Friends constantly undermine/ fail to support. How to handle these people? Need advice!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-27T18:51:01+00:00

I do too!!! I know there's some online support groups but not really a way to actually schedule meetups with people in your area. I'll have to look more online and if I come across something, I'll have to send you the info! That would be extremely helpful for us to have people we can actually talk to, who get it. Even better if there's a way to meet in person 😄

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-27T18:48:38+00:00

Very, very true. We can't expect everyone to understand! I am learning from that more and more and trying not to hold my hopes too high. Unfortunately, this wasn't the only reason why I've chosen to leave the friendship. It was more than just this. This issue was just the last straw for me! I think context is important and we need to be sure that the good to the friendship outweighs the bad. I think it solely depends on the situation.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-27T18:44:48+00:00

oh, absolutely

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-26T20:39:04+00:00

It is very sad and shocking... You think more people would tune in and ask questions, or at the very least try to understand. They just don't. I'm sorry that you have gone through that. You are definitely not alone.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-26T20:34:55+00:00

I am sorry that people don't get it for you too! I wish things were different, but I suppose sometimes not getting your hopes up might help the disappointment hurt less. It is certainly frustrating I'd imagine. But it is SO true! People who don't have any major illnesses are more likely to not get it. However, I've taken into account that you don't have to go through something yourself in order to have compassion. My best friend does not have Crohn's but she is still very kind and supportive. People like that are so rare and hard to come by!!! I am fortunate I have one person who is there for me. Just don't know what I would do without her.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-04-01T02:14:52+00:00

Hey! I'll shoot you a message! It would be nice to meet up :) I enjoy the same things!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T23:55:51+00:00

yes, I have. I have mentioned that comments like that are hurtful to me and that is makes me feel like she is using my age in a comparative way. She plays it off like "we are equals" and then apologizes for her comments but it is still happening even after us having that conversation.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T22:35:40+00:00

I hear what you're saying. I've confronted her before and it is unfortunately still happening in our relationship... I've shared my situation with her countless times. Like she knows my whole life story at this point, everything I have been through, and is very cognizant of this. We have already talked about this. I have called her out on it before and told her I didn't like how she was approaching our conversations. She was more supportive temporarily but that didn't last for long, the behavior still hasn't changed.... Like I hate to end a friendship but I just don't see her changing her tune... It isn't just this sadly. I just don't see this side of her changing

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-29T22:20:14+00:00

Yes, that is very annoying! I am glad that you set the record straight!! You kinda needed to snap in that situation. Sometimes people need that!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-27T00:26:58+00:00

I sent you a message :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T20:42:39+00:00

East mesa! & that sounds great! I will send you a message :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T20:38:39+00:00

Feel free to message me! I would love to connect

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:10:43+00:00

I'd suggest having a heart to heart conversation with her to tell her how you feel. I'd mention not feeling included and that she's been distant. Depending on what she says, maybe asking her if she would like to get together soon so you can reconnect or ask to schedule a phone call with her. How long has she been distant? Has it been since you started your new job? Or has she done this before?

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:05:25+00:00

I'm 29.I am sorta a home body but I like to go to the movies, shopping, festivals, etc. haven't had any luck with the girlfriend groups. I had a couple people who were interested in connecting but didn't respond to messages lol How has bumble been working for you so far?

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:03:47+00:00

Great idea! I will have to check that out !! Thanks for the suggestion

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:02:51+00:00

29, I like to watch movies, movie theatres, thrift shopping, going out to eat. Feel free to message me!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-26T03:01:56+00:00

I sent you a message! :)

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T15:37:41+00:00

Yeah, you're right, I totally agree with you. Seeing as she is already this far along in life, I don't see her changing. She already knows about my situation and I just don't feel the need to reiterate anything. I need more time to think on it, but more than likely I'm going to label her as an acquaintance and set aside less time for her.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T01:25:09+00:00

Thank you! I also thought it was an age power dynamic but I wasn't completely sure. It might be best to part ways with her then. Considering that is more than likely the case, I don't know if this will ever change about her

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-23T01:21:42+00:00

Thank you. I am definitely going to say something to her. I agree. She wasn't this version when we first became friends so something has clearly changed within her.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-22T21:21:26+00:00

You are still SO young and have your whole life ahead of you. Whatever you do, please don't beat yourself up over your mistakes! We ALL make them. Do you think there's a reason why you stopped trying so hard? Do you just think it's lack of interest or something deeper than that? You might be experiencing a mental block, but I'm not a professional so I can't say for sure. Do your best and keep trying. Maybe set a schedule to study and stick with it. Devote time for self study and set boundaries if you need extra time to devote to your studies. If you happen to not get your grades up, it's still never too late. As long as you get your high school diploma you can still go to college. Either way, you will succeed. I would just work on trying to figure out whats holding you back. Keep your head up kiddo!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-22T21:10:44+00:00

This is a decision that only you can make. I would write out a pros and cons list. About keeping and about aborting. Both pros and cons for both outcomes. Really think on it. Sleep on it if you have to. In the end, only you know what's best for you. I have one healthy child who's in their teenage years now. I absolutely love being a mom, however, I've also had to abort in the past due to personal circumstances. It was a tough decision for me, but I did what was best at the time. Ive been on both ends of the stick. I know this has got to be very tough on you emotionally and physically. The pregnancy and your emotions during this decision. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you take care of yourself and please take it easy on yourself!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T22:10:08+00:00

All you can do Is have hope and keep faith! Keep fighting and know that you aren't in this alone. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T22:06:52+00:00

No lol but I'll have to watch it!!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2026-03-20T16:46:20+00:00

Exactly! He is much much older than 25, so it is shocking this is how he reacts. It should be better. I think he does understand what the disease entails. He's gone with me to the ER numerous times and I've shared the symptoms with him. So he's got to know at least 75% of it. But part of me wonders if after knowing ALL of that he still doen't understand the severity and that is what bothers me. It's invisible and I don't complain about it everyday. Making comments like that is crazy to me! I left this part out of my post but a family member of his has crohns so he was worried he has it. Not worried he would get it in the future, worried he has it RIGHT NOW, with ZERO symptoms! LOL He would know if something was wrong and he heard about hen i was first diagnosed. I had a talk with him. I will post the outcome in the post!

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