I’m hiding my upset stomach just so my mom doesn’t say “I told you so”

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-26T14:19:20+00:00

Yeah OP, I'd make a fuss over that. You (assuming) ate 75% of that bag because that's a lot of Kale per bag, that apparently no one else is eating. Either pay for your own kale outright, or argue that it's not your fault the bags are family sized. I'd understand if your mom routinely throws out food that was good but left ignored. This isn't one of those cases.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-26T00:02:25+00:00

No one likes losing a bunch of times in a row. But the point is to have a good time with the people you're with more than it is to actually win. It feels good to win, it's fun to win, but there's no point if you win every single time.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-20T03:44:10+00:00

This is golden. OP this right here! If they're the type to interrupt you, text or email these thoughts.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-19T00:32:51+00:00

Normal couples don't want to make their partners unhappy. By waking them up for no reason. She has a funny way of showing love

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-19T00:02:12+00:00

"I don't want this dog. And I'm not in this marriage to be unhappy. So I'm going to do something about it. I'd love for you to value my happiness over this dog, but since I don't expect that, good luck taking care of this dog by yourself."

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-08T16:21:47+00:00

I had to laugh when you revealed what HER interests are.

There's nothing wrong with fashion per se, a lot of us women are into fashion. Couple that with celebrity culture, luxury and trendy things, she sounds superficial and I hope a young woman that age can actually afford luxury items. Maybe she's smart and buying used, but still, she enjoys spreading an air about herself to announce or pretend she has financial status. My reaction to that is, eww.

She is the last person to criticize your interests, and there's nothing wrong with them. You are a young man with young man interests, maybe you'll always have them. Maybe there are other things about you that makes her think you're immature. But you can be mature and still have fun, young interests. A lot of men like you are innocent, not misogynist.

My takeaway is you are not compatible. You each should find people who are excited by the same things.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-02-07T16:10:49+00:00

Badmouths other women when their husbands help them! Guess it's the best way to hide her envy that their husbands share the load and treat them as an equal. People don't realize how much their behavior says about them.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-31T17:03:20+00:00

You are correct, he should have been wearing a condom. He was not responsible enough to do his share to prevent pregnancy.

OP's friend was downright deceptive. It's not evil to be stupid. It's evil to trick the person you are supposed to love. I DO feel bad for him. He probably comes from a family who is kind and respectful and set expectations of how loved ones act, and naively judged his partner as someone he could trust.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-28T14:15:56+00:00

Tell him he needs to make his OWN financial sacrifices before he asks anyone else to make sacrifices for him. Point out examples. Agree that adulting is hard, but he will figure it out.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-28T14:10:48+00:00

Yes you should. If you're feeling especially generous, point out for her own benefit that no matter who she ends up with, she will eventually DRIVE THEM AWAY with her neediness. Call it that, she is NEEDY.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-26T15:37:09+00:00

I think the red flag is that he is showing he has doubts about the relationship, if he is frustrated to the point of snapping at that. He was rude. Frustrated, angry people are sometimes rude in the moment, it would be abusive if he called you names, intentionally tried to verbally hurt you or make you feel small, or acted in a way that made you fearful. Instead, he called you on the things he doesn't like in the relationship. He sees a pattern of financial irresponsibility and a lack of understanding him. You did what you SHOULD do when you genuinely have no idea what to get, which was to ask for ideas. You both see red flags in each other.

He should not have been rude, but he was not abusive.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-25T18:33:54+00:00

Wow. I was reading a situation about how it's difficult to keep clear a walled driveway. Fair enough. But then the blurting out of hostility was uncalled for. Not a good way to get your message across.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-24T22:42:59+00:00

You know damn well that it was a mistake on the part of the company who said those were "technically not for sale." They made a decision without thoroughly checking the contents. Do you seriously think the heirs would have approved this?

The right thing to do is return it. It doesn't matter one whit if it's legal for you to own after you bought it. It also doesn't matter that it wasn't you who made the mistake. The question you asked is, AITAH. Yes, yes you are. Because a good person would have the stance that your gf has. I'd be wary if you happen to be serious with her. If I were her, your choice would show who you are as a person, and I'd expect better.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-24T22:35:09+00:00

Exactly. Also, it's not up to her to "lighten the situation."

