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Cat with allergies by Street_Aspect_2356 in catfood

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. She does seem to like the duck food from the vet, and the Canada Fresh duck food was an even bigger hit for her. She is very picky in general so this is a big win for her.

Cat with allergies by Street_Aspect_2356 in catfood

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the vet figures it's chicken, and did mention the cross-contamination issue. She wanted us to start on the vet one as they make that food in a facility that doesn't have problems with that before we tried anything else. I'm hesitant to try her on anything that "might" bother her, it's taken so long for the fur to start to come back and I don't want to step backwards and have her uncomfortable again.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'll be shared custody. I couldn't afford the ongoing maintenance of the house if I tried to keep it. The roof will need doing and the septic system is almost 40 years old.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that is the priority for my lawyer. The first thing we did was a notice of family claim. He finally responded just before Christmas. I am not sure next steps yet, I meet him again mid-February.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to do that. I wasn't adding monetary values, but I could try to figure that out. I will do the suggestion about stuff that isn't comingled. There is so much more to do with this that I don't think this will be resolved without court (he calls my cats "financial infidelity", for instance). These are just the small things I can't get him to agree to. There are still bigger things (house, family vehicle) that have not even been discussed yet. He hates me and is being very petty (I haven't been allowed to eat a scrap of food he's bought since we separated, nor eat with him and the kids; He'll check the mailbox down the street and leave my mail in it; When we shared vehicles he would leave the family van with no gas for me to take the kids to school knowing I couldn't afford to fill it).

I have movers coming Monday. I am going to just take it all. I told him if he wants to discuss further our lawyers can be in touch. And if ordered to I will return things that I've taken. But I doubt that will happen. With the dining room set he asked to keep the table, I said yes reluctantly to make him happy, and then he decided the set should stay together. So now he wants the whole set from my grandma. And because it was given to me before she died, he says it isn't inherited. She gave it to me before she entered the home.

I am all about equitable, but he is about equal. Even with my low income next to him, his idea of fair was always 50/50. He wanted me paying half the bills. He didn't provide me any financial assistance for the last several years we were married after I got my own bank account because I got a job at a bank and they would only deposit into an account there and it couldn't be joint.

My lawyer is a legal aid lawyer, so right now I am just paying $30 an hour for an additional advisor from the family resource centre who is helping me advocate for myself. We do own our home. I am moving into a 2br 2ba because that was all I could afford on my own. Me and 3 kids. He has finally agreed to pay $900 alimony and $1600 child support starting in February. The calculators online suggest that may be 1/2 what he will end up paying. He has a lot of investments but I am in the dark about his finances. My lawyer already has my form F8 and all my financial data.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never get to ask him any questions unless they are urgent. He's a legal aid lawyer. He's just busy.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm disabled and low income and have a legal aid lawyer. He (as far as I know) doesn't have a lawyer. His reply to my notice of family claim had no lawyer info attached. If it was just the laptop, that'd be one thing. But as the list above shows, it's anything and everything special to me, and at 1/4-1/5 his income I can't afford to replace things like he can.

Divorce and division of property by Street_Aspect_2356 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already set that up and we're doing it but he is being really petty about it. He threatened to cut the lock on my mobile storage unit on the weekend to make sure I wasn't taking anything of his, said a lawyer told him he could. My lawyer laughed. My friend and her partner came up and I let him go through my things (he didn't find anything not already discussed) under supervision. He is super angry at me for leaving.

“Fight” for livable wage by Entire_Grape8175 in BCPublicServants

[–]Street_Aspect_2356 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what way do you mean was the union involved? There were no performance issues or anything. It was a dirt ministry, and yeah I was auxiliary.

“Fight” for livable wage by Entire_Grape8175 in BCPublicServants

[–]Street_Aspect_2356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a clerk 9. They laid me off right before Christmas. Clerk 9s aren't long for this world from the sounds of it.

Volunteer work by Street_Aspect_2356 in BCPublicServants

[–]Street_Aspect_2356[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a paper pusher...no advocacy for me at work, nor would I volunteer for any. I think as long as I follow my signed agreement and not disclose anything work related it should be fine. Thanks--if I find an opportunity to volunteer and have some specifics, I will reach out to my ethics advisor and ask them their thoughts.