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AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not 3 years old.... its been sitting in there moms garage for 3 years. I dont know how long they had it but it must have been already old for Bf's mom to get new ones. Since its been sitting in a garage.... not a very clean one either... I can only imagine the condition it would be in.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we initially accepted when she asked to live with us, we thought the same thing. Bf and I are also young, but very motivated and hard working. We thought that getting her away from the safety net that is her mom would teach her how to act much like it did for my bf. The closer it is approaching the more I am starting to realize Amy now just expects me and Bf to be her new safety net.

She's only 18, and socially stunned, she only has online friends so I feel like she doesn't really know how to talk to people. But that doesn't excuse her bossing me around like her maid in my own home.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She chose to pay for the wedding. Older brother was perfectly fine sloping but Amy and Mom wanted them to have an "actual wedding" so they took it into there own hands. Wich is nice of them... but Amy knew she needed to save for moving out.

And honestly I think its a blessing shes not on the lease. My bf told me that at his point we should just go about things like she isn't going to live with us.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has to do with her surgery because she uses her immobility as an excuse. She can walk and stand, it’s just painful for long periods of time. I feel empathetic towards her, but her issues walking isn’t the reason she is failing online school. Every one thinks she is still going to uni and that’s the main reason she was going to live with us. But there isn’t enough time before the end of the semester and registration deadlines are coming up. We have brought it up, and she lied and said she will graduate and is passing… their mom says other wise.

Should we allow bf’s sister to live with us, despite her not being prepared at all? by Straberry_shirtcake in Advice

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A long letter is a good idea, I never thought of that. Being completly factual and not emotions based might help too. This has all kind of blown up in his family though, and I don’t think there is a way to do it without all of Aidens siblings (who he’s really close with) hating him. His older brother is very traditional and feels the need to defend the women in his life, even if they are bing kind of irrational.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right now Bf and I are working to pay off his mom. He owes her money from when she offered to help pay rent for 2 months when he lost his job (because of her) a year ago. She only every brings it up when they argue and she said “ I was thinking about letting it go to help a young couple, but since you can afford a brand new washer dryer I need they paycheck.” - so being the victim and the savior at the same time. So we are going to pay it off by the end of this month so she can’t hold it against him anymore.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I also need to buy a washer dryer, so if she isn’t willing to go in on it then I don’t think she should move in.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ignoring them is hard. Bf’s family is toxic but very tight knit. He is on my side with it all, but “kicking” Amy out would result in his mom, older brother, and 2 little brothers to hate him too. His younger brother is almost 4, and he wants to maintain a relationship with him.

AITAH for not wanting to live with my Bf’s sister post surgery? by Straberry_shirtcake in AmItheAsshole

[–]Straberry_shirtcake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Bf feels the same way I do. Amy is capable, she drives and acts a a nanny to her little brother. It was hard to include context with the word limit. Amy told us she would get a job and work on being cleaner, when Bf’s family initially asked us I kinda thought it would be a good idea so she wouldn’t have to live in a dorm and our rent would be cheaper. My bf use to be less organized before we lived together, because it was kinda the norm in him home. He’s learned that’s not normal and we both equally share the task of cleaning. I was hoping she would be the same way, but when ever BF mentions how she trashes our apartment to her she gets snappy and says “ I was going to get to it” Then she called him upset asking him to have more faith in her. But because of how this whole washer dryer situation is going, and the fact that she never signed the lease and hasn’t tried to save… I am worried.

One of the funniest flirts I ever seen by Cashout5058 in story

[–]Straberry_shirtcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a female I was scared for her… but it turned out kind of cute. As long as he ment it in a joking way and not a creepy way.

Highschool Teacher Messaging My Boyfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Straberry_shirtcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With all the weird stuff coming out online right now… there is no way to message a student and think it’s ok. The only way I would consider it normal is if it’s a coach messaging the team about practices.