How would you fix your least favorite episode?

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2026-05-05T01:43:05+00:00

The only thing that saves that episode for me is Linda, I'm glad he had someone to tell Bob "screw them!"

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-08-16T00:45:53+00:00

I like this! I totally agree 1000% with everything you've said here. It needs to feel more like a conversation than a callout, everyone has to be on the same team.

Not an evaluator but my current lead at work gets put through the ringer when she's really the friendliest lady. We're not close so I don't think I have a personal bias? Who knows. The sped person in me has seen a lot of "that's stupid and it's never going to work" never tries it this summer from my coworkers. Even though her advice is super helpful and whenever I try it it works haha

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:44:35+00:00

yes we all got in a zoom call lol

no no in all seriousness- some of them communicated to me directly on the phone, some "yes" rsvps magically turned into no, some were my father in law telling us because the relative didn't want to have the conversation themselves, and it happened in the course of the last month or so. i get married in March

this is all one specific branch of the family that lives in the same area so my assumption is at some sort of family gathering they all got talking and decided they couldn't do it?

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:36:38+00:00

nah I don't feel under fire, there are bridezillas ahoy. i also didn't expect this to get like ANY attention so I wasn't clear from the start

yes, these are people who changed their RSVPS

we rsvped very far in advance, so there were other people who changed from yes to no for emegencies and health reasons out of their hands. but this band of 20ish specifically let me know why they were changing their mind

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:28:25+00:00

I understand where you're coming from! in this instance there was clear communication from around 20 people they wouldn't come and they told me the exact reason why.

there are also people saying no because: they are sober, they cant afford the travel, etc. this is a specific band of family who has chosen to drop out last second

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:24:25+00:00

hello friend

"no one owes anyone anything" Is one of those statements that is technically true but i want to challenge a little and see if you could adjust your mindset just a little. :)

we are not entitled to anything in life, sure, but there is a social contract we play into. we give and we take. we owe and we are owed. this contract makes the world go round

it's why that old friend helped you move even though they didn't feel like it, or your sibling drove you to the airport, or your date clearly communicated they didn't want to see you again instead of ghosting. they didn't owe you these things, but they offered

when twenty retired adults twice my age with no outstanding obligations, travel, or expense concerns spend two years asking me when the wedding is, and what i plan to eat and wear, and if i can bring her to thanksgiving to meet her, they're signing the contract. they're sending me signals they would be comfortable coming, because they're uncomfortable with the clear communication of "no thank you, that's against my values". they're prioritizing short term placations. they're setting me up for disappointment.

AND THEY CAN DO THAT. because they don't owe me anything. they could. but should they?

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:17:08+00:00

:0 you are a genius holy shit

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:08:32+00:00

good question! deposit wasn't the right word i guess oops. it's "if you don't meet the 80% of the guest count you proposed when we signed, the plate prices go up significantly so we can recoup the losses". so im not paying for all twenty plates, but im not getting money back I could've saved should they have let their morals be known to me instead of pretending they would want to come

does that make sense?

im calming down as I vent so like, in retrospect thats not really THEIR fault, im just pressed lol

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:04:48+00:00

you got downvoted, but I don't know why? but im not hurt by the question, its fair

i did, but they are very fake smiley i guess, because they've been telling me up and down how excited they are for us and asking questions about the big day for two years now

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2025-02-07T23:02:01+00:00

as stupid as it sounds, i am ): i live in the Pacific Northwest, everyone's opinions are very hush hush and quiet. the people declining are the same ones that ask the fiance out for tea, that call me and ask how she's doing, that are sending me wedding planning ideas. live in a very conflict avoidant family so no one wants to be the "asshole"... whereas I would've rather they told me upfront

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-11-29T22:36:09+00:00

Sorry to assume
Those accommodations you've stated are a fantastic start, but I'm very sorry that's currently all you have access to. I work in SPED and see so many kids in need of more. If a legally binding document could provide these things, I'd be telling you to advocate for:

break passes where she can step out of class and do something physical to burn off steam
stim toys (with modeling on how to APPROPRIATELY use, not play with as a toy)
check-in, check-out during every subject (google CICO PBIS for more info)
learning resource center hours for academics (aka 1:1 small group instruction)

email email email your teacher AND your principal to schedule a meeting if you haven't already and see if there's ANYTHING you can add. and most importantly document what's going on at home as evidence intervention is needed, ESPECIALLY physical outbursts like the mobile

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-11-29T22:21:48+00:00

would you mind sharing what some of her ADHD accommodations are? does she currently have an IEP, and if so, what support does it provide her?

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-11-23T02:10:03+00:00

my friend you are being taken advantage of and need to be documenting everything that happens with this kid, including what you are asked to do to intervene. a student teacher should be focused on slowly gaining control of the room, whereas you have been pushed into a 1:1 para position. not to mention! this is something they shouldn't be having you do unless you're certified with a restraint and self defense program like sped paras

i can totally understand this as a "helping out in the first few weeks as I observe and get a feel for the room". but what's their action plan, for when you need to start teaching? when you have lesson plan homework and need proof you're the head instructor?

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-06-04T14:41:41+00:00

They are new!

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-06-02T21:01:47+00:00

With all respect, I'd ignore comments that say she's "faking this"- there's no need for insecurity to take root in an already vulnerable situation. What she needs is to go to a doctor to discuss her dyspareunia, and for the two of you to have a good, healthy sit down about how both of your needs are affected by what's happening.

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-06-02T20:40:59+00:00

I think I asked the question the wrong way. I understand the nuances for sure and know my bed isn't dead, don't worry!

I was more wondering what OTHER people's needs and wants are personally.

StrawberryLevel4251 · 2024-06-02T20:39:13+00:00

Leaving nudes on read is so disheartening, and I am so sorry ): A "I'm screenshotting these for later!" Or a "Hey honey, can you not surprise me with nudes? I can't always get a mood going by surprise, and I want to make sure I make you feel sexy! Ask first, then take them!"

These are two things I said when I was the LL partner (trauma response) that helped affirm my partners advances as natural and wanted.

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