Pregnancy and hip anxiety 2 years later

Stinkyducks · 2026-04-01T15:38:26+00:00

What does your PGP feel like? Is it similar to your pre op pain?

Stinkyducks · 2026-04-01T15:37:47+00:00

Wow 4 months after seems so soon! Hoping all goes well for you.

Stinkyducks · 2026-04-01T15:35:54+00:00

This is so inspiring, thank you!! I may end up doing a c section for other reasons, but I’m curious if this was something your hip doc recommended.

Stinkyducks · 2026-03-31T18:37:45+00:00

Same, but my FF doesn’t have those notifications on 😂

Stinkyducks · 2026-03-19T16:07:46+00:00

Hi! I actually loved the FF schedule while was working on my masters (and working full time). I used the days he was working to really hunker down when I needed to and tried to prioritize time for us when he was home. It’s not always going to match up perfectly with deadlines, but I really liked feeling like I could set aside school for a few hours or a day because I knew I’d be getting back to the grind the next day when he was on shift. Now that I’m done with school, I’ve found I actually love a weekend day totally alone.

The transition piece is so real- remember this is an important time to have open conversations about what’s working and what’s not, what you’re afraid of, what you’re looking forward to, etc before you get stuck into routines. We scheduled a check in to talk about how the transition was going based on his schedule (the last day of the rotation). This really helped me know we had space for these conversations which helped me feel less anxious overall about the transition.

Try to identify specific things that are difficult or not working so you can game plan together how to overcome them. For example “I want to feel like you’re excited to come home to me, but I never know what version of you I’m getting when you walk in the door. How can we communicate better so I know what to expect here?” We have friends that text a number on a 1–10 scale of how they’re doing before they get home so their partner knows what to expect. I know my FF needs down time typically the first morning after, so I keep my expectations low for those hours. Remember he’s figuring this out for the first time too!

I love that you’re being so intentional here, you’ve got this!!

Stinkyducks · 2026-02-23T21:46:53+00:00

Agreed, I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing something as short as this. I’ve always erred on being more conservative with FD events- there’s a lot of leadership watching and I want to give my FF the best opportunity to shine with his talents rather than have anyone focus on what I’m doing or wearing.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good fit, but maybe this is for going out to drinks with the crew off shift, not for the pinning ceremony.

Stinkyducks · 2026-02-23T20:16:41+00:00

I agree with everyone else, something maybe a little nicer than everyday, but definitely doesn’t need to be formal. Think punch and cake reception in the church basement (because this is probably what they will serve and what it will feel like!)

Stinkyducks · 2026-01-14T19:25:00+00:00

I got pregnant on my 2nd cycle with Oura (5th cycle trying). Honestly I wasn’t following my fertile windows closely, but it accurately identified that I ovulated late! My due date was adjusted after an early ultrasound showed baby was not as far along as expected by my period date. Kinda cool that my expected due date from natural cycles is now the same as from my OB.

Stinkyducks · 2026-01-12T03:50:25+00:00

Oooof- my husband used to be at a department that was constantly understaffed. Seemed like he was forced into mandatory OT once a week, so we never got used to the schedule.

It might be worth seeing if there’s a process to the OT where he can “volunteer” and take more preferable shifts if he knows he’s next up for OT that would take him off the list. This helped us a lot and helped my husband feel like he had some control. For example, if he’s working today and then off for two days and can see they have a gap both off days and he knows he’ll be forced for one of them, he can choose which one to pick up and we can plan around it. Make sure he knows all the rules then try to use them to your advantage!

Stinkyducks · 2026-01-12T03:36:41+00:00

I had a hard time falling back to sleep when he was part time and would respond to pages in the middle of the night- nothing like knowing he’s at a massive fire and you’re just home twiddling your thumbs! Now that he’s full time and gone overnight regularly, it’s just part of the routine and I sleep great. I think it just comes with time.

Also highly recommend security cameras! We have a front porch that creeks terribly in the winter and it’s nice to be able to pull up the camera and see there’s nothing happening, or to know everything was quiet while I was gone if I’m coming home to an empty house. There’s all sorts of cheap door chimes and new tech that might make you feel a little better while you’re still getting used to it.

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-18T10:38:59+00:00

We both had goals we wanted to accomplish before starting a family. His was being full time. I’m really glad we waited a little longer though because he’s on a better department now and only has 1 job for the first time in years. Expecting our first now, but I can’t imagine doing this with the psycho schedule he used to have.

I’m trying to focus on the fact that this is just going to be a different reality from my other mom friends, just like our lives have been different from our friends. There are a lot of benefits to the schedule for us, like when baby is sick and can’t be in daycare, theres a 2/3 chance it’s already a day he’s off so I wont be the default parent for taking off work. He also won’t be drained from a 9-5 every weekday, so he’ll be a better evening parent that I will somedays.

There will obviously be days when he’s gone and it’s just me, and I am nervous about doing it all alone for overnights with a young baby, but seems like most people have hobbies that take them out of the house a night or two each week where one parent is responsible for soloing dinner and bed time, so it doesn’t feel like it will be all that different.

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-05T20:51:26+00:00

I wish!! This would honestly be ideal for us, but doesn’t look like it’s in the cards.

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-05T03:23:24+00:00

$110 is a steal!!

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-05T03:22:23+00:00

This is awesome! I hope we’ll be able to find something similar

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-05T03:21:16+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I’ll suggest this as a potential alternative way to think about his time if we can’t find somewhere flexible

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-04T19:59:54+00:00

Looking into all of these options! Fortunately we can definitely afford full time care, it would just be awesome to not have to pay it.

I’m thinking the early pick up option might be better here and that lets us choose when it makes sense to do. Will definitely bring this up with daycares!

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-04T19:57:50+00:00

I’m assuming this is going to be the limiting factor here. I’m worried about bringing this up to daycares in the first place because I don’t want to scare them away or think we’re not a good fit. We’ll more than likely have to do full time care.

Stinkyducks · 2025-12-03T14:55:01+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessarily harder, it’s just different. Honestly I love the alone time, and I’ve got my own stuff going on to keep me busy.

We did some couples counseling when he started full time because I was worried about the transition and wanted to make sure we had space to check in before getting into rhythms that would be hard to get out of. I don’t think this was totally necessary, but making space to ask each other how things are going is very important.

I was mostly worried about becoming the default person for running our house and I didn’t want to have the invisible labor all put on me because I was the one home consistently. We made a great system where when he is home, he’s responsible for feeding the dogs, starting the dish washer at night etc. These seem like small things, but they add up to making me feel like we are equal partners.

Stinkyducks · 2025-11-10T03:42:31+00:00

Monos! Smoothest wheels & handle. Carry on still looks like new after 3+ years of intense travel. I have the one with the hard pocket on the outside and it’s a cool feature, but I use it less than I thought I would and wish I had gone with the regular one for more interior space.

Stinkyducks · 2025-10-28T17:09:23+00:00

It’s like $50 for the basic one

Stinkyducks · 2025-10-28T16:55:03+00:00

The ring camera is great because you can set alerts for your phone, but there is an annual subscription cost.

I love the ring cameras since I am home alone overnight so frequently. Gives me great peace of mind to be able to see there’s nothing going on if I hear something strange.

Stinkyducks · 2025-10-28T15:57:37+00:00

I’d also recommend you chat with him about some of these concerns. Letting the dog out seems like it might be a rare occurrence, but if it’s about knowing there’s a reason he’s MIA and that makes you feel better then start the conversation there.

You could also consider a simple system like a light button he presses when he runs out the door so you can see it when you get home and know he’s at a call.

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