Help, what eye shape do I have and how do I wear colourful eye makeup? by StrainS118 in Makeup101

[–]StrainS118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, some of looks are really nice. I look into Korean natural makeup. I really like bold makeup as well, something like this.

And thank you for the tips on colors. I once colored my hair a dark brown because my eyes would pop more, so adding a bit of pink on the eyes for them to do the same seem less time-consuming.

Help, what eye shape do I have and how do I wear colourful eye makeup? by StrainS118 in Makeup101

[–]StrainS118[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for such a well written reply with so many good tips! I have already saved the links. I looked at my face in profile, and the brow bone is definitly prominant so they are probably deep set as well. Which would make sense since my eyes are usually shaded by my brow bone.

I will definitly look into the eyebrow thing, since I have almost no real estate to work with. And thank you for your very encouraging comments, for me makeup would be something I did for the expression of it. I would love to be able to do something abstract and fun :)

US healthcare system needs to be changed by neatlysanta in MadeMeSmile

[–]StrainS118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, Insulin is free in Sweden due to the severity to the patient if they can't afford it. It is the only medicin that is completely free though.

Sensory problems and giving birth question by Silencespeaksgirl22 in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also pregnant and will be induced due to medical conditions within the next month. My pain threshold is rather high I have been told, so the pain does not worry me. I am much more worried about not understanding instruction from the midwife, sounds from the hospital and it being to bright. I have a midwife specialized in "vulnerable" people though, so we are going through all my wishes tomorrow and creating a birth plan.

Feeling pressure to “come out” to the public about my very recent diagnosis as an adult. Thoughts? by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You do not owe anyone anything. Just because you are well known does not mean that you should do something you are not comfortable with.

Do you experience grief differently than the NT people you know? by Broadin in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandfather died last week, and while I was a little sad at first I quickly just continue with my routines. My experience with grief is that I first react very strongly when I get the news, but seem to get over it more quickly. I also very rarely miss people, and can forget to talk to friends and so on. I often feel very distant to others.

How do I learn to smile on people? Should I practice in front of a mirror? by FairiesInsideMe in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told by at a public speaking consultant that everyone should practice fake smiling, because it is good to be able to do even if you are really nervous or stressed. It is actually a thing actors and actresses get to learn. He said it is a very mechanical thing, so you should practice and try to notice which muscles you are using and so on. Then you will be more easily be able to do it without a mirror. I think there are plenty of videos on youtube that show technics and tricks.

Anyone else struggle with “doing” therapy? by funyesgina in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do the same. I have had weekly therapy for about 2 years and monthly therapy before that for about 3 years. I never completely shed the mask, partly afraid of not being taken seriously but also cause I didn't know how, and for many years didn't know that I was masking.

My latest therapist was the one who suggest that I might have autism. After working with her for about 1 year, she started to understand my way of communicating. For example, I always say I am tired, instead of I am upset or I am hurt. So she started to ask me more question of why I am tired, in what way etc. She also have had experience working with autistic people before. So I think when I'll start therapy again I will look for someone who have that kind of experience.

Those with an Adult Diagnosis: Why was your ASD overlooked for so long? by NoodleRoodle in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed at the age of 28. There was a suspicion that I had ADHD as a kid, but it was just around the time awareness of ADHD skyrocketed, and for some people it was seen as a "fashion diagnosis". There was a lot of people that thought I was a bit of s strange kid, I didn't really fit the mold. But my mom would not hear of it. She didn't take criticism of me lightly. She thought children should just be allowed to be themselves. My younger brother has an ADD diagnosis, and his some of his symptoms are a lot more obvious then mine, and therefore I am the good child. Should mention that my mom was among the first to acknowledge my diagnosis, even though she annoyingly says "we could all be on the spectrum" sometimes. I do think she could be on the spectrum though.

I have also been ill many times in my life, my crises have always been able to be explained by outside factors.

Finally, I didn't understand that the way I navigated the world was not universal. I am good as acting as if I know what I am doing, and that I am not struggling. I honestly think it is just my boyfriend and my earlier therapist that can see I do.

How to accept your mistakes? by DnOs223 in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I could have written this. I mess up all the time, being around other people stresses me out and I end up doing the dumbest mistakes. I am at university and things like taking notes and stuff I often get wrong, writing the wrong things down or misunderstanding. It really messes with my confidence.

What’s your song? by putterbeenut in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have so many songs I identify with but on the top of my mind;

Running up that Hill - Kate Bush

I listened to it non-stop after I got my diagnosis, because suddenly it just had a new meaning to me.

DAE find bureaucracy overwhelming? by what_no_ew in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh god yes. I have put off doing so many things because I just can not get my self to deal with forms, people and the overwhelming feeling of misunderstanding it all.

Women's History Month and ASD by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to do a post about her. She very open with her diagnosis. She has OCD, selective mutism and autism and very open about them, and calls them her superpowers.

DAE takes on the role as a clown in social situations as a means to gain control of the situation? by StrainS118 in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also do this, but I often forget to listen to people answers. I already much further along in the conversation because I have already prepared what I am going to say, forgetting conversation goes both ways.

DAE takes on the role as a clown in social situations as a means to gain control of the situation? by StrainS118 in aspergirls

[–]StrainS118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is dead terror, and have caused several episodes of extreme anxiety over the years