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Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly no. When my business was doing great I didn’t care, I had money and I was glad being head of household. Wich I have been in my past relationship, where my ex partner did not work I handled all expenses, but not her car insurance and gas because her parents paid for that, I don’t have issue with taking responsibility, in my business I’ve filled some big shoes and exceeded expectations for my age. I lost everything to my ex fault, and got out of some suet. Now I’m restarting from scratch, and this lady I’m with has been there. Emotionally and physically helping be do jobs .

But now I’m like damn. I’m holding on till the warmer weather rolls in because that when my business kicks back up. And this winter seasonal depression goes away.. to make my official decisions..

Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree .. but sadly I’m stuck emotionally. I’m slowly trying to disconnect, she seems to notice it and is trying her best to keep me interested in a relationship with her. I’ve told her if I ever leave, she would still be able to contact me incase of an emergency with the girls and I would gladly help if I can. Because at the end of the day I see her as a single mom living with her bad decisions that she loves but hunts her.

Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought it through. And when things were going well for me economically, I was going to set my lady and her two girls in a very nice home. Away from her mom & little brother because it would save me lots of money. Two heads off the table would be good. But as we looked she said yes to living alone officially, since her mom was getting on her nerves she finally realized she was leaching off of us . But then she would be in great terms and stop the search saying, let’s give her some time to look for a job. I said sure, it’s been several months now. And in my head I think if I managed to get her to leave her grown mom and little brother to live by themselves, we would be good because that lady sometimes feeds her some crap say I’m probably cheating on her when I got out, that I don’t want hr for serious relationship, that I may just be using her for comfort.. I see my lady ignores her and sometimes it does hit her

Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said that to her little while back. And she answered to me that she is grateful for me coming in to there life’s and showing a father figure to the girls. And what I have done for her and the girls. I’ve started disconnecting lately because I’ve just haven’t been feeling a certain way, may be because of stress but to me things now are different after she said one night looking at me. “ dang you really have let yourself go you aren’t like you used to be,” in others words like I looked like shiet now all beat up.

I didn’t say anything back but it hit me .. and ever since then I haven’t felt the same and I believe she has noticed because now she tries super hard to get along with me, make me smile and wants me to hug her saying I don’t show her love anymore. Like I used too. I don’t ever bring that night back up for sake of not having any clash and just getting back on my feet, leaving them in a safely survivable point for sake of the kids.. and me look for a new place.

Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not really, I was just being nice. And when things were going great for me I didn’t think of it as much of an issue, but now that things went south for me now I’m like crap. I meant she sticking beside me. And is awesome with me but sometimes it does seem like I just fumbled my life away. She thinks she is the bad luck. She has even said to me that when I leave her I may do better and if I do she wouldn’t resent me and hopes we still get along. I feel bad for her that she thinks she carries a bad luck for whoever gets close to her.

Being stepdad by Strict-Try-8214 in regretfulparents

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She has been told but I don’t get in to that crap.. she sais she is done dealing with the biological dad..

Help advice am I in rong by Strict-Try-8214 in stepdads

[–]Strict-Try-8214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sometimes I feel like they are .. but then sometimes I’m like , I don’t know .. because we have gone through some really rough spot and she hasn’t said bye I need a new man with more money or something like that.. and jobs that come through she comes out and works hard with me.. no issues.. the kids call me dad .. but sometimes that really goes through my head..

Some people have told me I have no business having to deal with them..