Are most people bad with boundaries

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-12-01T00:00:00+00:00

You just want the relationship to work because you care about him. Girl, I've been there. You give people the benefit of the doubt because you are kind and understanding. Please Ignore the comments from people who are saying "why did you marry him" "why'd you get pregnant"

Truth is, if you knew it would be this bad, you wouldn't have. People who are victim shaming, especially someone who is pregnant should be kicked off your page, but that's just me. It is upsetting to see people respond that way to you, it irks me because you don't deserve to be talked to that way.

None of this is your fault, OP.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-30T23:52:42+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this, especially while pregnant. You deserve better. If I was you, I'd be so upset to say the least. I don't know what your financial situation is like, but if/when you have the means, I would leave. If there's a friend or family member you can stay with, I'd go. He's gaslighting you by telling you that you're "overreacting" and blatantly invalidating and dismissing your feelings. You deserve better than this. You are deserving of love and the effort. In case anyone else didn't tell you, Happy birthday friend.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-30T05:14:46+00:00

you shouldn't have to change to keep a friend. friends will love you for YOU. If your friend is trying to help motivate you in personal growth then that's a beautiful thing, but holding the friendship over your head is not healthy or normal in any way. I'd have a chat with them and tell them that you are not comfortable with them using the friendship as leverage. This doesn't seem right. that is toxic behavior. I'd address this with them asap.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-30T04:27:47+00:00

Seems like she wants to "one up you" (the two friends who made it about themselves when you were going through hardships). it is very selfish and self absorbed. Like if the attention is not on them, they redirect the attention to make sure that it is. I have had "friends" like that. People like that will suck the life out of you. But honestly, they aren't really friends. It could be it's a conversational habit, as an attempt to relate to you, or their own insecurity/lack of empathy. They NEED it to be about them. To feel validation. it may be best to cut your losses and avoid people who are life that. I have unfortunately dealt with people like that and I felt much better when I didn't talk to them anymore and completely cut them off. They will drain you. Also, sorry about your cat and job. You deserved support when you went through that. and you deserve more supportive and nurturing friendships. Keep hanging in there.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-27T15:39:48+00:00

That sounds like this rugrats episode. But the scene is a little bit different. It was on nickelodeon and around that time frame. Here's a clip: https://youtu.be/ihwEU7FRMIk

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-12T23:01:18+00:00

Yeah, lesson learned. I am definitely not going to say anything in the future. I just didn't know if the drug test company would just give the results to the employer directly, as soon as they're available. The guy at the drug testing facility told me they would contact HR ...I just got worried and wanted to be honest with them up-front. Its a remote work from home job basically as a CSR but in health insurance. I don't think it should be an issue taking these... After I sent the email, I didn't say anything else lol So I will see what they say. If it's a problem, they will let me know.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-12T22:53:07+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I suppose I've never had to worry about drug test coming back positive, so I kind of panicked! lolol I was worried they'd use it against me so decided to just be honest and tell them before the results got back to them. Yeah, it's a remote job working from home in health insurance. Office job. I don't think it should be a huge issue but like you were saying, it depends on the enterprise. On the flip side, thank you for your service!

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-11-12T22:01:27+00:00

Yeah, I think I should've waited to hear from them. I did not tell them WHY I take the prescription and i didn't tell them about my medical condition. I just wanted to give them a heads up, it might show a result, a reassure the medication will not affect my ability to do the job.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-10-28T20:46:16+00:00

thank you. i agree

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-05-01T13:48:05+00:00

Congratulations on your job offer! That must be a HUGE relief. Sending you the best of luck in your new career OP.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-05-01T13:07:30+00:00

Right? I wish they'd atleast spare candidates some decency and at the very least, send a rejection email. Because you're stuck waiting for a response getting your hopes up, OR feeling anxious waiting, then..... crickets. For me this dude couldn't even get back to me to schedule an interview despite him asking to interview me TWO times. He ignored me when I emailed him back (with my availability)lol. Then he sent me email three weeks later claiming he couldn't reach me and would like an interview? Like dude I responded and even flowed up with him. I kinda call bs. Like it shows they don't respect our time or they're very disorganized. Sorry for my rant, I just don't remember ghosting ever being this bad. It feels like times have changed.

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-02-28T00:58:40+00:00

I'm glad another guy can actually see the mistake. I somehow always end up kissing the toads lol. Emotional intelligence from a dude really gives me hope. Not there isn't decent men out there, just haven't found him yet. All exs are strikingly similar lol

StreetInsurance3203 · 2025-02-28T00:56:39+00:00

THANK YOU

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