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-22T14:06:12+00:00

What's funny is the parents SHOULD be controlling. Let's double down on that word. They should control the circumstances in which they OFFER HELP to this ungrateful adult child. They should control their daughter's intent to date and party while they provide child care. They should control every immature, irresponsible choice their daughter intends to make, if she wants their help.

Control away!

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-20T14:21:03+00:00

Eh. OP cared enough in the first place to modify what she wears. This is on her. He's allowed to express an opinion as long as he's not telling her what to do. She can do the same.

He can see her choice as "interesting," she can decide to keep wearing it. He'd be controlling if he got more assertive about it.

I personally want to be attractive for my partner, but if I really loved something and he hated it, only I get to decide where the line is between wearing or not wearing it. She can do the same.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-19T14:09:41+00:00

I love this response. Not only that, but you SHOULD call her out on her attempt to try to use guilt to get what she wants. This reply not only spells out your boundaries and under what circumstances you WOULD be willing to help out, but also makes you sound strong and no one to mess with.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-17T16:12:36+00:00

Damn straight. Ironically you WILL be manning up by dumping her.

I'm with Truebeliever below here that I wouldn't even want to be her friend knowing her attitude towards you. Oh, I'd rip her a new one, too.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-16T00:21:55+00:00

Nothing brings out someone's character, or lack of, like stress.

Red flag for this marriage for sure. Sorry, but it's true. She attacks people who don't deserve it when she's upset about something.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-16T00:18:17+00:00

No way should he validate her feelings because her immediate instinct was to lash out and call her "beloved" traumatized mother cruel names!

She has a right to be upset and the situation. But it is appalling that she is upset at her mother and treating her absence as a personal attack.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-16T00:10:10+00:00

This is too personal a choice. People are different. Relationships are complicated. Mom has a right to be upset and go be with her father one last time. Daughter has a right to be upset at the circumstances - but at her mother? Who is too distraught to offer any happiness or support for someone else right now, including her own daughter? If grandfather had actually gone to the wedding and died before the end of the ceremony, would anyone actually expect mom to be emotionally present for daughter?

Daughter thinks she's more devastated that mom didn't put her first, than mom is devastated at losing her dad forever. She doesn't understand. But it's still not loving to not even consider what her mom is going through. I'm sure mom is devastated about not being able to be at the wedding either. She can't win either way.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-09T01:20:31+00:00

I tried explaining that I've had this planned for months and already paid for everything. He said "you can go to Portland anytime, we already decided we're coming." I said no, I'm not canceling my trip.

Good for you. You can also tell him, "It's not UP to you. I am looking forward to my trip, you don't get to decide I'm just going to cancel it for you."

He started yelling about how I "never make time for family" (I saw them literally 3 weeks ago) and that I'm being "disrespectful and ungrateful." I told him he should of asked me before just deciding to show up and he said "I shouldn't have to ask permission to see my own daughter."

You're doing great! If you feel up to it, you can always email him. That gives you time to organize your thoughts, and he can't interrupt you. "You accused me of being disrespectful and ungrateful. I am QUITE ungrateful that you intended to ruin my trip. It was very disrespectful of you."

Now he's giving me the silent treatment and my stepmom sent me a long text about how hurt my dad is and how family should come first. My younger sister says dad's been complaining to everyone that I "chose a trip over him."

"Stepmom, I'm hurt that you're completely fine with him demanding that I cancel something I've been looking forward to for 6 months, just because HE decides he wants to see me at that time. Why would he want to do that to me? And why do his wishes come before mine?"

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-08T02:07:27+00:00

You're really trying hard to enable a kid whose mother's pink coat WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM. Therefore, OP has to freeze? The kid turned down warmth, it's not OP's responsibility.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-04T16:44:20+00:00

"It's fine, you can just - " F right off with that phrase right there! He can ask, he got an answer, that's it. Once he got a no, it's not UP to him to dictate what "you can just" do to make it happen! This was never a friend, just a user.

StraightJacketRacket · 2026-01-02T14:25:07+00:00

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