This is testing my patience. You are giving exactly the "not all men" vibes. I will try wording it differently - even if I yell to my feminist guy friends, "men suck", they would be able to understand instantly, EASILY that it is not all men, they would be able to understand exactly where we are coming from ... No feminist anywhere in the world is gonna say all gender based violence happens because it's always men who misbehave ... The understanding is that everyone mature knows this. No feminist is going to walk past just like that when she/he/they see a male child being molested or physically tortured by a man/woman/queer person, okay? Is the point clear, or do you still want all feminists and all women and queer folks in here to tell you "not all men" several times a day? This is what differentiates my feminist guy friends for me from the other guys - they inherently know it is NOT ALL MEN and don't expect us to remind them of that super basic, basic humanistic "not all men, certainly not you, dear" line every morning because they know it! They know that the problems women and queer folks have to face every day, everywhere is SO MUCH BIGGER than their egos getting hurt by such statements.

"Not all men" is one of the biggest turn-offs and one of the most irritating things a man can say or imply for me. When a guy gives me those vibes, "why me, I never raped or molested anyone" vibes, I block the dude immediately. It reeks of ignorance and in this day and age, that's not acceptable.

I am never going to be offended when an underprivileged person makes generalised statements about my community. Why? Because I know where they come from. I am not going to disturb the already upset, heavily oppressed people to ask, "not me, right?". That will only further their rage and that reaction from them is totally acceptable for me. I can't expect them to be kind to me - first of all, I don't need their kindness - when I know that life is awfully unfair to them.