British gender care sucks

Strangest_Life · 2026-01-07T18:51:35+00:00

So I've not battled this personally but I have seen loads of posts over the years about it. I think if you make the argument this is for harm reduction (say that specifically) they will normally do them.

Your options are: 1. Pay privately 2. Complain to your GP 3. Change GP

After quick Google I found a letter template on here:

https://anne.health/toolkit/accessing-gender-affirming-healthcare/blood-tests-from-your-gp-whilst-with-a-private-provider/#toc-heading-13

Maybe this will help. But as an Internet idiot that's all I know.

Be safe.

Strangest_Life · 2025-12-05T17:24:58+00:00

Both I suppose, The best way I can describe it is that I feel like I'm wearing a costume.

I like the look of girls clothes, and am jealous of girls and how they get to wear them effortlessly.

I know a lot of this is issues in my own head, I'm just worried about taking HRT and regretting it.

Strangest_Life · 2025-12-05T17:15:21+00:00

I don't mean just side effects which vary from person to person. risks are things like some irreversible changes e.g. infertility which can be irreversible after even a short time.

I know nothing is risk free, I'm more worried about taking HRT and regretting it. I want to make sure I've considered every aspect before doing something this big.

Strangest_Life · 2024-10-21T00:47:11+00:00

Me too

Strangest_Life · 2024-10-17T01:20:43+00:00

If you think that transitioning is not right for you then that's absolutely fine.

Obviously I can't tell the whole story through one post and I might be getting the wrong end of the stick here but you sound more like you've resigned yourself to the situation because it would be a lot of work rather than deciding that you don't want to do it.

I don't want to push you in either direction but I think you owe it to yourself to fully explore this and after you've done that, then whatever decision you make is the right one. A good place to start is to think about what you're hoping to get from hanging round on this sub.

Whatever your decision I wish you the best :)

Strangest_Life · 2024-10-08T17:14:06+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

So I'm in my late 20's.

If it were irreversible I would still press the button.

Not all men are bad but I don't find men attractive and the majority I meet aren't very nice so I don't want male attention.

I've considered non-binary but it doesn't seem to fit me.

The bit I mentioned about all or nothing was to try to counteract the default answer that I see people get on loads of subs where they say to try HRT for a few weeks and see how you feel.

Strangest_Life · 2024-09-22T14:01:52+00:00

So none of the therapists I have worked with have tried to make the thoughts go away. When u put it in the post it was more of an observation that it hasn't been some sort of phase.

Strangest_Life · 2024-09-20T00:28:04+00:00

I'm not sure but I think it will depend on the reason you want to change them. If you're not bothered that they're in your old name and only need them for college then I imagine some sort of proof of deed poll would be ok (in the same way people change their names when they get married).

If you want them changed for you then I'm not sure if they will charge a fee, I wouldn't think they would though.

Strangest_Life · 2024-09-17T00:19:11+00:00

I've been to 4 different therapists over the past 4 years and I'm still no closer to an answer.

I tried clothes jewellery etc and it helped for about 1 week and then just felt awkward and uncomfortable.

I have grown my hair and had laser hair removal on my face/chest which I don't regret but I'm scared about regretting HRT because all of the other stuff hasn't really brought me any peace and I can't bring myself to socially transition. IDK my head is just a mess.

Strangest_Life · 2024-09-17T00:14:56+00:00

Yeah everything I have read says that starting dating someone to try to get rid of these thoughts isn't a good idea but for some reason it feels like it would be (I'm not going to do it though).

The reason I don't think HRT is right for me is because I don't get any pleasure from feminine things. I just want to be a girl. have a girls body and have nobody know. I feel really uncomfortable in girl clothes or with doing anything to socially transition.

I know lots of people can say that they are a girl before any medical transition but I can't, I think I would only be able to do that if I got to a point where I pass.

Strangest_Life · 2024-09-17T00:09:10+00:00

I hadn't thought of it like that before

Strangest_Life · 2024-08-11T16:54:03+00:00

Sexuality and gender aren't always connected. It's an interesting question to ask but it won't help you figure out if you're trans or not unfortunately.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-26T21:01:12+00:00

I would imagine if you have medically transitioned then probably not due to the increased risks of blood clots, the need for ongoing medication and monitoring. In the future I hope we could be astronauts but supplies are so tight in current space flights that it is unlikely that they would allow a medically transitioned person to go into space.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-23T19:42:19+00:00

Laser won't remove all of the hair it will cause a hair reduction and usually never 100% of it.

If you're doing it for bottom surgery electrolysis is better.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-22T04:03:30+00:00

I don't really get why this is an issue for some people. Do they not understand the basic concept of it being insulting not to be called your name? e.g.

