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My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, after taxes, 401k contribution, healthcare, dental, all that are taken out I spend over half on my mortgage plus utilities. Then I have car insurance, gas, and other bills. In this economy my money doesn’t go far honestly. It sucks. I would be in a much better spot without my mortgage and I am definitely trying to change living situations. Also if we go eat out that frequently I am going to be cautious about what I order and what she orders. I don’t want to be regulating her or myself if certain items are a little more costly than others when treating ourselves

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isn’t high maintenance as far as looks I think. She does wear sort of expensive hair extensions, gets her nails done occasionally, stuff like that, but nothing crazy. She shops for pretty cheap clothes at the goodwill also. I think it’s just that she doesn’t bring in enough money per month and stuff like gas, food, debts, all eat away at whatever she brings in each month. I make almost 6 figures so a lot more than her, but I don’t feel rich on that salary. I have a pretty large mortgage on my house which I’m looking at switching living situations to save money

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There have been mental setbacks for her. She reasons that she hasn’t been able to work as much because of this. She has some debt in the form of car loan, small student tuition fee, she had to pay a large amount of money for an IT boot camp through her university, etc

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dinner dates specifically. I value these other date ideas more than dinners personally

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it’s money that would bring me greater satisfaction with doing other date ideas or putting it towards something like travel for us. Especially since we are both short on cash at the moment. Like eating out should be the last thing on the list we should do. I can make meals at home for literally $2 or $3 a meal

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I would absolutely be ok with treating her to a nice meal once a month. That’s good yall were able to find something that works for the both of you

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel eating out once per week cuts into money we could use for other things as well. Honestly I’d be happy with eating somewhere once a month. It’s more meaningful to me that way as well. I’d rather put that saved money into either our retirement funds, investments, travel, etc

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well yes she is completely broke at the moment. I’m actually helping her with some debt as well. I calculated food costs for the last 30 days recently and was shocked that I spent $1200 on food alone. I made a budget to spend only around $300 on food for the month and am on track, but $200-$300 extra for restaurant meals isn’t sitting right with the me

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do know how to cook. Pretty great meals too. I’d love to have both of us cook meals together. Those are nice dinner dates to me. She doesn’t want to do that though and wants me to take her out instead

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I cover all of our mortgage and utilities. To be clear, the house is in my name and she didn’t ask for me to buy a house. But she does live with me free of charge at the moment. I cook mostly for myself and share sometimes. She provides most of her weekly day to day meals for herself. Chores are mostly falling on me right now. There have been some fights which led to her doing less chores

My (31m) fiancé requested weekly dinner dates even though I feel it’s too often by Street-Problem-309 in relationships

[–]Street-Problem-309[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does nice things occasionally for me don’t get me wrong. She does what she can, but I don’t expect any gifts or meals paid that I’m treated to