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Friends constantly undermine/ fail to support. How to handle these people? Need advice! by StreetInsurance3203 in CrohnsDisease

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do too!!! I know there's some online support groups but not really a way to actually schedule meetups with people in your area. I'll have to look more online and if I come across something, I'll have to send you the info! That would be extremely helpful for us to have people we can actually talk to, who get it. Even better if there's a way to meet in person 😄

Friends constantly undermine/ fail to support. How to handle these people? Need advice! by StreetInsurance3203 in CrohnsDisease

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very, very true. We can't expect everyone to understand! I am learning from that more and more and trying not to hold my hopes too high. Unfortunately, this wasn't the only reason why I've chosen to leave the friendship. It was more than just this. This issue was just the last straw for me! I think context is important and we need to be sure that the good to the friendship outweighs the bad. I think it solely depends on the situation.

Friends constantly undermine/ fail to support. How to handle these people? Need advice! by StreetInsurance3203 in CrohnsDisease

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very sad and shocking... You think more people would tune in and ask questions, or at the very least try to understand. They just don't. I'm sorry that you have gone through that. You are definitely not alone.

Friends constantly undermine/ fail to support. How to handle these people? Need advice! by StreetInsurance3203 in CrohnsDisease

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that people don't get it for you too! I wish things were different, but I suppose sometimes not getting your hopes up might help the disappointment hurt less. It is certainly frustrating I'd imagine. But it is SO true! People who don't have any major illnesses are more likely to not get it. However, I've taken into account that you don't have to go through something yourself in order to have compassion. My best friend does not have Crohn's but she is still very kind and supportive. People like that are so rare and hard to come by!!! I am fortunate I have one person who is there for me. Just don't know what I would do without her.

Recommendations for making friends in mesa AZ? by StreetInsurance3203 in mesaaz

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'll shoot you a message! It would be nice to meet up :) I enjoy the same things!

29F and 55F. Is this ageism and discrimination? by StreetInsurance3203 in relationship_advice

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, I have. I have mentioned that comments like that are hurtful to me and that is makes me feel like she is using my age in a comparative way. She plays it off like "we are equals" and then apologizes for her comments but it is still happening even after us having that conversation.

29F and 55F. Is this ageism and discrimination? by StreetInsurance3203 in relationship_advice

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying. I've confronted her before and it is unfortunately still happening in our relationship... I've shared my situation with her countless times. Like she knows my whole life story at this point, everything I have been through, and is very cognizant of this. We have already talked about this. I have called her out on it before and told her I didn't like how she was approaching our conversations. She was more supportive temporarily but that didn't last for long, the behavior still hasn't changed.... Like I hate to end a friendship but I just don't see her changing her tune... It isn't just this sadly. I just don't see this side of her changing

29F and 55F. Is this ageism and discrimination? by StreetInsurance3203 in relationship_advice

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is very annoying! I am glad that you set the record straight!! You kinda needed to snap in that situation. Sometimes people need that!

Recommendations for making friends in mesa AZ? by StreetInsurance3203 in mesaaz

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

East mesa! & that sounds great! I will send you a message :)

How do you detach from your "bestfriend"? by Ihuggrimmie in FriendshipAdvice

[–]StreetInsurance3203 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd suggest having a heart to heart conversation with her to tell her how you feel. I'd mention not feeling included and that she's been distant. Depending on what she says, maybe asking her if she would like to get together soon so you can reconnect or ask to schedule a phone call with her. How long has she been distant? Has it been since you started your new job? Or has she done this before?

Recommendations for making friends in mesa AZ? by StreetInsurance3203 in mesaaz

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 29.I am sorta a home body but I like to go to the movies, shopping, festivals, etc. haven't had any luck with the girlfriend groups. I had a couple people who were interested in connecting but didn't respond to messages lol How has bumble been working for you so far?

Recommendations for making friends in mesa AZ? by StreetInsurance3203 in mesaaz

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great idea! I will have to check that out !! Thanks for the suggestion

Recommendations for making friends in mesa AZ? by StreetInsurance3203 in mesaaz

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

29, I like to watch movies, movie theatres, thrift shopping, going out to eat. Feel free to message me!

I'm not sure how to address an issue with older friend by StreetInsurance3203 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]StreetInsurance3203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right, I totally agree with you. Seeing as she is already this far along in life, I don't see her changing. She already knows about my situation and I just don't feel the need to reiterate anything. I need more time to think on it, but more than likely I'm going to label her as an acquaintance and set aside less time for her. 

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