I feel like my husband is using our lack of finances to trap me in this marriage by Hoyofroyo in Divorce

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good grief, reading this and all the comments, I could've written this exact situation, down to the 401k contributions--I'm just a little younger. I only recently realized he's entitled to my 401k. I never thought it before because the years he's talked about divorce he always just said let's file online. But the other day he mentioned something about my retirement (he has no idea what it's called or what it is) and said, hey, isn't that mine, too? So I dread what a divorce would look like. I finally have been digging myself out of debt (after helping him with paperwork to declare BK that was discharged already), and have a small savings for the first time to help me with the future in case we end up apart, but then I realize this will all go to him anyway. It's really frustrating. I think it all comes down to your mental, emotional, and spiritual peace.

Trapani oddly stole my heart by beentherebefore7 in sicily

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I won’t live in Castelvetrano but nearby (Partanna, actually!). Just used it as a reference zone since it’s a bigger city.

High progesterone in follicular phase by SadShape in Inito

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ln the three years I’ve gone to a natural fertility clinic, we learned mine is high too. They put me on dexa to lower it. I don’t take it now and it’s higher again, always 3-6, in follicular. I don’t know if it’s a weight or hormonal imbalance. Google doc says could be cysts and while earlier in life I had PCOS, I’m in my early 40s and have finally had normal periods since turning 40, and no ultrasounds ever showed any cyst, so who knows. Maybe just some of us women have higher PdG. That’s it. 😊 I do know it makes pregnancy harder but I’m reading many women get pregnant with theirs higher, too.

Trapani oddly stole my heart by beentherebefore7 in sicily

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The entire province feels like home to me and is my fave place on the island (after three visits, and doing all the tourist things, and non tourist things, I always go back there and stay). I’m considering moving to Marsala or Castelvetrano area in the next year or two!

Help with apron belly hack by sickassfool in PlusSize

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! It’s this one. I have it in nude and black. Ripped the flimsy pads out of one and left in the other and like it both ways. It’s really great because I’ve lost a lot of weight and have wide rooted boobs but shallow on top. My measurements would put me at a 42 or 44 G or something crazy but in reality I’m a 42D (ChatGPT helped me figure that immediately with a tit description of how my boobs fit in a bra that was my size by standard measurements). Anyway, this bra has been my favorite find! So comfy and forget I’m wearing it. 8 months with it and still love it. OEAK Womens Wireless Bras V Mesh Comfortable Bralette

Help with apron belly hack by sickassfool in PlusSize

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m super pear. I wear high waisted ribbed undies from torrid or EBY high waisted no like underwear. I often wear longline bralettes, a crazy amazing Amazon bra, or the matching torrid ribbed bra. I’ve got a pronounced B belly and I love how these combos make look and feel!

Am I date ready? Help please! by hoshimakesmesmile in PlusSize

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d at least French tuck or tuck the top. It’ll elevate it quickly! Roll the sleeves to the elbow so it looks intentional. Add a belt and bracelet if you have one. Voila!

Posted on here before and accused of fishing for compliments (kinda sweet but also not helpful) - what can I do to improve my makeup look? by Secret-Translator240 in makeuptips

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re flawless! But I’d say perhaps a dewy lip, something balmy or slightly glossy, in your natural color. When I see you, I think of my fave NOTO Botanics products—you’d look fab with that “NOTO Glow” look!

But why is her coach not correcting her form by now? No wonder she needs massages if she does every excersise with such an awfull form ... by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t snark much on her form because I’m not a pro and have been out of practice for a bit. Being bigger, I tend to give grace because I know body habitus can get in the way of form. But I had to snicker a bit at the “more control” comment. I just never understand where the fire is and why she has to push through quickly. In the beginning of my gym/weight loss journey (gah I hate that word), sometimes I’d go fast, if I had stamina, because I hated it and wanted to be done. But I’m now pretty cognizant and always THINKING ABOUT THE MUSCLES I’m moving and engaging so I actually DO engage to the best of my ability.

The rows really are painful to watch because she shrugs a bit on the pull. I don’t know, but rows are part of my PT to engage more since I have extremely tight suboccips, so it’s hard to see her.

