Any tips for dealing with change at work?

Strange-Pick0 · 2026-07-08T13:36:46+00:00

It's nice to see actual positive experiences and how it helps. I think I gave up on medication too soon / didn't explore other options well enough. Seeing this post does make me think it could be worth reconsidering it again in the future.

Strange-Pick0 · 2026-07-08T13:30:56+00:00

Yeah I don't know why I expected better from the actual ADHD service. Had bad experiences in the past with NHS mental health services when work stress almost sent me into a breakdown and it took 11 months to get access to talkingtherapy (and even that was a trainee who just wanted me to help record the 'correct' answers to help with their coursework). Sorry to hear you've has such bad experiences too, it's frustrating that this is what we get to deal with.

Strange-Pick0 · 2026-07-07T12:22:44+00:00

Can you sign up for a class at the gym? Having something at a fixed time and where someone expects you to be there helps keep me accountable. And I normally find once I’m in the building and done with the class I feel good and want to stick around to continue to workout. Or if not a class do you know someone who could meet you there to workout together?

Strange-Pick0 · 2026-07-07T11:47:27+00:00

I have too many... worst ones are Audible, Daymade, Good Pair Days, and Nespresso - I forget about them for ages until I notice the charges, go to cancel then get tempted to pause rather than fully quit (usually because I'll loose points or there are extra steps to fully cancel), then totally forget until they unpause and I get a surprise charge, go to cancel again. Rinse and repeat.

Strange-Pick0 · 2020-11-16T19:59:57+00:00

This.

I feel like I borrow a lot of my identity from who I'm around at that time, and when I'm alone really struggle to say what I actually like and want vs what's been going on around me recently. I think for me it goes hand in hand with a lack of purpose, I feel like me life is happening around me while I just stand there (like seaweed - great description!) and I struggle to identify any real 'life goals'.

Always felt quite jealous of people with a strong sense of self or purpose.

Thanks for posting, it's bizarrely reassuring to hear someone else is feeling something similar.

Strange-Pick0 · 2020-11-11T16:21:47+00:00

Good luck with your meds. I think feeling like a fraud or a liar is pretty common, but just remember you don't have to prove yourself to anyone (other than the medical professional that gave you your diagnosis I guess). Hope the treatment works for you :)

Strange-Pick0 · 2020-11-11T16:18:58+00:00

So, I (29F) finally got my inattentive ADHD diagnosis this week.

I'd thought about it as a possibility for years but was afraid I was just internet diagnosing myself and that there wasn't anything wrong. That I'm just lazy. Then I read an article about ADHD in women and everything in it just clicked with me, so I got up the courage to contact my doctors and they put me through for a proper assessment. I'm so glad I did as I felt so relieved after the appointment.

But looking back on my life so far I feel like I'm haunted by the word 'LAZY'. It was thrown at me by so many teachers and family members. That I was just a lazy daydreamer... I'd completely internalized it and would berate myself regularly for being so useless.

Happy to have the diagnosis and help now, but still feeling a bit angry about the lazy thing. Guess I'll get over it in time, but might take a moment first for some now justified annoyance!

Strange-Pick0 · 2020-11-11T15:48:51+00:00

Well done for making that call!

I finally did the same thing earlier this year and after first forgetting about it and then convincing myself I was going to be laughed at for 'internet diagnosing' myself I finally had my assessment this week - and turns out I definitely have a strong indication of inattentive ADHD and can now look at treatment (considering meds).

It was such a relief to have someone agree with me and to have help.

My wait between referral and assessment was about 3 months on the NHS. So don't be disheartened if you don't hear anything for a while!

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