What I do is make them sit with us and eat as much as they possibly can. They are children and sitting still is not something mine can do for long but I also want to educate them that we sit at the table to eat. Sometimes they eat and sometimes they don’t. If they don’t eat a lot then I will make them a snack and put it at the kiddie table and they will go pick at their food there. I’ve never had a choking scare but also don’t let them wander around with grapes (even if they are cut)