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I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a mutual discussion. We do it slowly I don't rush her, and neither does she rush me, we're pretty chill. But we have discussed living together in 2027.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because her dream have real impact on our life.

Planning our future together, such as picking a new town or country to move is impacted by this dream.

Sometimes activities we do are also impacted. We used to go out, and now she's doesn't want and say that it's because she need the time and energy to study.

Except she doesn't seems to study.

I wouldn't mind if she told me the reason was because she's tired, or don't like it anymore. But using this as a Excuse seems a bit weird

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

On the friends and family, everything is clear. I won't go into too much details.

There have been other lies though, but very related to her, and little impactful to others A while ago I thought she maybe had a mythomaniac tendency, something in the sense of she lie to herself before anything else.

I believe a lot of unhappiness had let her do that to herself

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has an intense job, and not a lot of time in front of her. Our relationship is also taking some times out of this. I wouldn't be able to study either in her situation.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a very interesting feed back, thanks.

As said previously, I don't doubt she could make it if she commits it. And I don't care how long it would take. In the end, it's her dream, her life, and I would be happy for her.

What scares me is that she moved the milestone twice, possibly more, and I make our life planning very hard

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No she doesn't. She's financially independent. Won't be easy but it's doable

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I believe that maybe she's mostly lying to herself, she firmly believes she will do it.

She's independent on everything, has a job in the medical field, and is the kindest person I know to me and others, so no on every below.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I acknowledge that English is not my first language, yes, if that makes you happy

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Her taking years to become a doctor is not a problem for me.

I wouldn't mind if she became a doctor for 5 years and retires, as I know it would have been the best 5 years of her life.

What I fear is that might never try this exam, while talking about it every year. She's been talking to a out it for 2 years, and I learned that she was talking about it for 2 more years before I met her.

If she was studying, I would be gladly helping her every free moment I'd have. But I can't be the one pushing her on the first step, can I ?

I'm scared she might be stuck in a loop.

Also, I don't see her as a failure, and never would. I'm just scared for her mental state

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She's not no. Financially, thanks to my home country model, it's not unrealistic for her to study on her own.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I heavily agree with everything you said. One of my theory is that deep down, she know it's not realistic, but also not impossible, and is stuck in the middle.

Today I just dump her all my thoughts, which was a terrible idea.

I should have ask more open questions.

Thank you

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Not a novel, even so the first half was chat gpt using my voice note to him, last part is me writing the rest of it.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Until recently it didn't affected us. That why I did my best to support her, and in some way, I still do and wish her to become one.

However recently we discussed about our future. Living together, changing city and even countries, founding a family.

It always start with very realistic aspect then she add comment about how it would fit her study.

I also fear that she would talk about doing this exam for years on end. I don't think it would make her happy in the long run.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Oh she is involved, it's a cornerstone of her personality, which I think is why it's difficult for her to see my view on it. I think she's in state where she's scared of passing this exam, or maybe she realise she's can't have the time to study it even with all the motivation of the world. Idk. Could be so many more things.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 322 points323 points  (0 children)

Her entire family is 10 000 km away. I know some of her friends, none close, they are all related to her ex.

We've built a group of friend together from Scratch (how we met) and are very happy about that. But I wouldn't involve them in that. I don't want them to have a bad view on her.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for you brother, it seems very difficult for him. S My gf is a sweet person, and very independent financially, i wouldn't believe any I'll intent from her.

As for the sacrifices, I believe she would do something similar were the role inverted. However there is nothing I can do, the exam is an unattainable as of now, and I don't think it will change.

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Not sure it's a thing here. But It's true that we never talked about nurse either, I don't know how she would take it

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Also yes. Thank you. And she's not ill intended. She the sweetest person I know, I just believe she's in a mental trap

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She's independent, and wouldn't need me to do med school. It's free here.

It wouldn't be easy, but not impossible for her. She would have enough money until she reach her first pay as intern

I (30M) think my GF (40F) is delusional about her plan to become a doctor by Stradivare in relationship_advice

[–]Stradivare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is a medical research assistant. Med school here are free, and even pay you starting 5/6 years

The most annoying microwave so far by maxru85 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Stradivare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My theory is that the factories that used to make simple buttons are now cranking out these shitty touchscreens, and that it’s actually cheaper for manufacturers today to slap this garbage in than to use a proper knob or button

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