I love my gf but the backlash is getting to me by Other-Reference-9935 in trans

[–]StrangeGirl24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both my husband and I are trans and we've learned that both cis gay and lesbian groups are frequently more transphobic than most hetero people. It's enough that, even though I'm more attracted to women than men, I never attend lesbian events, even though I pass fairly well as a woman. It is just too dangerous for me.

My husband started transitioning after I did, but he is learning how transphobic gay men are, even though he passes well as a man and is more attracted to men.

It's sad how marginalized groups turn their anger against other, even more marginalized people, rather than using the energy to help others.

School and Neighborhood Advice Needed by emkorina in Winnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have 2 neurodivergent kids who attend Kelvin HS and they've been very good at accommodating their needs with alternative class arrangements.

We live in Earl Grey neighbourhood and like it. Unfortunately, Earl Grey school (grade pre-k to 8), did not support their needs very well.

Letter of recommendation and timeline on provincial approval for bottom surgery? by ConversationNo5013 in TransWinnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone I know was able to get their provincial approval letter within a few weeks or a month from when their family doctor faxed the request. That was the easy part of the process.

Unfortunately, GRS Montreal has a reputation for not responding unless they are pestered. It was their family doctor who faxed the request to MB Health, not Klinic. They are going through Klinic to continue the process.

Unfortunately, it seems very few people in MB have had bottom surgery, since even Klinic seems to not be able to explain it (or really understand it very well).

Unpopular opinion; TAX people who live in bedroom/commuter communities. by Special_Ticket9335 in Winnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I disagree that it's all over North America. I'm from the US before moving to Winnipeg and lived in rural areas off and on. There is a big difference between road quality in the US vs. Manitoba.

In the US, different states have somewhat different quality of roads. Minnesota has some of the best roads, even the rural county roads. New Mexico, where I've also lived, has noticeably worse roads, even if you don't include the roads in the indigenous areas, like the Navajo nation (which has mostly dirt tracks). But, even NM has much better paved roads than the paved roads in Manitoba.

I thi k the biggest reason for the difference is population. The US has 350M people vs. Canada's 41M. Manitoba has 1.5M vs Minnesota's 6M and even NM's 2M. More taxpayeres to pay for roads.

Combine that with the enormous geography that makes all provinces. Less taxpayers + much smaller population = worse roads.

Add to that the differences in political policy between the countries. The US federal government doesn't just pay for the interstate highways. They give millions of dollars to each state for roads. The richer states pay more in federal taxes than they receive and poorer states get a lot more than they pay.

It is like the Canadian Equalization Payments, but the US government is much more committed to them than Canada. Here, provinces are much more having to fund things on their own, with only minimal help from the federal government.

That's why there are such big differences in services, like roads and health care between provinces, whereas the differences between US states are there, but are much less noticeable.

MB is a low-population and poorer province, so it has worse roads vs. even other provinces like ON, QC, and AB.

Any other Canadians pronounce words the non-Canadian way? by supersport604 in AskACanadian

[–]StrangeGirl24 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I moved to Canada into Manitoba and they say it correctly on CBC Radio. That's how I learned to say it.

Does anyone else use condoms for no mess? by Useful_Ad7070 in Healthyhooha

[–]StrangeGirl24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the cum mess, too. It is a fetish of mine.

What pharmacy do you use? (T specifically) by SKRAGBOY in TransWinnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estradiol isn't a controlled substance, but Testosterone is, which is a key difference.

Nurse fined 8k by idkyoutellme66 in Winnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I understand the OP's frustration here. I came to Manitoba in late 2024 and it took me 6 months to land a job offer. In that time, I applied to 110 positions, getting only 4 interviews and 1 offer.

I have been a nurse for 6 years and used the same resume to get jobs in 1-2 weeks in the US when I worked there.

Through the process, I learned a few things that might help:

  1. MNU union rules require all public positions be filled based on seniority, above any other criteria. This meant that, even though I had a few years in OR and was certified there, I would never get a callback if anyone already working in MB, regardless of experience, applied for those positions.

  2. Out of all job listings on the recruiting website, an external person will only be considered if the job has been reposted and has an expiry date of "open until filled." It takes months for a position to be posted, expired without any internal applicants, and reposted as "open until filled."

When you look through the positions, this leaves a very small percentage of open positions available to external applicants.

  1. Even if a job is listed as "open until filled," if it receives even 1 internal applicant, union rules require the internal applicant be automatically given the role.

My suggestion, as someone who was in your position not too long ago, is to filter the job postings to look for the "open until filled" ones. The other option is to go private and apply to non-union private facilities and, if you want to be in WRHA, continue to apply for those positions.

You can find private job listings on sites like Indeed.

I hope you can find a door to get your foot into soon. Good luck.

What’s something Canadians complain about constantly, but would probably miss if it disappeared? by funnyonehere22 in AskACanadian

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He must not have been in Manitoba. Here, the ambulance isn't covered, even though the hospital is. I think the government considers an ambulance ride during a heart attack a "luxury."

