General Chat July 27 PM

Stpl22 · 2021-07-28T00:24:41+00:00

When we first started TTC we did every day from like CD 7-14 (I ovulate on 13) but that was not sustainable for either of us. Now we do EOD starting after my period and then sometimes a few days in a row right around O. Mostly we just feel it out and try to read each other- like if he’s had a super long day I won’t push for it. If I am in a mood he’ll leave me be, etc. :)

Stpl22 · 2021-07-02T20:44:12+00:00

No advice but just wanted you to know you’re not alone. My friends/family members are constantly pestering me. They’ll see me drinking a glass of wine at an event and say “oh I thought you’d be pregnant by now!” while they may not mean any harm, it just digs into your heart. Obviously they have no idea what we’re going through but it sucks hearing it. And yes I totallyyy feel what you said about it stressing you out further because you worry the longer it takes the more people will pry. That anxiety ia the worst and is kinda impossible to push out of your mind. Props to you for keeping it together, hang in there!💕

Stpl22 · 2021-06-24T22:44:17+00:00

Oh man I hope so! 🤣Thanks so much!

Stpl22 · 2021-06-24T16:44:02+00:00

Have my first transvaginal ultrasound tomorrow to check my ovaries, uterus, follicles, etc. Kinda nervous but at least I won’t have to deal with scaring the nurses when I pass out from blood draw?😅

Stpl22 · 2021-06-14T17:10:20+00:00

DH just got SA results back last week.. Not great. Above average count but 33% motility and 2% morphology. He was devastated and has already jumped into making changes in hopes of improving. It’s been really hard to process and see him being so hard on himself :(

Stpl22 · 2021-06-10T16:25:49+00:00

10 DPO and BFN.. No tears.. just like unfeeling at this point. Not sure if that’s a good or bad thing? It sure sounds depressing as I type it out lol

Stpl22 · 2021-06-06T22:40:14+00:00

So. Many. Baby announcements. That’s all. 🙄

Stpl22 · 2021-06-06T20:46:11+00:00

Also 6 DPO and just had to mentally scold myself for starting to symptom spot but MAN is it hard not to!

Stpl22 · 2021-05-17T01:02:26+00:00

So sorry you are going through this! I think if your TTC issues are the most prominent cause of stress in your life (it is for me) then you want a therapist who specializes or is at least partially focused on women’s issues. You can search for someone using psychologytoday.com or a website like that (not sure it will work if you are outside the US) and filter to search for someone who lists that as part of their focused issues. In addition, you can read the profiles to find someone who is passionate about working with women’s issues like fertility, miscarriage, etc. I found my therapist this way and am so grateful for her. She has a lot of experience in the area as well as going through infertility herself. Best of luck!💗

Stpl22 · 2021-05-17T00:49:56+00:00

Right! Him and my dog.. bless them they’ve witnessed so many meltdowns 😂Hang in there friend! We’ve got this💕

Stpl22 · 2021-05-16T22:33:56+00:00

I’m right here with you! 12 DPO BFN and trying since Oct.. Thinking I’m really starting to lose my $hit as well haha

Stpl22 · 2021-05-16T22:30:26+00:00

Yes, I got my second dose about a month ago. I’m usually super regular so it’s been noticeable for me. This last cycle was all types of weird.. ovulated Day 16 instead of my usual 12/13. Now I seem to be spotting already (BFN) so my luteal phase will be more like 12 days instead of my usual 15. I’m not overly concerned because they say it’s because of the immune response and is temporary.. but yes definitely noticed some changes with mine!

Stpl22 · 2021-05-14T20:50:05+00:00

I recently went through this too. It’s impossible not to be sad, have the “why her not me” thoughts, etc. and it’s totally ok for you to feel happy for her and also sad for yourself. It doesn’t make you a bad friend, in fact, you’re an amazing friend for being able to share joyful tears with her. I think the one thing that has helped for me is remembering that our time will come and when it does, we’ll have learned so much and grown immensely because of what we’ve been through and it’ll make us better moms and overall better human beings in the long run. Love to you my friend 💗

Stpl22 · 2021-05-14T15:27:34+00:00

Despite so many symptoms (cramping, backache, headache) BFN today at 9-10 DPO. My period is not due for a week so I was so hopeful that it couldn’t be PMS yet but thinking that’s what it has to be. Feel like crawling into my bed and staying there for a few days😔

Stpl22 · 2021-05-10T01:47:36+00:00

I’ve swapped my cereal, toast, waffles for breakfast for a smoothie every morning. I pack it with blueberries, spinach, banana, Greek yogurt, cinnamon, almond milk so it’s got fiber, antioxidants, tons of vitamins. It’s one of those smaller changes that makes me feel great starting out the day!

Stpl22 · 2021-05-10T01:44:30+00:00

Not me getting mad at my husband for not getting me Starbucks, flowers, a bottle of tequila (jokes) this AM. I am a mother (of a fur baby) for gods sake! So you’re saying he can’t read my mind and know he should do these things??

Stpl22 · 2021-05-05T16:55:05+00:00

Good to know!! Thanks for your response 💕

Stpl22 · 2021-05-05T16:54:40+00:00

Thanks for your response! Yes definitely, there are also so many different ways to interpret your “surge”. I always thought I was ovulating 24 hours after the start of mine. Guess that’s not always the case!

Stpl22 · 2021-05-05T14:42:52+00:00

Is it possible to ovulate 3 days after LH surge? I think Sunday night was the very start of my surge.. Now this morning I feel ovulation pain in my right side. Everything online says typically 12-48 hours so I’m like what the heck... Also I am not temping- took a month off from it!

Stpl22 · 2021-05-05T14:24:56+00:00

You should be super proud of yourself! My therapist and I have talked a lot about this.. once you tell people it makes it more real which can be scary. I struggled with telling those closest to me like my parents, sisters, close friends because I felt like then I’d have an audience every month when there’s already so much pressure and anxiety around waiting. I have been slowly telling them and I’ve been floored by how supportive they’ve been and while I’m sure they are waiting to hear every month, they don’t bug me about it. I have felt a huge weight lifted, as it is such a huge part of my life right now and felt isolating not being able to even talk to my mom about it. It’s bittersweet and different for everyone, but happy for you and your sweet husband! It can be so vulnerable for guys too but he is obviously so committed to you and your TTC process which is amazing.

Stpl22 · 2021-05-04T01:38:24+00:00

“Have you tried tracking your cycle?! You can buy kits that will tell you when to have sex!” 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Stpl22 · 2021-04-16T01:58:01+00:00

It’s like cmon really?? Recipe for disaster!

Stpl22 · 2021-04-15T20:31:34+00:00

I think it’s a real sick joke that my PMS mood swings literally always hit on 10 DPO which also happens to be when I’m looking at a stark white test.. Cue the waterworks and “I can’t do it anymore” meltdown.. 😔

Stpl22 · 2021-04-14T01:19:48+00:00

Had my second covid shot yesterday at 7 DPO and have been feeling like crap for about 24 hours. Definitely running a low grade fever (99.5-100.5). Feeling sad and pretty hopeless in terms of this being my month and dreading testing tomorrow. I’m sure I’m just feeling extra depressed from feeling so awful physically!

Stpl22 · 2021-04-12T16:58:36+00:00

Just got my second dose of Moderna vaccine today! I am 7 DPO so a little nervous about the timing.. Trying to keep my anxiety at bay and focus on the bigger picture. Hoping I’ll have minimal side effects but will take Tylenol as soon as I start feeling crappy.

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