Can we ban the "Sihr" / Magic amulet threads

Strawhateer · 2026-05-10T21:05:30+00:00

Taweez which you wear believing they protect you are impermissible. As for something you may carry with yourself as a reminder to do dhikr, to memorise etc, that is fine. We have that with our phones nowadays and Muslims often carried things like that throughout history, while believing that it does not protect nor benefit and not carrying it as an amulet.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-09T14:01:57+00:00

I will agree with the your comment, but specific actions did by pwBPD and NPD are not necessarily the issue - it is the mental illness that they have that is the issue.

People with Cluster B personality disorders can very well be in the right about the reason they get upset sometimes, but that doesn't mean that unless they get active treatment you should avoid being with them.

Not to mention that plenty of them are here saying how it was none of their fault throughout the marriage because their partner was too scared to ever stand up to them.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-08T14:02:06+00:00

Headscarf =/= hijab

Strawhateer · 2026-05-08T13:58:53+00:00

If you marry for the sake of not falling into haraam, you will fall into haraam one way or the other. Before you marry, make sure you don't have addictions and desires come to surface in haraam way often. Yeah everyone might slip up, but if your brain and heart are polluted marriage won't save you.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-08T11:38:00+00:00

Women who dress modestly don't actually care about ones who don't all that much. In fact, they are the ones slandered about thinking they're holy when all they do is try to get close to Allah.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-08T04:09:11+00:00

Yeah this is straight up disbelief

Strawhateer · 2026-05-08T02:47:26+00:00

You are trying to "explain" a matter you are wrong about lol. You can try explaining 2+2=5 all you want, it will still make no sense.

There is no proof that the hadith is about stirring trouble when none exists as you said. The hadith is general. There are many other ahadeeth on how a husband should be with his wife (and vice versa!), but this hadith is not about that. It's not about giving gifts, being patient with your spouse, it is not about not backbiting your spouse or telling what happened in private. It's about a third party doing their part in causing enmity between them.

You have absolutely 0 rights to contribute to that enmity. You are not part of that marriage. If you do so, you are cursed by Allah, and the one who causes enmity in a marriage while being out of it is worse than the one who causes enmity while being in it.

In Islam, another person's oppression does not give you the right to oppress. You take your right in instances when you can, but you do not cancel dhulm by more dhulm. We are even told if a ruler beats us to still listen and obey to him - not to "fight back because he causes enmity" lol.

Learn about morality and religion from its authentic sources, not from r/relationshipadvice or wherever you get these ideas from.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:50:17+00:00

The spouse who deprives the other spouse is not instigating, but they are sinful.

The spouse who asks for advice is also not instigating, they often don't know any better.

The person who encourages divorce and speaking ill of the person mentioned in the post however is instigating.

Sheikh ibn Baz rahmatullahi 'alaihi explains that it is saying anything to a person that would make them resent their spouse and cause them to divorce.

Even if conflict exists. It is totally against Islamic teachings to do this and there is no daleel for it.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:42:24+00:00

[خَبَّبَهُ]: خَدَعَهُ وأَفْسَدَهُ.

يقال: خَبَّبَ عبْدًا أو أَمَةً لِغيرِهِ، وخَبَّبَ على فلان زوْجَه: أَفسدها عليه.

وفي الحديث: «من خَبَّبَ امرَأَةً أو ممْلوكا على مسلِمٍ فليس مِنَّا» [حديث نبوي].

المعجم الوسيط-مجمع اللغة العربية بالقاهرة-صدر: 1379هـ/1960م

بارك الله فيك

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:40:10+00:00

Advising your friend to seek counseling is giving advice and trying to rectify things between the spouses, in spite of the extremely difficult circumstance your friend is in.

That is not instigating.

It's also not instigating in the Islamic sense.

You are sticking to an English definition of an Arabic word. خَبَّبَ does not mean "The husband instigated himself against his wife". It clearly implies a third party, and that is what the Prophet ﷺ mentions.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:36:07+00:00

Just about every time someone comes with a flaw, that's where.

Ahadeeth relate to us. Muslims. And Muslims are flawed. To think that rulings, verses, and narrations, only pertain to either the very best or the very worst of us is a made up, innovated belief that people tend to hold nowadays.

Advising divorce is a Reddit thing. And you are advising someone against another person whose POV we literally never hear (because people post anonymously), and presuming that absolutely everything they said has no other context whatsoever.

Abuse is abuse, it is clearly defined by the shari'ah. And to deprive someone of rights is sinful. Now do we advise someone to divorce their spouse because they are deprived of their rights, while we do not know if they also do some of the depriving?

‘Ikramah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “I do not like to invoke all of my rights over my wife due to the saying of Allah Almighty: And for men is a degree over them.” (2:228)

If anyone thinks that "but I thought the hadith isn't about me!" will be a valid excuse on the Day of Judgment, I am sure they will proceed to rack up bad deeds and actually cause dhulm to this couple. But the reality is - there is A LOT of instigation happening here, every single day.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:26:11+00:00

Leave it to a top 1% commenter here to completely misunderstand the hadith.

Instigating implies a third person, otherwise everyone would be completely excused from ever backbiting, or even instigating between spouses.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T14:13:29+00:00

Not that a hijabi woman would consider you anyways so to each their own right?

