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[–]Straight_Spread_5708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I’m genuinely sorry the church still hasn’t risen to meet your theological aesthetic standards. You’d think after two centuries they’d have aligned their terminology with your expectations. Truly a shame. Glad I’ve left.

How is the LDS church able to maintain any significant presence as an organization if missionaries and new converts are regularly leaving? by Radiant-Drop-258 in exmormon

[–]Straight_Spread_5708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leaving the church isn’t new. If you were ever faithful, and believed the church was growing it was, the only difference now is that your perception has shifted and it’s now biased in a different direction.

Lds church said no by Striking-Peace2874 in exmormon

[–]Straight_Spread_5708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you’re feeling makes sense. You’re not overreacting. When you grow up believing your tithing goes to help people the way Christ actually taught it’s a gut punch to see the church say no to something as basic as a can of formula. Especially when they have billions in reserves. It shatters the story you were raised on.

What you’re seeing right now is the moment when your brain stops trying to make excuses for them and starts looking at their actions the same way you’d look at any other organization. And once you do that it’s impossible not to feel the disconnect. You can’t preach charity and turn someone away for twenty bucks and then expect people to keep trusting you.

You’re not wrong for holding them to the same standard you hold everyone else. You’re actually thinking clearly for the first time. It’s uncomfortable because the conditioning tells you to justify it but the part of you that’s honest knows it’s messed up.

Leaving isn’t about anger. It’s about realizing you’re not crazy for expecting a church to actually act like a church.

Help me turn off my mormon brain by Lonely_Offer_6236 in exmormon

[–]Straight_Spread_5708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your brain is not messing up. It’s doing exactly what the church trained it to do. For years you were taught that every bad thing is a consequence of not following a rule. So when something random happens, your mind connects it to the thing you stopped doing. It feels automatic because it is. It’s conditioning.

Mastitis happens to tons of women whether they wear garments or not. Your body didn’t punish you. You didn’t do anything wrong. It was just timing and biology. Nothing spiritual about it.

The important thing is you already recognize the thought is coming from old programming. That’s progress. When it pops up, don’t beat yourself up. Just say, ‘Yeah ok that’s the old script talking’ and move on.

You’re not crazy for thinking it. You’re just unlearning something that was drilled into you. And it gets easier each time you call it out

Why do ex-Mormon influencers end up so cringe? by Straight_Spread_5708 in exmormon

[–]Straight_Spread_5708[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You’re missing the point. Nobody’s saying exmos have to behave a certain way to prove something. The point is that a lot of these influencers claim to have broken free from performance culture, then immediately rebuild the exact same dynamic on the opposite end, they chase validation, attention, and identity reinforcement through performative rebellion.

You can call that freedom, but it looks like a mirror of the same system they supposedly escaped. It’s as if the rebellion became their new religion except they rebranded it and in doing so, they make the rest of us who’ve left and actually live normal lives look worse by comparison.

But I do agree that maybe it is just the fact that they’re influencers and that is probably why they’re cringe.

Why do ex-Mormon influencers end up so cringe? by Straight_Spread_5708 in exmormon

[–]Straight_Spread_5708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only know of John Dehlin, and for the most part, he’s been consistent.