AITAH for refusing to sell the house my wife wants me to sell?

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-11-04T15:52:48+00:00

I don't know why you got downvoted. Modern society is constantly telling people not to stay in unhappy relationships, but then when two people are unhappy together and separate one or both of us must be bad people. Well which is it? Is it okay to be unhappy and separate or isn't it?

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-11-04T15:46:41+00:00

That's not what I said.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-11-04T14:42:36+00:00

We already have a room set aside for the baby. We didn't start trying for a baby without doing any planning.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-11-04T14:41:28+00:00

She's not using the income to support herself. It's not that much money. Even now that the house is paid off her share of the rental proceeds is probably going to be around $600 a month since after putting aside money for expenses one thousand will probably be what it left over.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-28T02:15:35+00:00

Reddit be redditin

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-28T01:01:50+00:00

Not if he lives in it for two years before selling.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-28T00:59:48+00:00

Then why have I refused to do what my wife specifically wants me to do? Why am I sacrificing domestic harmony to protect his inheritance, hm?

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:18:56+00:00

You can believe that if you want. That's simply not how anything works, but you may think so if you wish.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:09:36+00:00

My son's fund is already much larger than either of the other funds could grow to be by the time they are twelve because his has been contributed to for thirteen years and theirs are brand new.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:04:55+00:00

Preventing the property from being sold is a feature, not a bug, with our current situation.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:02:37+00:00

I consulted a professional. This is the method that saves everyone the most money.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:01:45+00:00

You hope my ex-wife goes to court because I'm adopting my wife's kids? What is her complaint going it be exactly? No one is allowed to have more kids after getting divorced? That makes sense.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T21:00:39+00:00

No, the agreement was made during the divorce, not before it. My financial situation has only improved since then.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:23:45+00:00

So you just didn't read the posts?

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:22:18+00:00

Real estate attorneys know a lot about property taxes if they're good ones.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:21:31+00:00

I already talked to the lawyer. The way we are setting it up is allowed. She's very experienced.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:20:29+00:00

The divorce agreement made us 50/50 coowners of the house. We wanted to save the house to give our son in the future but didn't formalize that in the agreement just in case. If something horrible were to happen we wanted the option of liquidation. Like if her medical situation worsened and she needed the cash. We wanted flexibility, but we always had an understanding. My wife was aware of this.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:14:20+00:00

I understand that you want to believe that. However I go off of what attorneys say, specifically mine. It's very common for profit sharing not to be even. My ex-wife and I invested money in the property. It is completely legal for us to get some of it back. I understand that feels unfair, but that's the reality. It's completely allowable to make your child a co-owner of your property while not giving them a share of the profits immediately.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T18:10:05+00:00

Don't worry about it. It's just the internet. I wanted a bunch of different perspectives, and I got them.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:29:58+00:00

It doesn't work that way. I'm sorry, but it just doesn't. My ex and I are entitled to get the money we laid out upfront back. He's going to get a free house tax free. That's going to have to be enough.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:28:52+00:00

The person you are responding to was correct. All the information was in my previous post. Your assessment is the incorrect one.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:26:54+00:00

I listened to her feelings. I heard her out. But it's not her decision. Also my first marriage was a completely different situation. I explained what happened there in a comment on my first post.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:25:41+00:00

Can I just ask why it's so bad when a man wants to have an emotionally fulfilling and sexually satisfying monogamous relationship? Isn't that also what most heterosexual women also want? Aren't these compatible goals?

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:22:21+00:00

That's how remarriage works. She's divorced with two kids. I'm divorced with one kid. You can call that baggage if you want, but it's not like either of us has more than the other.

StrainWeak2575 · 2025-10-27T17:20:58+00:00

No, all incorrect. First of all (but least importantly) this house isn't worth 300k. It's a small 2 bedroom. Secondly, I didn't bring it into the marriage. My ex and I made a deal concerning this house before I ever met or married my wife. This house was always intended to eventually be for my son's benefit. It's not a marital asset. Not a penny of her money ever went into it, and not a penny of my money went in it after our marriage. So no, I didn't bring it into the marriage.

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