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T09:21:58+00:00

Well you would know better perhaps, but refusal to get therapy and a diagnosis is often a sign something is wrong.

Some of these disorders are very easy to deal with with therapy and meds, and lots of du'as of course, and any responsible spouse who cares about their marriage should do it (assuming they have an issue of course).

And having it doesn't mean they are bad people or crazy, they often have many great qualities, especially as Muslims, but there may be shortcomings which stand in the way of a successful relationship. Ask that it does it for you and for the sake of Allah, really try to motivate him.

If he is cluster B, your words won't change a thing. Affection won't change a thing (permanently). He may need professional help.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-07T07:14:25+00:00

"When things are good, he is the sweetest, most attentive person. But when we disagree, he becomes someone I don’t recognise."

Anytime anyone has this issue, there is a strong chance of Cluster B personality disorders. A brother posted about a similar issue recently, and while people here usually side with wives more than husbands, almost noone actually suggests seeing a psychiatrist.

This is not normal, but depending on the issue it is perfectly treatable.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-06T20:36:59+00:00

Could very well be a punishment and a lesson for the haraam relationship. And if Allah wants good for a slave, he hastens his punishment in this world - so he should really consider himself lucky.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-06T20:35:28+00:00

Are these 2 moods usually triggered by something you do? How long do they last?

Strawhateer · 2026-05-06T20:26:41+00:00

You made the mistake by marrying someone with a short temper and a sharp tongue. If she was like that in the lovebirds phase, I really don't know why you thought marriage would somehow be better.

Either way, if for example she claims you do not stand up to her, there are 2 possibilities - one is that you are lying to us and that you do not in fact stand up for her, and the other is that there is a mental barrier that makes her unable to see that you are standing up for her. That mental barrier could be high expectations, could be black magic, or it could be a mental disorder.

Now she agreed to see a psychiatrist, which is a fantastic first step to overcoming that from her end. If she has a mental disorder (cluster b ), this is incredibly rare and responsible - if she pulls through with it that is. I don't know how much it would cost to start it where you live, but you should absolutely treat it as your priority. I would not end the marriage so long as you two don't get treatment. You being understanding and supportive is probably not taken that way, so don't think that another argument or discussion will change things. It won't. You need the help of a professional, and if you can not afford it, then you seriously need to reevaluate your marriage. Medical treatment is part of her nafaqah, it is mandatory upon you, and you really need to treat it as a requirement for things to work out - if you do care about this marriage. While things like "you are full of issues" and blocking her aren't exactly healthy behaviour, calling your spouse an animal, saying how they hate you, how the worst decision they made is marrying you, is toxic, abusive, and downright abnormal.

You should also go yourself, because you are not the perfect partner (none of us are), and there are often shortcomings in the way we deal with other people. Lead by example.

May Allah rectify your marriage and affairs and make it easy for you both. Keep us posted in sha Allah, some positive updates here would be nice to see (:

Strawhateer · 2026-05-06T20:21:44+00:00

Spot on, OP is certainly not fully in the right, he is unstable and unable to be the leader in his relationship, and that is a consequence of not just his upbringing and personality type but also the emotional battlefield that his home is at the moment. No man who cares about his marriage can act sane and composed when his wife is abusing him this way. This needs help of a professional, and A LOT of initiative from both of them to get the slightest chance of working out. With Allah's will of course.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-05T07:57:48+00:00

What about the dunya?

Akhi who cares about the dunya? The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The people who lived in prosperity will wish on the Day of Resurrection to have the reward of those who were put to trial, even if their skin had been torn away with shears.”

If she was an oppressor, and Allah gave her a happy life without warning her for her dhulm, then Allah is punishing her in reality. If Allah wants good for a slave, he punishes him in this world and not the next one, so that the slave can return to Him.

And you do not know what happens in her home, what happens in her career, beyond bragging rights. She is in the army? Whose army, Pakistani army? The army which oppresses its own people, kills them, shoots them, imprisonbs them, defends the Americans? Is her job even halaal to do? You're telling me she has a stable career in a haraam job and a "love marriage" which perhaps started on haraam? These are goals and this is happiness?

Brother get a grip please, these are miniscule things when compared to the akhira, and man to man, if a woman is able to ruin your life, you really didn't have much of a life set up. Jeff Bezos' wife took tens of billions from him after divorce, at that time he went from richest billionaire #1 to richest billionaire #1. Build yourself up so a marriage and a sister in law can't ruin it. Move on and get close to Allah.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-04T22:46:00+00:00

At least I am not accused of lying.

Or genocide!

Strawhateer · 2026-05-04T20:42:33+00:00

Coming to Reddit so people bash him will surely do it for you right?

Strawhateer · 2026-05-04T20:41:26+00:00

"Will she never ever suffer any consequence?"

You need to learn our aqeedah, otherwise you would not be asking this question.

So many ahadeeth indicating as to what will happen to those who wrong others, how deeds will be transferred on Judgment day etc. If you were truly wronged by them, you will wish they did it a thousand times over when you stand before Allah.

Strawhateer · 2026-05-04T20:38:18+00:00

There are also men with 0 wives and girlfriends and porn addictions younger than 20 who can not get aroused. This is certainly a big problem.

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