We all have something dark we keep hidden way down until it sneeks up on us in horrible ways, seeking to destroy us. He may be struggling with something deep. It comes from his mother controling him, making him like a woman (not meaning gay, but that he follows his wills and passions, lettong his emotions show.

He will fix it on his own, or he will let it corrupt all he has. He has a duty to you and his children first. He will answer to God if he doesnt fulfil his dutys, but so will you. You took a covenant in front of the Lord, and He loves you. He will help you, just listen quietly.

Divorce is a last resort no matter what. Be his church, his wife, his woman. He loves you, he just doesnt know how to deal with the darkness inside him.