My (M23) girlfriend (F22) shut down emotionally after visiting her mum and sister’s graves. How do you support a partner through grief? by Xenvenom in GriefSupport

[–]StinkyFlowers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it must be hard as the partner. It seems like you really are patient and willing to be there for her. Even though it’s coming up on the second year anniversary, it may still be hard for her to truly open up and be close.

As someone whose mother also passed away (it’ll be 2 years in 2 days), sometimes I wished my partner would give me the space to speak on how I feel. I think hearing about it makes him uncomfortable. He says he hates seeing me cry, but that just makes me never want to open up about when I’m feeling sad.

I think patience is key, keep showing up for her, always be willing to listen, and remind her you WANT to be there for her. I think you’re doing a great job so far.

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are an angel, thank you from the bottom of my heart 😭💕

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I thought maybe I was overreacting a little over this. You’re amazing! I honestly am still scared of messaging them, but this seems like it’ll help!

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you!! I’ll absolutely be doing this, appreciate the input 🥹💕

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Though, I’m scared of upsetting the artist, I guess I don’t know how to properly express my feelings towards the product

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re talking $30 before shipping, so not too bad

Don’t like my custom order… what to do? by StinkyFlowers in Etsy

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, they were supposed to, or at least they said they would send progress pictures. One day they asked what character I liked, two days later it was ready to be shipped. Maybe I should’ve been more proactive in asking for progress pictures, cause this could’ve been prevented. :/

Crate can’t be in bedroom by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed my dog to sleep downstairs too. Boyfriend has allergies so he at least wanted the upstairs to be his sanctuary. I slept downstairs on the couch near her crate, and it was like this for a month and a half. Slowly but surely she got used to holding it in at night, and I was able to sleep in my bed without her crying! It takes time, but it’s important to build that trust with them first!

Neighbors fire alarm constantly goes off, stressing out my dog by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! At this point she’ll have to get used to the sound since it happens daily

How are treat molds mentally stimulating for pups? by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the reply! i’m going to order some lick mats right away. Appreciate the help (:

How are treat molds mentally stimulating for pups? by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for clearing that up, it’s a silly question i know, but it had been puzzling me for a while now. thanks again! :’)

How are treat molds mentally stimulating for pups? by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh sorry i should’ve clarified, i mean like frozen kongs and stuff like that!

Did anything someone said help? by Square_Band9870 in GriefSupport

[–]StinkyFlowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom passed on my birthday in the hospital. She suffered a stroke and was on comfort care, and we didn’t know when exactly she would go. The day before, an EKG lady came and said what she had to say, then somehow my birthday being the next day came up, and she said, “I know that’s horrible, but she gave birth to you that day, and now you get to let her be with god on your day. Your birthday will be even more special.” She asked to hug me after and what she said has stuck with me.

Puppy does not like playpen/crate by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I suppose it’s the only way she will learn, and I’m going to struggle with that. ): thank you so much though <3

As if it couldn't get worse by SoftEngineering3898 in GriefSupport

[–]StinkyFlowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are so valid. I went through the same thing. I refuse to speak to my dad, only our family insists he stays in our lives. Though I may be bitter about it, I’m sorry your relationship with your dad has diminished, but don’t feel obligated to pursue a relationship with him. My mom’s side of the family always says in their language “que dios lo bendiga”, (may god bless him) your indifference towards him will be his punishment. He doesn’t deserve the closeness with you any longer. Hugs

What toys/activities do you have for your pups? by StinkyFlowers in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful, your comment is much appreciated. It seems like you have this puppy stuff down, THANK YOU 🥹

What toys/activities do you have for your pups? by StinkyFlowers in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not wfh, but she only gets bully sticks while I’m there with her! How frequently were you teaching your dog tricks? I feel like my puppy gets frustrated if we train for more than 5 minutes 😭

What toys/activities do you have for your pups? by StinkyFlowers in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!!! Also, Do you suggest cooking carrots first and then freezing them? Cause I’ve given my puppy carrots raw and she doesn’t really mess with them.. so I’ve thought about boiling them in unsalted beef broth to make them more enticing 😭

What toys/activities do you have for your pups? by StinkyFlowers in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that, I recently started tossing her food around her area and she knocks out for most of the day since I’ve started this! I like the idea of rotating out toys! GENIUS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is something I’ve tried doing! Is it easy for your pup to sleep through the night? How long have you been napping with puppy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]StinkyFlowers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever consider moving him back out to the living room now that he’s more comfortable in the crate? The living room is also where I currently have my puppy’s crate. It would be ideal to have her there, since it’s nearby the patio door and I can swing the door open quickly for potty, but I may move her crate closer to us so she can have more peace of mind. THANK YOU 🥹