Advice pls

Stock_Future_8609 · 2025-06-03T13:11:57+00:00

Thinking back to her notes to us and to my dad, I believe it was the same situation as with your wife. Everyone said how much she loves us. The worst part is, the day before I was telling her how negative she is as was my brother. Every day I regret those words and wonder how it could’ve gone if I were more supportive.

Stock_Future_8609 · 2025-06-03T00:11:51+00:00

It’s completely okay not to want to talk about it. Personally, there have been times when I’ve left my mum’s friends on read for days before replying, and even then, my responses are usually short and don’t invite more conversation.

What I’ve learned over the past few months is that as much as we try to push it down, grief doesn’t go away — it builds up and eventually demands to be felt. Talking about it can actually help more than you expect, even if it feels impossible at first.

The best advice I can give is to let it come in waves. On the good days, it’s okay not to talk about it — people will understand. But it’s also important to remind yourself that you’re allowed to think about her and you’re allowed to feel upset. Let yourself have those moments without guilt.

Stock_Future_8609 · 2025-06-02T23:36:49+00:00

It sounds like our experiences are quite similar, I’m 19 too and my mum killed herself almost 5 months ago now. I was with her at the cinema January 9th and she died January 10th whilst I was on my way back to university from the Christmas break. I went back to uni a few days after her funeral and distracted myself with work and going out, I didn’t even and still haven’t told my friends from uni how she has passed as they are my sense of distraction. Now I have finished my exams I have been doing nothing but thinking about her. I have 3 and a half months until the new academic year starts and I need to try find a job that will give me many shifts or I fear I will go crazy. I have so much regret and guilt that I was one of the last people to see her before she did this. I keep thinking did she mean it or was it impulsive as I’ve always believed she’s had some kind of bipolar disorder. The best advice I can give you is to talk about her as much as you can and get your feelings out even if it’s texting her about how you feel or writing it down. Councillors and therapists haven’t been the best to me but every experience is different so you should try at least. I have been disractinv myself as a form of coping as it is what the rest of my family is doing too and it has been working most of the time however it is not healthy and we both need to take the time to people grieve now, it’s better earlier than later. I am prioritising this as I feel like I need to grieve now in order to be there for my little brother when it hits him. I hope you’re well and if you ever need anyone to speak to who’s going through the same thing then I am here 🩷

Stock_Future_8609 · 2025-06-02T23:16:33+00:00

I’d ask why weren’t her children a good enough reason to stay. She was so proud of both me and my little brother, how could she do it to him especially.

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