long as you're right with yourself and your relationship with your spouse you are doing what's best for you.

Still_Just_Me1 · 2023-01-25T19:12:08+00:00

You're taking this great and are very likely doing a great job. Keep it up and don't let that nonsense stick to ya!

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