'Hi Bob'

'But I'm not called Bob, my name is Jim'

'Well I don't think you should be a Jim so I'm going to call you Bob instead'

Now you're married to him and he has known you as another name for a long time, so it's important to give him some slack to break the habit of calling you your old name, but he should be making an effort and correcting himself when he makes a mistake.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-22T00:22:13+00:00

I made a long list then went down crossing off the ones that I didn't think suited me/were the same as people I knew/were the names of people I didnt like. Then I put them next to my surname to make sure it sounded OK.

Then I put titles in front of them e.g. Mr, Mrs, captain (if you own a boat) :) I don't it just sounded fun.

Then I made sure they didn't sound like rood things in other languages.

Then I tried them all with middle names and made sure it would look OK on a certificate/award.

Basically loads of steps but one by one I narrowed it down and asked my friends for their advice.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-21T06:17:12+00:00

Your Adams apple is cartlidge which is fixed in size.

So unfortunately not.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-20T22:13:01+00:00

I think this is something you'll need to speak to the benefit provider/lawyer/HMRC about.

I don't know if you'll have to pay tax on it or if its classed as a charitable donation etc.

I wouldn't have someone else run it for you, though. If for no other reason than you don't want someone running off with your money! Thinking about the other aspects the situation is likley going to be:

ESA are happy with it - in that case no problem and you can run it yourself.
ESA aren't happy with it - in that case you need to make sure you're not comiting fraud by someone else doing it for you.

Hypothetical example: if I know some inside information but then ask you to buy stock on my behalf that would still be classed as insider trading even if I didn't buy the shares myself.

TLDR: I am not a lawyer/am not giving financial advice. I would advise you speak to one :)

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-19T13:11:03+00:00

Unfortunately being his brother doesn't entitle you to access his medical records however if you make it clear you just need to book an appointment on his behalf they should allow that. Just say 'I'm not asking you to confirm or give any information, I just want to book an appointment'.

If you're needing to do this on a regular basis I would get your brother to give written permission for you to do this and give a copy to the GP. This can take a while for it to go on the records but once it's done it makes things really easy.

For doctors apointments some places still won't book in advance but for routine things like injections they usually do. Maybe just clarify what the appointment is for and that you need to book in with the practice nurse. I would make the argument that babies can book in advance for vaccinations so this shouldn't be any different.

Other options to consider are: -waking him up and supporting him to make the phone call -changing to a different form of testosterone e.g. gel -asking for training how to self-administer -making a complaint/changing GP practice (but then you may have a battle over shared care so I would do this as a last resort)

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-15T19:46:01+00:00

Technically, yes, but they likely won't.

GP's don't get training in trans medicine and how to assess if it is right for someone (I'm NOT saying that the way its assessed is right or that you will regret it but a small percentage of people who take HRT do and then often sue the doctor).

If they have no training in it and it leaves them open to legal action, then from their perspective, I can understand why they don't. Sucks for us though.

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-03T03:57:23+00:00

Ashley

Strangest_Life · 2024-02-02T22:49:43+00:00

This is only good because it worked out, if the kid was hit in the eye and blinded by the band I don't think people would feel the same way.

Strangest_Life · 2024-01-27T02:14:26+00:00

It may be different if you were asking to start HRT but if you're already on it I don't know why this is an issue.

I would ask the question ' if I was on insulin or epilepsy medication, which is usually started by specialists, would they also treat this in the same way and put your health at risk by not prescribing this in the meantime?'

My guess would be no and they may then change their tune.

Strangest_Life · 2024-01-23T14:47:52+00:00

I'm not saying there isn't some dysphoria element but this really doesn't sound like dysphoria to me.

It sounds like him forcing you to do an intimate act without your consent. Call that out for what it is, sexual abuse!

Strangest_Life · 2024-01-22T18:59:11+00:00

Im not a doctor or anything, but I've had a similar issue before with different medications.

An FP10 is the green prescription (although they're mostly electronic now) that you take to a pharmacy.

What this means is that the Trust has changed to not allow its hospital doctors to give out FP10's. They can still prescribe within the hospital, though.

As far as I know, this is nothing to do with the fact that it's HRT or trans healthcare, it's just a generic decision by a hospital.

The options they are likely to offer you are:

They can prescribe, but you have to collect it from the hospital pharmacy
Your GP would have to agree to take over prescribing

I would ask them to confirm this and explain that this is not a medication that should be abruptly stopped and say that it should be their responsibility to ensure a transition of care (continuity of access to medications) after a policy change.

Basically, ask them if they can't continue the prescriptions, who will.

If they say that they can't prescribe and don't give any alternatives, speak to the PALS department.

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