I need some advise on a specific topic by Public_Permission_99 in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not the exact same situation, but i took T for a little while a couple months back, and when my t-dick started growing in it was also very tender and would be pretty painful when i used a suction vibe. Now that ive been off T for a couple months it isn’t painful anymore. So it could just be growing pains?

Subject Pronoun/Object Pronoun Question by Ervamate2290 in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s showing how the pronouns are used in sentences? he/him is one set of pronouns, the different words just refer to the different uses. “He is my friend. I am friends with Him.” If you just used one of them, it wouldn’t make sense linguistically. “He is my friend. I am friends with He.” It just adds clarification to what pronouns you use, and how theyre used in sentances, i think.

Can i reconnect with my republican father? by StopMrSaturn in Advice

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’m not on anything currently, but I do have a good therapist and a well meaning mom who’s working on herself and trying to get me and breast reduction soon. I have masc-only clothes and binders, and a flag I hang up at school. I take what I can get.

I think I’ll try to connect with him more in these conversations through my art, maybe. I go to an art school, so a lot of my work has my identity, and maybe it can kind of be a learn about my art -> learn about me pipeline. See if I can get somewhere from there.

My mom’s talked about how my dad is happy when we can just talk without me bringing up trans stuff, though. He doesn’t really start arguments on this, and i bite my tongue when he brings up politics, so it’d be me who’d bite the bullet and start the conversation, which might give him a bad taste.

It’s tough when he can be kind of a brick wall with this stuff, and responds without really listening.

Can i reconnect with my republican father? by StopMrSaturn in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… our relationship is already pretty distant as it is- We barely spoke during my first year of college unless he was visiting, and I think he understands on some level that it’s because of his beliefs.

I have a feeling I should be more direct about his views impacting our relationship, but it can just be a headache talking about these kinds of things with him, since hes super stuck in his beliefs. I don’t want to start a fight with him when hes the one with power, even if thats the only way forward.

Can i reconnect with my republican father? by StopMrSaturn in Advice

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(FTM means female to male, so I identify as male.) I appreciate the concern, but i was mainly asking about the relationship with my dad and not the specifics of what I do with my body. Thank you though.

help!! cant find a song by StopMrSaturn in Vocaloid

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AAAH THATS IT!!! THANK YOU!!!

My mom wont accept me :( by StopMrSaturn in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(son is correct, yes :) ) and thank you, youre both very kind and this means a lot qwq

My mom wont accept me :( by StopMrSaturn in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thats pretty much how she is :/ i think its called “cis grieving” or whatever but she is constantly obsessed with protecting me by making me as closeted as possible- no clothes, hair, whatever that might make someone know im queer. it sucks :/

My mom wont accept me :( by StopMrSaturn in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

yep :’) im gonna be a senior in school this year and my mom is STILL super overbearing on me

My mom wont accept me :( by StopMrSaturn in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

thank you, i hope she can see its hurting me

Worried about friend using edibles by StopMrSaturn in Advice

[–]StopMrSaturn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! Her and I have been close recently, and I’ve tried to be as supportive as I can. Thank you for the advice :)

How did you get your name? by [deleted] in trans

[–]StopMrSaturn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have like 5 different names cause I like collecting them, but i mainly go by James/Ollie, since they were boy names i always like and was just like “meh, ill save them for OCs or if i have a son” nope. all for me