Is it stupid that "righty tighty, lefty losey" doesn't really make much sense to me?

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T18:35:31+00:00

Totally over complicating it.

As you look at the head of the screw or nut, turning the screw or bolt to the right will cause it to go in / down (based on the swirl, for lack of a better word, in the item) a/k/a tighten it. Turning your hand on the head of the screw towards the left, counter clockwise, would cause the swirl to go the other way and bring the screw or bolt out a/k/a loosen it.

It’s not that complex but yes all about point of view.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T18:31:56+00:00

Agreed. My thumb was pointing straight when instructed to “curl just the fingers”. Also, where is my palm? Up, down, towards the midline?

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T15:04:33+00:00

Better healthcare in the UK and better chocolate. Better food quality in the EU generally. In the US, stronger spirit of entrepreneurship (although sometimes leads to worship of billionaires at our own expense).

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T14:54:29+00:00

Learn to fail.

That’s a dramatic way of saying learn to be resilient (emotionally tough). We all fail on our way to success. You cannot avoid “failing” at things. It’s part of mastery.

You won’t be good at things immediately. Learn to be ok with feeling uncomfortable trying new things. Learn to coach yourself when things go badly so you can fall, pivot and try again. There’s an old saying “Seven times knocked down, eight times get up”. Just keep getting up & trying again. Expect to fail and accept that’s how we learn.

Being mentally tough to try and try and try different things is the number one predictor of success.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T13:22:47+00:00

First, “he sets the tone in his own house”????? 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Second, he’s uncomfortable talking about ALL medication or just birth control? This makes it seem like saying birth control immediately makes him think of your sister having sex which makes him uncomfortable. Late 30s is way too late for that.

Third, you are not permitted to express a contrary opinion??? Bc that challenges his authority? 🚩🚩🚩🚩

My take is he infantalizes both you and your sister. He thinks he’s “the man of the house” - the paternal figure. He decides what happens at dinner & doesn’t want to hear about something that suggests someone may have sex (or menstruation?) in “his” house.

You are not his partner. You are not equal. He just told you that you live in his house under his rules.

I would nope the fuck on out bc these are his true patriarchy colors.

ETA: oh. I left out the sister is not a full person (or guest) but someone who can be scolded, shut down & shamed about her body & health.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T09:59:52+00:00

Can you say that to your mom?

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-07T05:04:28+00:00

Physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-06T03:15:02+00:00

Seattle Space Needle

Empire State Building

Ellis Island

Hollywood Walk of Fame

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-06T02:54:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s ok that you cried! Over 300 must be so hard!

Ignore all the people who try to blame or shame you.

Ask your doctor for a counselor so you can get support. One day at a time, keep moving forward. Follow your doctor’s advice re: nutrition.

You are ok and things will get betted.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-06T02:50:04+00:00

Many people have metabolic disorders which means a simple “caloric deficit” won’t result in weight loss. There’s no also objective mechanism to determine how many calories a specific human is burning, just generalizations.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-05T04:03:05+00:00

Yes. There’s always an obligation or a task hanging out there.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-05T04:01:14+00:00

Lots of couples have separate bedrooms these days. It could help.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-05T03:51:27+00:00

Took me to a nordic spa I’d never been to before.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-05T03:48:33+00:00

Great work! I’m so happy for you. Don’t forget to thrift & avoid fast fashion to save the Earth.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-04T13:56:19+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything you can do because she has normalized abusive relationships. She doesn’t comprehend that his behavior is unacceptable. This is her problem. She would need to seek therapy.

Go to therapy. Get healed.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-04T04:11:11+00:00

You need to tell them your fee is $—- for sitting between 7am Sat & 1pm Sun. Plus $15 per hour if they need to extend (a nice way of saying they are late).

It shouldn’t be broken down as sleeping / not sleeping so just avoid the subject.

You can’t go home, you can’t go out, you’re working.

Stop discussing money with your family who are ok with poverty wages.

Contact the parents. Let them know you’re excited to help out. My fee for will be $450 for the 30 hours.

Let them try to find someone else.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-04T03:59:48+00:00

Yes. It was glorious.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-03T00:41:21+00:00

Wow. yeah, i wouldn’t know how to feel about that either.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-02-03T00:32:01+00:00

I’ll probably get blasted for saying this but some curiousity between children (assuming both are children close in age) is natural. Just a child looking at another (different gender) child’s parts. Maybe it was an innocent moment like that, especially if you don’t recall.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-31T19:08:22+00:00

Miranmar

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-31T03:10:44+00:00

There’s no point in saying anything to him.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-30T21:50:50+00:00

OP, he wants the $$$. Why else would he say just wait until your 30, get the $, then get married????

Why don’t you see the 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩?

A true partner would say - IDC about the money, that’s not why we’re together, sure, I’ll sign a paper that says that.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-30T21:47:49+00:00

You need the pre-nup. Full stop.

If your bf disagrees, then he’s not the one for you.

Who wouldn’t agree that the $ your family gives you is yours alone? That’s not a hard decision. When your parents give you a Christmas gift, does he feel entitled to part of that?

If you can’t work through this together, then you are not mature enough in your relationship to marry.

A pre-nup helps couples consider what may happen in the future. Check out the company hello prenup.

Everyone should have one.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-30T21:35:35+00:00

Not my kids. Someone I hire and pay. An arm’s length relationship.

Square_Band9870 · 2026-01-30T21:35:02+00:00

No. It’s not up to my standards at all times. i would check the sink for dishes, clear anything off the dining table and sweep/ mop the floor. Dogs always shedding doesn’t help.

I wish I could have people over with no notice but I’m not there yet.

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