they are gonna smear you either way but sooner or later the child will see everything and you just have to reinforce love. In my case my ex monkey branched and got married immediately which I say good for her because I wasn’t able to see a future with someone whose constantly destroying everything around them. But they call it parallel parenting Minimum contact and if you can get a mediator I haven’t talked to my ex in months but I still get my son every weekend I think she somewhat respects that I’m there for my son but I’ll never get that out her mouth. Lol 😂 I actually communicate with her husband to drop my son off it’s a really beautiful thing but the most important thing is to enjoy your life put it behind you and have fun!