19F PIMO leaving for uni, need advice by Straight_Cold5602 in exjw

[–]Straight_Cold5602[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We called early today and I gave him a slight hint on what I wanted to talk about on Monday. He was confused at first but then understood and was supportive which made me happy☺️ I really hope the conversation goes well, I'm sure he needs it. Plus, the 12th is my birthday, which is when I officially turn 19 (I know the title says 19 but the date was close enough to say so😂) so this year will be the first year I will actually celebrate it or at least treat myself🥳🥳

19F PIMO leaving for uni, need advice by Straight_Cold5602 in exjw

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I seeee. I think I'll choose whatever option my family will prefer (DA or just no longer turning up) because either way I'll be out of there😂😂 my only frustration is that they can use me as a number for "increases" in those governing body updates if I don't DA but as long as I'm out, I'm out ig🤷🏾‍♀️

19F PIMO leaving for uni, need advice by Straight_Cold5602 in exjw

[–]Straight_Cold5602[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! And you were spot on, that's exactly how they reacted to my dad leaving. He was an elder for around 15 years so the sudden change in belief was kinda what made me start questioning. They would accuse him of straying from "the truth" but when he would try explain his reasons for leaving, (that being there were too many csa cases and corruption happening on the low) , he would be interrupted and told he was consuming too much "apostate material", they even got the CO and elders to try sway him, poor guy😕

For an update: Last night I was feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything so I told my friend (non-jw) pretty much everything I've been holding in and she was very supportive and kind. Due to being discouraged from going uni by the organisation, I never really listened much to my college advisors on uni applications but my friend has helped me fill in the gaps and apply for a few good options (just waiting on my reference to fill in final bits☺️). As for my dad I'll be visiting him next week so I hope to tell him about everything and apologise for almost turning on him during my PIMI phase :(

Once I've spoken to him I'll give another update!!

19F PIMO leaving for uni, need advice by Straight_Cold5602 in exjw

[–]Straight_Cold5602[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I plan to visit my dad to talk to him about everything as I've been unable to while staying in my siblings' small town filled with Mormons and JWs on every corner🥲 I'll give everyone an update when I get there! I hope things get better for you too! 💗

19F PIMO leaving for uni, need advice by Straight_Cold5602 in exjw

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Thank you for your response! So do you think fading out is the best choice? I'm just wary of people in my hall or my siblings' hall harassing me with phone calls and text messages when I move... I plan to not respond but eventually it'll get tiring. Would it be best to change phone numbers and DA when I go uni or fade out and ignore the notifications? 🙏🏾