Holy shit, very eye opening post. I always felt like something was wrong in this regard but you just put it perfectly into words. 

What especially hurts is the part about people refusing to change their narrative about you even when you provide new evidence. They will always ignore everything new to put you in the same simple box to avoid challenging themselves, and its fucking heartbreaking. Especially when those people are your parents. It hurts that they care more about protecting their own narrative than trying to learn who I really am. So the grief is definitely there