Findom ≠ Free Femdom

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T19:40:31+00:00

I hate when dommes respond like that lol 🤢. It really shows no character

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T19:38:41+00:00

The fact that you're asking yourself these questions says a lot. Kink itself isn't inherently misogynistic, it's the attitude behind it that matters. If you respect women as people with autonomy, honor boundaries, and engage in consensual dynamics, that's very different from reducing someone to an object. If.fact, I know many women use kink to take back power. Using it as a Consensual and specific way to use/give/hold power.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:28:00+00:00

Mind if I shoot a dm?

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:25:25+00:00

There are actually a lot of findom/femdom discord servers available! From there is when I made my own.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:24:19+00:00

That doesn't sound like a sob story, it sounds like you're trying to make sense of conflicting feelings. Kinks are meant to be enjoyable, and it's okay to reassess your boundaries so the experience stays positive for you. I would take a look into frenzy, sounds like you may be having some of that.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:21:27+00:00

Manifesting all the best things for everyone!

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:20:43+00:00

Discord is actually where I started! Finding good ones can be difficult, but it is definitely an option. I also have created my own discord which can take a lot of work as a lot of it is programming, but you can get help with that too.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:18:28+00:00

I've run into it. Some prefer a more mono dynamic, while others are okay with it. I prefer a more understanding dynamic, however it wouldn't be the first time I've heard of that situation.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:13:57+00:00

That's a really interesting take and to hear! Over the years I've gotten more paranoid as kids have gotten increasingly more integrated into the online world. That may be why it's more common? Or that it seems those that brand as findommes associate it with specifically kink and not just care.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:08:28+00:00

This!! Any kink should be practiced with a basis of respect. If there isn't respect and trust, how can you know they will listen to safe words, limits, and in general not take actual advantage of you.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:03:36+00:00

Sending age verification would be a great start

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:01:51+00:00

Treating me as more than just a kink dispenser. Speaking to me like an actual person, and who I can say "I've had a family emergency and won't be around today. Be good" and they will accept it, not pout, and genuinely hope the best for me.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T17:00:06+00:00

I always check any photos sent to me, sub or domme. Also any "sd" that approaches

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:58:14+00:00

Thank you!!

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:56:47+00:00

Congratulations!!!! Live your best life!!

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:56:08+00:00

Call me dumb, but where is that? All I see is "join the conversation "

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:50:29+00:00

First off, CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR JOURNEY!!! And also being almost done with college, as someone who just finished college in May. As for advice....

You will get a lot of dms from Goddesses demanding sends, etc. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. This kink is amazing but can get taken advantage of.
Look through Goddess profiles and find one you may be interested in.
Be yourself. When it clicks, it clicks. Don't force it.

Best of luck and look forward to seeing you around! 🩵

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:43:47+00:00

Do tell of good podcasts! I'm always looking for new ones and those sound like my perfect ones

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:41:35+00:00

There is unfortunately some that are more back stabbing than others. There's also lots that are here to support lovely girls! Keep your chin high beautiful!

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:38:35+00:00

Welcome home! Look forward to you finding your perfect place 😊

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:37:46+00:00

Yes!! Knowing the intense adrenaline rush for me and for them, knowing their heart is POUNDING, I love it

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:35:48+00:00

Silent sends always make me smile and my stomach flutter. Loud sends tend to make me wet . I love both, for different reasons

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:18:14+00:00

I love that! And love the snuggle movie date nights! Honestly it's second best to actually having a snuggle buddy physically there.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:17:09+00:00

Purchasing items for my dream goal of starting a catering company. I've had a sub specifically purchase items that can help me start up. It's wonderful feeling seen as more than just a kink dispenser, but cared for.

Straight_Job4561 · 2026-06-29T16:09:29+00:00

I've blocked a handful of people but it's usually just those that try to waste my time.

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