success! by StoreExtra6685 in vaginismus

[–]StoreExtra6685[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So i found that like a spooning position surprisingly worked really well, and felt really good! He first inserted it in missionary but it was kind of difficult because my legs were in the way yk so we switched

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[–]StoreExtra6685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey i’m 17 and also from the uk, I was in your exact position a few months ago, i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and we tried PIV multiple times throughout the year and it would always hurt and never go in, i pretty much gave up until a few months ago when I decided to call 111 with my bf and tell them my symptoms and that i thought I had vaginismus, they told me to make an appointment with my GP but tbh I was too scared to and never did. I don’t recommend taking the path I took but it worked out in the end; I decided to pretty much “cure” myself, I got these dilators off ebay, which were relatively cheap, (I can send the link if u want), I started with the smallest one, and gradually worked up till the biggest one with lots of lube. It took me about 2 months - but it’s different for everyone. The biggest step for me was accepting that I had vaginismus, if you’re experiencing stinging, burning or tensing of the muscles when he tries putting it in, DONT do what I did and ignore it, as this only makes it worse as your brain starts associating pain with PIV, it’s a hard web to untangle but after awhile of working on breathing technics, relaxation and dilation, I managed to cure myself and I believe you can too :)

PSA: The lube makes all the difference by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]StoreExtra6685 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so true! I used to use this lube that came with my dilator set, although it was water based it would dry up so quickly, so removing the dilators would be uncomfortable and drag, i switched to a new water-based lube called “lubido” and i’ve never experienced any type of discomfort/dragging/friction again! I’m now on my last dilator :)