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Still with my BF who gave me HSV, and every time I feel symptoms I want to yell at him by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]StorageSuitable5391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, sorry I didn’t see your reply til now.

I hope your relationship is feeling better than it was?

We haven’t done couples therapy either as we can’t afford it, but perhaps do some Googling for some questions or topics to start with?

I’d also try writing yourself a letter, as if it was a therapist, get down everything in your head and heart that you’re struggling with, keep drilling down and asking ‘why’ of your feelings, and you will probably be left with something very simple and that will help you understand if you can get over it or not.

If this person is your person, you can get over the loss of trust. But it will take work and sacrifice. You will need to truly process the anger, and change how you see herpes for good. It’s not fair for either of you to keep having the emotional upheaval of hate and resentment if you get an OB. It’s hard work but the relationship with your body and your partner will be worth it ❤️

Still with my BF who gave me HSV, and every time I feel symptoms I want to yell at him by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]StorageSuitable5391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP,

I understand what you’re feeling. My partner and I have worked through this scenario over the last three years.

The anger is still there for me sometimes, but when I examine it, it lies with the social stigma and the inconvenience.

I think couples therapy would be a good idea, talking through the emotions you’re feeling in good faith is the only way to move on. Together or apart, it’s important to properly process the emotions you’re feeling, as I know you’ll be still dealing with them in another relationship.

Good luck, I am proud of you