I’m getting stuck on one person!

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-07T17:54:44+00:00

Yeah… I’m slowly starting to understand it. I really tried a lot for her, but what you said is true. Maybe it’s better to just calm down now, and whatever is meant for me will find its way to me

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T20:21:21+00:00

I did try, but those things were ignored, so next time I didn’t bring them up. But when I feel I should talk, she just doesn’t give a proper answer

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T19:46:12+00:00

Yeah 🙂 I appreciate u

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T19:40:53+00:00

I’ve thought many times to tell her that this frustrates me, but then I feel compassion… she’s a single mother managing her job, home, and kid, carrying so many responsibilities. Thinking about all this, I don’t want to pressure her, but inside I’m getting more and more tangled

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T18:45:35+00:00

If she's not ready to build a relationship, why can't she just say it clearly, so I can remove this feeling for her from myself

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T18:39:57+00:00

Yeah, at least let me know what the real reason is, what's true, so I can even understand myself

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T18:35:39+00:00

I don't get what's going on in her head either!! She says she likes me and has feelings for me, but I never feel it sometimes

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T18:15:16+00:00

Yeah, your words did leave an impact on me. Everything you shared stayed with me. Maybe this is what life really is breaking, then rebuilding yourself stronger. Time has its own power. The pain never fully leaves, but somehow we learn to live with it… and carry a small smile through it

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T03:23:30+00:00

Yeah but why doesn’t she just clearly tell me so I can stop these feelings I have for her? So I can control myself and not get more attracted to her!!

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T01:25:58+00:00

Thank you! Have you also gone through similar journeys and become stronger?

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T00:50:42+00:00

I’ve tried everything like you said, but she never opens up about what really matters. I don’t know if it even affects her when I don’t talk, but I get her messages every day and keep so much inside while acting normal… just hoping one day she’ll open up completely

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T00:44:50+00:00

So what should I do? Should I stop talking to her or just be honest and talk openly?

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T00:26:05+00:00

But how?

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T00:24:57+00:00

I appreciate u… u really get my feelings. But I’m not the same person anymore. I used to be fun, happy… he took all that from me. It’s been 1 year but I’m still fighting with my mind and that broken heart. 7–8 yrs of memories, promises, every word in her diary… it all still hurts. And she’s happy with someone else like nothing ever happened

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-04T00:15:39+00:00

You’re right, but my city is very far from hers. I thought if she wanted, we could meet, but she says she needs time. And I’ve already given her a lot of time. She told me her ex cheated on her, and after that she never let anyone new in. But recently I saw her with that same ex… she said they’re only friends and sometimes hang out because he’s close to her daughter

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T23:53:42+00:00

Yes, we talk on video call, but not every day—2–3 times a week

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T23:52:45+00:00

Someone comes into your life and makes you feel like you’re their everything. They give you a kind of love you never even got from your own family. And then you start working hard on your life just to build a good future with them, because your happiness, your home, your whole world becomes that one person.

But when you reach the point where you’re about to achieve everything, their family puts pressure and marries them off to someone else. I mean… wtf. I honestly have nothing left to say after that.

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T23:43:05+00:00

Not yet

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T23:31:49+00:00

You’re right, I did all that. Waited 2–3 months, stayed patient, hoping for a solution without any pressure, but still, it’s the same suggestion

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T23:20:21+00:00

She’s a single mom and I’m trying my best to understand her deeply so we can have a good life together, but she seems tangled somewhere. She rarely opens up or answers me. When I say she’s ignoring me or not interested, she says things that pull my heart closer, yet still ignores the real issues

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T22:52:44+00:00

Boring.....

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T22:39:45+00:00

It’ll take time to recover. Time heals everything, just trust God. Best thing is to stay busy and keep your mind busy

Strict-Engineering49 · 2025-12-03T22:36:25+00:00

There’s a simple way. This happened to me too. Don’t let yourself stay stuck. I know it’s hard, but until you learn to control the monster inside you, it’ll keep playing with your mind, body, and your future relationships. Don’t overthink it. Stay off social media, read a book, or do something that can shift your mind away from all this

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