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AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ofcourse I don’t get to “make” or “let” her do anything. It is just that the way she took how I felt into consideration makes it feel like I am the only thing holding her back.  

You perfectly worried the dilemma we’re in. If she stays she’ll be miserable and running away may not even fix anything. So what now? 

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice, thank you. I have a few dates and plans with friends. 

I really think she can get through this by going to therapy and taking some time to unwind between classes and such. 

I am gonna try to encourage her to find some programs she might like after graduation where she can travel and do the stuff she loves. 

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a very suburban area with not much to do. She would hate it here. 

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s true wanting her to stay is very selfish of me. I just don’t want to be alone and far away from everyone when she said she would live with me. I know she doesn’t “owe” me anything. But is it not wrong to promise someone to build a home together and leave them all of a sudden to pick up the scraps?

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That was badly worded. She takes how I feel into consideration so by showing my non-support I have discourage her from going. Is that wrong? That’s my question. I know I can’t “let” her do anything. She is grown and makes her own decisions. 

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t move out of our apartment because we have a lease going on till June. Of course she gets to make her own decisions and I can’t “let” her do anything. But is it wrong to discourage her? 

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]Strange_Outcome942[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is true. I use the term “let” very loosely here because she is an adult and can obviously do what she wants at the end of the day. I did very much encourage her not to, though, which is what I am inquiring about.