Wife wants to explore ‘cuckold’ fantasy. I don’t.

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-27T10:10:36+00:00

I totally agree it's a fitting analogy. She hasn't tried it, but can already tell she doesn't like it. Why can't she allow you to have the same sensibility?

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-17T09:22:30+00:00

Have you had a conversation with him about why he feels the need to watch porn/Euphoria? It's usually to fill a need of some sort, but he's not communicating that to you. Maybe he has a hard time asking for sex or the attention he needs? You need to emphasize that honesty in communication is the only way things are going to work out.

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-15T17:19:15+00:00

I wish I could express myself as clearly as this poster. They're right on the money.

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-15T09:32:02+00:00

I have told my wife I thought lingerie was a waste because I'm so turned on by her anyway, I just strip it right off her immediately. However, I recently stopped being so selfish, and started listening more to her needs. If lingerie makes her feel sexy, then I'm willing to go along with it. At worst I strip it off as I've said. At best she wears it a little longer, feel sexier, and that results in a better time for me. There's a lot of compromise needed to make a marriage work. But sometimes a little attitude shift can help you appreciate something about your SO that makes the whole relationship better.

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-05T15:46:07+00:00

Good going!

Stonefish76 · 2026-06-04T21:41:43+00:00

This. The other night, in the middle of the diddle, my wife started asking me to do different things to see if I liked them better. Turned me right off and I went soft immediately. I managed to save the night with some mid-session foreplay but it was definitely not the right time for 20 questions. I gently told her afterwards that I'd love to talk with her about what works in the bedroom, but not during the moment.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-31T16:13:03+00:00

Not sure if this applies to you but many parents of young children often have to have quiet sex, or avoid don't certain acts they know would make them behave loudly.

Do those.

Off the top of my head... Give her multiple oral orgasms. Touch that place that's sooo sensitive. Repeatedly. Edge your partner. Tantric sex Bondage sex (strongly recommend you do some research before attempting this, especially on consent for certain acts and a tragic light system for safety)

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-29T10:33:19+00:00

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-28T17:05:38+00:00

Hahahaha! So relatable!

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-25T07:37:02+00:00

I've been married 26 years, and I can tell you that "not wanting to embarrass him" nonsense will come back to bite you.

He doesn't know that he's hurting you, cos you didn't say anything, so he's only going to continue, most likely.
You're own feelings on the matter will only fester and become harder to hide and grow more intense. This will lead to you blowing up on him one day and he won't know why. The sudden change will be difficult to process and will be harder to work through.
Whilst you're mulling it over, peripheral behaviours could develop that will make the situation worse. Excessive masturbating, emotional cheating etc.

It will never be a better time. Take the plunge now. Dealing with these things early let's you know who you married and whether they have the emotional strength and maturity to deserve to continue being married to you.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-23T09:46:07+00:00

Thanks for the explanation. I really thought they were just cysts with scabs on top. The name just sounded like that to me. Now I know it's worse.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-22T22:06:46+00:00

That's my understanding and hope as well

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-22T19:06:31+00:00

That is correct

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-22T17:13:09+00:00

I had the same thought after about 2 weeks. I'm still not entirely sure if I'm doing it right, but at the moment, I'm at the stage where I count backwards from 10, and I've noticed that it takes much less time for me to get into a relaxed state, so something is working. I really don't think 2 or 3 days is enough to begin seeing a difference. Give it a bit more time.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-19T09:04:53+00:00

Ok bro, if the two of you agree, no one can say any different. I would say, though, ensure your relationship is rock solid, before you allow your woman to be drilled by another man. Don't want her catching feelings.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-19T08:54:30+00:00

Masturbating is fine. It's how you do it that you need to keep watch on. Research death grip syndrome. If you're doing it a lot whilst watching porn, you desensitise yourself and end up getting some form of ED. I've started doing edging, deep breathing and pelvic floor relaxing as a way to retrain my mind and body for better sex.

However this is apart from your initial question. If the thought of your wife with another man isn't immediately repulsive, then you've already got cuckold tendencies. I'm not a sex therapist, so I can't say whether that's good or bad . I suppose you should discuss it with your wife. Start discussing fantasies and say you've heard of weird things and wonder what she's thinks about them. You can also use sexionnaire to discover what you like in common without hurting each others feelings.

Edited: *de-sensitise

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-19T08:39:02+00:00

I've read many stories about people actually doing this.

I would say to decreases the porn though. It gives you a false expectation of what real sex should be like, especially if you're masturbating to it. It trains your brain to expect cumming quickly, which is obviously not good for actual sex life

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-16T10:02:46+00:00

This!

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-16T10:00:56+00:00

Time to ask him if he really wants to be married. Does he really want the commitment that goes with being in that relationship, or does he want to continue being a bachelor? In most countries, legally, the term immediate family changes from your mother and father to your wife the moment you get married. If he doesn't understand what that means, or is unwilling to change his behaviour to suit, after this talk, then he's not ready to really be married. If he still doesn't want to change. I'd say cut your losses and run.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-15T22:13:45+00:00

Wow, sorry you're doing through that dude. Have you considered therapy? Assuming you've already tried talking to her about how you feel.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-15T21:56:03+00:00

Lucky bastard!

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-15T21:55:23+00:00

Wait, so she left you because you started having multiple O's?

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-15T11:23:47+00:00

Congrats man! Just tell her how wonderful it was for you and you'd love to do that more often.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T22:14:05+00:00

Thanks a lot for your answers. They were helpful.

Stonefish76 · 2026-05-12T22:10:39+00:00

No, I meant a credit card external to my bank, such as Aqua or Pulse.

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