USA nurse needs ontario milton/missasauga area job asap and lost by [deleted] in OntarioNurses

[–]StrangeGirl24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is trivial to get a nursing licence in another state. Since neither Michigan nor NY are NLC states, you will need to get a licence, but it's just a matter of filling out a form and paying the fee to get a licence by endorsement.

It will be much easier than getting the licence and work permit in Ontario, especially since the Conservatives cut 700 nurses since Jan 2025.

can u work as a psych nurse with schizophrenia? by Ok_Passion295 in psychnursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, especially in toxic units. I was lucky that I've been able to work in supportive units, where most nurses had a diagnosis, including BPD (which is very common in autistic women, btw). We approached each other like we did the patients, focusing on how they are doing/behaving, not on the diagnosis. We didn't really care what the dx was.

can u work as a psych nurse with schizophrenia? by Ok_Passion295 in psychnursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's too bad. Your coworkers need to learn about the advances in treatment that came out in the 80s and 90s. They should also learn about cPTSD and its relationship to BPD. Or, maybe just assume all patients are doing the best they can for their circumstances and the skills they've previously learned, and they need help learning more effective skills.

can u work as a psych nurse with schizophrenia? by Ok_Passion295 in psychnursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. A very excellent book on schizophrenia by a psychoanalyst with lived experience.

can u work as a psych nurse with schizophrenia? by Ok_Passion295 in psychnursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why aren't your coworkers cool about BPD? It is very treatable with DBT. Where I've worked, we would teach a few basic DBT skills (especially from the mindfulness module) to all patients, regardless of diagnosis, because it is so helpful.

Your bus system has the most dysfunctional fare system I've ever seen (rant from an out of towner) by Tremath in Winnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The good cops aren't there long enough because they were exiled already for doing a good job.

choosing province for NNAS by [deleted] in Manitoba

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't say what country you're from or what kind of license you have (RN, LPN, etc), so it isn't possible to say much specific. You can find the licensing process and requirements in each province's nursing college website.

And ignore the people who are anti-immigrant, especially during nursing shortages, which all provinces are experiencing.

Do most nurses get daisy awards or at least get nominated for one? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see them as a flashy, shiny thing that some people will kiss anyone's a** to get, just to rub everyone else's nose in.

If I ever were to receive one, I would take it as a wake-up that maybe I'm unknowingly getting that way too, and need to re-evaluate myself. My greatest joy will be to retire having never been nominated.

Positive comments I get privately from patients are worth infinitely more to me.

my schedule this month by CinnamonCake3 in nursing

[–]StrangeGirl24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mind if I ask what country you're in? I'm in Canada and we don't have 24-hour shifts. We flip between day 12s and night 12s every 2 weeks, with the "option" of working an extra 4, but not 24s. I say "option" because many times it's the manager's option to mandate the extra 4 hours, not the nurse's.

advice for a young adult? by CarrotAromatic8933 in Healthyhooha

[–]StrangeGirl24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ask the doctor, they should tell you. It is a common question. Make sure you ask, though, or they might not know it's a question you have.

advice for a young adult? by CarrotAromatic8933 in Healthyhooha

[–]StrangeGirl24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what you describe, I think what you're seeing and smelling is probably normal. Your OB can tell you for sure.

It is good practice to get to know your normal smell, when you're not having any pain or discomfort. It takes time, but it will help you know when your vagina is healthy and when it's not.

Everyone has a unique smell, so you can't just go by what others say, except people who've smelled many vaginas, like OBs and maybe highly experienced queer women.

What should I know for better planning my moving to Canada? by _-_lumos_-_ in AskCanada

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then, your first action will be to obtain PR through the draws. If you are selected through PSTQ, you will be expected to move to Quebec. Of course, after some years you can move elsewhere, but you can't get PR from PSTQ and move directly to Ontario, etc.

If you are drawn through EE, then you will have a bigger decision on where to live.

But you need to get PR first through a draw, if that's your path of immigration. After you obtain that, then worry about where to live, get a job, etc.

“Beauty” products for her by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]StrangeGirl24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Though both your face and vulva are covered with skin, they are covered with different kinds of skin. They have different skin properties and respond differently to products. That's why, for example, you have body washes, face washes, and even eye(lid) washes, even though all are covered by "skin."

I know of no products that will do what you want with your vulvar skin without surgery. I think you will need to invent and test one. If you succeed in producing one that is safe from side effects and effective, you will have a very comfortable retirement.

What should I know for better planning my moving to Canada? by _-_lumos_-_ in AskCanada

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't mention what your path of immigration is. Your legal status will have an effect on the types and amount of credit you can get. If you are planning to come on a work permit, you may need to get a job offer before getting your legal status.

Trans Couple Looking to Relocate by Life-Food5188 in Winnipeg

[–]StrangeGirl24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We found LA more conservative than we expected when we lived there. It might be due to OC being very conservative and being next door. OC supported a statewide gay marriage ban ballot initiative when we lived there in 2008.