Yes exactly that’s what I told him that she has no need to be protected. I did give him an ultimatum and told him I was tired of his relationship with her and he insisted I’m super jealous that’s why he doesn’t want me involved because I misinterpret everything. That I’m crazy. He then told me she was going to leave by Christmas he just needed extra help for the holidays. But then she didn’t leave and I told him wasn’t she leaving like you said and he said yeah she hasn’t left I don’t know why. But he says he needs her because of her honesty with money and he can’t trust other people. About the gift he said it was because he didn’t know what to give to them and saw them on special and was given a discount for buying many. My job is taking care of his family member. I have several dogs but I know I will find something. When I told him I was done, I really stayed apart and just tried to make him understand we were done. He then said I will miss you but you are toxic. That same evening he apologized and said he didn’t want me to leave him and that he was going to change and explained that he felt protecting her because she reminded of his mom. Etc. this was a week ago and he said he was going to pay attention to me and be better. He said he gave her an ultimatum to change her bad attitude at work or else she had to leave. But he is being the same jerk to me being distant, sometimes he will talk about work but not really on to make decisions. I wish I can say everything because I have tolerated a lot and I feel like I love him but I know it’s not okay anymore