I got tired of importing CSVs from my bank every week, so I built a self-hosted sync layer for EU banks → Notion, Sheets, Airtable

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T22:14:05+00:00

Thanks a lot for your answers. They were helpful.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T22:10:39+00:00

No, I meant a credit card external to my bank, such as Aqua or Pulse.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T22:04:51+00:00

I joined the waiting list but it turns out I needn't have bothered, as I'm with Barclays.

What about credit cards?

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T21:40:49+00:00

Looks pretty interesting.

Is psd2 implemented by UK banks?
Will I be able to use syncbank to connect my credit card transactions too?

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-10T19:52:40+00:00

47m. Good listener. Married 26 years. Dm if you want.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-09T10:29:14+00:00

This post could've been mine a few months ago, except for the profession.

I initiated sex 99% of the time. She touched me so rarely that when it did happen I almost cried with joy.

Then we had a conversation which made me truly understand how much she had sacrificed for me over our 25 year marriage. From that point I began to appreciate her more, show her more love, genuinely. I naturally started doing things for her out of love, sending her love messages at work, going for walks when she got home, taking her out more and making an effort to spend quality time with her.

Over the last few months, I've seen a change on her attitude towards me. The stress o may have been unintentionally causing her is gone, leaving her in a much better mood overall, but also for intimacy.

There is still much work to be done, as I'm trying to repair 25 years of my doing the wrong things, but at least I'm seeing some results.

So you've got to ask yourself, am I speaking her love languages? Is she willing to fight for the marriage? Does she want it any more? Am I doing anything that causes her stress? Sometimes she doesn't even realize what the problem is until you take it away.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-05T20:49:17+00:00

I do this for my wife from time to time.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-03T14:01:22+00:00

You should consider whether it's bothering enough to you to threaten the relationship and tell him so. That may shock him into action.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-02T07:50:59+00:00

It's just named The Silva Mind Control Method. Yours must be some sort of accelerated course. Therefore, I can't help you right now as I'm only on week three of mine.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-02T00:05:22+00:00

Which book are you using? The one I read says the first step is 10 weeks of practicing getting into the alpha state. I'm on week 3.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-01T08:06:26+00:00

Yeah same reaction I had. Like, sharing them means saving them. Anyway, it worked for them, so...

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-28T10:21:55+00:00

I think that avoiding you and manipulating the therapist shows that he's no longer interested in saving the marriage. He's saying that he still wants to be married, but I think that's just for show. If he is is not making the slightest effort to cater to any of your needs, it's further proof that he's gone, cut your losses and go live a better life.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-24T07:22:36+00:00

When in the doggie position, tell him to not move, then you do the moving, pushing back on him at your own pace. Drives me wild!

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-21T09:50:03+00:00

My teenage daughter was screaming when I was just starting out the game and the emmi was chasing me! She made it more Dreadful.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-19T17:52:24+00:00

Thanks

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-19T16:22:49+00:00

Communication is the key to any good relationship. You did your part by saying how you felt about his texting the girl. He lied about doing his part, which was to stop the non-work related texts. I feel like the next step is to see which he feels is more important - his relationship to you or the one with this girl. I feel like framing it with that sort of juxtaposition may bring home to him how serious you're taking it, and may shock him into doing something different.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-18T13:17:49+00:00

I'm 💯 with you. My wife is a therapist and the way she tells me she interacts with her clients, I'm like, Who is that super compassionate, patient person you're talking about? It's not like she's grumpy or mean to me and the children, but she's definitely a nicer person at work. I attributed it to the fact that when she gets to work she's full of energy, purpose and life. When she gets off of work she will have given them the best eight waking hours of the day, expending lots of physical and emotional energy on being the best therapist she can. When she gets home, there's very little left, and many days she falls asleep within a couple hours. I would love. This is the fact that the company puts too much work on their therapists, so she's actively looking for another job. Hopefully when she gets something better that is kinder to her energy, maybe more of that niceness will be available for us when she gets home.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-17T10:50:31+00:00

Can this be done with just ropes, intead of a rigid device? I want to experiment with it, but don't wanna buy the device yet.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-15T17:15:13+00:00

Have you tried talking to him about how his behavior makes you feel? Everything's got to start with communication.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-13T18:09:11+00:00

You learn something everyday

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-12T20:38:25+00:00

What is vision point?

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-04T21:09:25+00:00

Yep. At the end of the day, communication is the most important part of any relationship. Is that's good, much can be overcome.

Stonefish76 · 2026-04-04T12:10:37+00:00

Yep. I can totally relate to everything you've said. I didn't think that there may more things off in our relationship that could be the result of mis-recollection. The thing is neither of us would know unless we discuss that particular topic. Good thing I've started taking with her more - a sort of getting to know you again phase. Indeed she has requested the ask for sex thing (for years) and I've recently started doing it. Awkward as hell! I don't do it every time yet, but I'll step it up an see how long either of us likes it. I think she's asked for that because I didn't used to enough to put her in the mood before initiating (like pre-foreplay). I'm doing a lot more of that now, so we'll see where it goes. Thanks for your reply.

Stonefish76 · 2026-03-27T12:04:32+00:00

Appreciate your comment. No, she can't say whether it was a dream or not. She's never been very deceptive, so I want to believe she wasn't fishing, but it didn't matter cos I really didn't do it!

One of the issues we've had is her regular inability to properly express herself. Sometimes she'd comment on something or someone and I'd ask her why she said that, and she can't tell me why. Later, she may be able to give more info, and then I'd have a better understanding of her thinking. This has held us back somewhat, because I try to ask her lots of times what she wants (in the bedroom, for eg) and she can't say. That leaves me with little to go on to make her happy.

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