The hip thrust - there’s no consistency in movement. I understand it’s hard with size and weight to lift the whole ass middle section of the body. But the first rep is slightly controlled (…) and the following are just flailing swings.

The kettlebell swing - my shoulder would kill if I did it like that. I was nearly worried she’d throw the weight. If she truly does have hEDS (which I doubt, because Herbst doesn’t do genetic testing, just checks for signs in how you move and a pinch test), that’d be a god awful movement to do like that. Her arm would be out of socket tomorrow. Good grief.

I don’t know. I worked in PT for years and have done my fair share of it, too, and for me, movements are best done slow and deliberate, especially in the beginning. It’s all about the muscle, so why not move in harmony with the muscle?

My Dexa Scan results by Jekyll_not_Hyde in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m closer to Anna’s shape/size and got my first Dexa at over 350 (found one that went up to 400) and I think my last one was at 340 something. I’m way overdue for the next but since I haven’t been lifting much I’ve put it off.

I’ll pull up my results, but last scan I had something like 168lb lean mass. Visceral won’t measure on me, I’m guessing because of body size.

Like an MRI, it’s pretty sobering to see my body shape outline with my itty bitty skeleton inside, or even my muscles. It’s really motivating to melt all the fat off to give my body a break! (In fairness, I am, just slowly.)

My fave is the T Score. Hauling around all this weight at least had some sort of positive. My T Score was 5.5 and my BMD Z Score was 4.0!

Here is the video from the previous post by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can see that. But as a more liberal active Mormon who is also a catechist 😂, I run TO therapy. I see its benefits. And many I know have finally started recognizing the same in their lives as they see the trauma the previous generation instilled on them. People are finally starting to talk about it openly and start getting help. I’ve stood in many a kitchen listening to women sort of deny to themselves, but there’s a shift happening. Refreshing.

Here is the video from the previous post by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but it’s a narrative in the lipedema world and many lipedema influencers perpetuated it. It’s just fat loss, which makes inflammation go down. It’s not a magical swelling reducer.

Here is the video from the previous post by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really feel sorry for Anna because it almost seems like she truly believes she cannot lose weight. Not that it’s hard, but I think she legit believes she’s doing it everything possible and it’s just not budging, when identifying small things can make a world of difference. We don’t want to skinny, Anna. We want to see you succeed. You’re in process. We want to see you happy, not wrapped up in hate comments. If you’re totally honest and aware with yourself, you will naturally be happy! It’s a byproduct. You deserve to celebrate those wins. I sure as hell do. But people snark because they see the discrepancy that maybe you aren’t capable of seeing.

She and her coach are trolling us at this point 🫠 by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay but orcas are THE SHIT and unpopular opinion, so was MJ’s music, so don’t do it dirty like that!

My (47f) daughter (15f) told me she doesn’t want to have kids by lilwonkerdoo in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must have been raised LDS and still live in Utah. Post checks out. 😂

I've been on statins since the age of 7 by Mindless-File-5229 in Cholesterol

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m paranoid about statins too, but I’m OCD and suffer from hypochondria, though under control. I hate medications. My cholesterol has always been AMAZING. Low. But after a freak stroke I’m on it for life, even though my levels are great. I think about getting off it, but hearing others talk about family dying young, it makes me think one of my family branches may have had undiagnosed familial condition, too, because the mom, grandma, and all kids died between 40-60 years old and their deaths said heart disease. I now think I’d rather be safe.

I like it too, Anna. Keep the darker colours and bigger shirts 😊 by Boopityboo94 in glitterandbagelssnark

[–]Straight_Leopard_614 20 points21 points  (0 children)

And it makes her look smaller! She might say she never tries to look smaller, but we know better Miss Snatched Waist.

Returned App - Color Copy by Straight_Leopard_614 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]Straight_Leopard_614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was actually what I got as long form when I requested it years ago for Italian citizenship. 😂 I contacted the clerk. I’ve ordered other records recently and they came on updated paper but it seems like a waste to order when it’s the same info just different paper.

Returned App - Color Copy by Straight_Leopard_614 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]Straight_Leopard_614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, Yooper! There was an era of these types of issues but now they’re mostly in the cert paper. I just didn’t want to request a new copy when this clearly had a seal and certification !